My boyfriend was caught cheating.

My boyfriend was caught cheating and I was very hurt. So I called and said a lot of angry things on his voice mail and through text. Its been a month and he hasn't called to explain or try to explain anything. I'm so hurt by this situation its like he doesn't even care.

Should I call him and see what he says about the situation?

Updates:
Thanks everyone for your comments and advice. I just want to let everyone know that I did not call him. In fact I changed my number so he could never contact me ever. So I have moved on and looking back at this post didn't know what I was thinking lol

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  • One of two things is going on:

    1. He decided he was through with you before he cheated and he's moved on and waiting for you to do the same. If that's the case, calling him won't do any good.

    2. He's waiting for you to beg. He knows he screwed up but he's not man enough to admit it and he thinks that eventually you'll forgive him and beg him to come back to you then he won't have to deal with much more than a lip-service apology. If that's the case, calling him will only help if you're ready to play on his terms.

    If I were you, I'd get dolled up and hit the club. There are lots of other fish in the sea.

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  • Why would you want to hear his story (assuming he even tells you the real story)?

    Is there some condition under which you might forgive his cheating and assume that it was a one off thing, it was your fault and will never happen again?

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  • NO DO NOT CALL HIM HE IS A FUCKING ASSHOLE. MOVE ON! GOOD LUCK

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  • NOOOOO! Just move on...

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  • kool good 4 u

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  • I would go screw a bunch a guys and shove it in his face. unless you really want you guys back together, which would be stupid of you. or at least "say" you screwed a bunch of guys. this really eat back at him and tell him that they were all better than he could have ever been in bed. if you want him back then try contacting him, if he's willing to talk then very very lucky him.

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  • Do not call him. End all contact and leave it at that. If he really wants you back, he'll have to work a LOT harder than just calling you.

    He would set up a really nice to meet, get you a present or a few and go on both knees and beg you to come back. No, do not call him. He's the one at fault.

    He's probably been with this girl or a few in a month possibly, why call him? Why open that hurt up again? you have not healed yet. When my ex cheated on me, I stopped all contact. He did not show you any respect or consideration for your feelings then, what makes you think he will suddenly do so after just a month?I'd just ignore his calls or texts if I were you.

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  • honestly, don't call him. it's obvious that he didn't care enough of the relationship to consider calling you. it's been a month and I guess that at the time I'm writing this its been longer. forget about it and move on with your life. you deserve someone out there who wouldn't cheat on you on the drop of a hat...someone who respects you enough not to. and if the sorry bastard comes back DON'T UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES even if his mother dies and he wants you to comfort him, do you take him back. and not because you want to be vindictive but because there will ALWAYS be the doubt at the back of your head wanting to know whether or not he is cheating on you at this very minute. you don't need that

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  • So sorry to here it. :( Ok now real talk. His silence is YOUR ANSWER. DO not call him. If he was sincere and serious about being faithful he would have 1) not cheated or 2) admitted he made a horrible mistake and CALL YOU and beg YOU for forgivness weeks ago. Delete his number , cut contact, and work on healing process of moving forward. Remember actions speak louder than words. Guys (correction some guys) will say anthing to make us girls swoon and take them back, but what count's is their actions. His inaction is his answer. You can find someone better that's worthy of you.

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  • I caught my ex cheating on me as well. I suggest you don't contact him and pretend like you moved on and don't give a sh*t about him because if you do, he will most likely enjoy it. He cheated on you and the girl he cheated with either doesn't know or doesn't care about you. You don't need the answers... he's done with. He screwed up a person who wouldn't do that to him but he did that to you! Sorry I don't think any asshole is worth that much... I never cheated and always cared for that ass. I admit I have good memories too and probably love him but I hate him and have doubts about him all the time. It's not worth going back to when you know too much and can't forgive and forget. You'll just get mad at every girl he talks to... it's better to find someone new (when you're fully over him) who wouldn't cheat on you and you wouldn't have doubts in the back of your mind. Hope that helps.

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  • I think that he has made his point known by not contacting you at all. He doesn't care about you, and that is why he cheated. He hasn't contacted you to explain himself because he doesn't care enough about you to feel he owes you any explanation.

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  • No its obvious he doesn't care to get you back or make things right so if someone doesn't want you f*** them and move on.

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  • There's a few reason's why men cheat, and one of them is that they're bored with their current partner. One of the things you should've NOT done is call him and leave that voicemail(s) and text(s). And, I definitely do not think you should call him. What's done is done. Neither you nor him can take it back. And, if it's been that long and he hasn't called, he's most likely over the relationship you two had together. Get on with your life. Who would want a man that cheats anyways?

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  • Nope. Dnt Do AnyThing Try To Get Over Him. I Mean Girl He Cheated On You Nd Didn't Even Check To See If Your Ok. That Alone Shows That He Don't Give A Shit About What He Did. I Was In THis Same Position. Nd I Went Running Back Like Your Doing Now All He's Going To Do Is Tell You Some Sad Excuses Nd Your Going To Get Back With Him Nd He's Going To Do It Again CHEAT ON YOU CONSTANTLY If You Be Weak Minded nd Vulnerable He's Going To Take Advantage Of You. Just Wait It Out. Find Some One Better That's Going To Treat You Right Its Not Worth The Pain. I Promise.

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  • No way! If he doesn't have the common decency to call you back after HE screwed up, then just forget about him.

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  • Fuck him... him not calling shows you that you are the last thing on his mind... apparently he's still tied up so better her than you

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  • Don't call him. He been cheating on you.

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  • He cheated, you caught him.

    Let it go, it's the only way you'll heal.

    You shouldn't put salt in your wounds by calling him, clearly he didn't dignify you with an excuse which is just plain inconsiderate, just like him cheating on you.

    Find someone who isn't a loser like he is.

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  • Wow, that is kind of a bummer as it would be nice to hear him say he was wrong even if you will never get back together with him. I doubt he doesn't care, but more likely that he knows he really messed up and doesn't want to hear anymore from you about how wrong he was. In the end we all want to feel like we are good people, so most of us go into denial when we do make mistakes and get called out on them. He's no different.

    I found out my ex-boyfriend had cheated on me but he was already breaking up with me at the time for bigger reasons. At one point, since he did actually feel bad about the whole break-up, I got him to admit to me he had cheated (he did not know I knew) and then I asked him to apologize to me as I felt it was only fair (I asked him in a non-threatening way, not in a angry demand). Though he was a pretty self-centered turkey he agreed that he should apologize and it felt good to hear that though the break-up was still really difficult and awful regardless.

    Not sure about calling him but if you do, make sure you are calm and ready to talk without yelling at him. If you are still angry with him, you might as well not call. Even though he was wrong no one wants to get yelled at over something they cannot change.

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  • NO! Don't call him. He'll be back. Don't worry. They always come back.

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  • If you already called and left voice mails then leave his ass alone. He's probably ignoring you. Dang can't you catch a hint?

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