I cheated on my boyfriend.

Question

I cheated on my boyfriend with 4 different guys. I don't know whether or not to tell him. If so, I don't know how to put it.

Why I cheated? I wasn't used to dating a nice guy. There wasn't much of an excitement there in the relationship.

I kind of feel bad about it all but it was fun while it lasted.

PHILR · Accepted Answer

you cheated , with 4 different guys same time in like gang bang or 4 different guys scattered out over how long you've been with this nice boring nice guy that you've managed to screw over so royally without a real soul wrenching remorse (kinda feel bad but not really type atitude and in addition quote:I kind of feel bad about it all but it was fun while it lasted. ) most likely not to long of a time your not expressing any real feelings for him at all : pardon me I take that back you did quote:"There wasn't much of an excitement there in the relationship."

meaning you weren't spreading your legs for him like you did the 4 you cheated on him with.

he wasn't getting sexual enough for you your personal sex life needed something so in stead of maybe coming onto him and getting him so turned on he's heeds to your sexual needs. instead you chose to to the supposed easy road and cheat.

your reason for cheating quote: I wasn't used to dating a nice guy

this nice guy probably treats you like royalty and amazingly it seems to be to good to be true to you so you reward this nice guy by cheating on him not jusy once but 4 times for all the good and nice things he's ever done to you or for you. boy were can he go to cashin his chips and see how blessed he is to have a girlfriend like you. probably one reason you haven't dumped him you in a way like his niceness but to chicken to tell him how you are and what you've done.

being this post is possibly over 1 month old heading to 2 months and no recent updates maybe we can assumme he either found out // you finally broke it off with him // or you chose to be vious to him and actually told him of your misdeeds.

as many other posters to this question has said he needs someone better than you . and in reality you don't deserve the true kind of love a guy like him can give. maybe you should move on to one of the 4 or more jerks you spread your legs for and have a jerk treat you like trash and all the other treats that guys like that provide in very short lived flings . that you would deserve.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Accepted Answer

And another slut that cheated and is the reason nice guys are few and far between. Every girl who asks "why can't I find a nice guy" I want you to turn and bitch slap your fellow females like this. Bitch slap them as payment for ruining perfectly nice guys by cheating on them and making them bitter or untrusting towards women.

As for you, oh QA, you should break up. Stop being a selfish slut and break up. You don't deserve him. You don't deserve him at all,

This is even more evidence to my whole "people should be able to look up other people and see their dating history and if they have cheated before or not cheated or been cheated on or whatever else" so that people can basically avoid such shallow selfish sluts, avoid the players, avoid the insane obsessive people, etc.

If he didn't want to break up, tell him how you've cheated on him with 4 other guys and he'll break up with you in a heartbeat.

Eiffelgirl21 · Accepted Answer

Tell him..and allow him to break up with you. Wow..this is why a lot of men are so scared of love these days..WTF is wrong with people...and nice guys? WTF, there is nothing wrong with nice guys..you are just a little whore..

Oh..sorry..I am being mean..Sorry. Ehh..Clearly it just wasn't meant to be with you and him..since you get bored and cheat on him. So, yeah, definitely dump him and tell him why..don't sugar coat it..because he might try to stay with you if he loves you..No, just blatantly tell him you aren't interested anymore...And, then, PLEASE do not cheat again. I am sick of coming across men who are hurt because a girl cheated, and treated him like crap...

Once again, I am sorry for being mean..I just don't understand you people...

ShootingStar5 · Accepted Answer

It's no wonder so many men are afraid to be nice guys. You're ruining it for the rest of us by turning nice guys into jerks. Try thinking of somebody other than yourself for a change. Your actions have repercussions that affect more than just you.

Please tell him and then leave him. If you can't be faithful to a nice guy then you shouldn't date one. Leave them for the girls who appreciate them. I think you should consider having only casual relationships until you're ready to be in a committed relationship.

Vasillilaw · Accepted Answer

Maybe you should tell him.  If you do you better tell him he deserves better and leave it at that.  Obviously you don't deserve someone nice.  If you don't tell him, which might be the better option, then you should just break up with him without causing him pain of you having cheated on him too.

ilyurbella · Accepted Answer

The only thing I heard from this is:

"I'm a slut and I can't help myself by get it in from other guys even though I have this amazing boyfriend who trust me and wants to be with me."

Karma will happen.

Pummel · Answer

I am in no way judging you, but what has me a little concerned is your professed age (25-29)... That is to old for a person to say "I was young and didn't know what it meant to be in love with one person"... And this guy of yours was willing to work on the problems that the two of you were going through, wow he seems like a mature and understanding young man... Oh no.. and then you took his heart and his trust and tossed them both in the dumpster when you decided to sleep with a person you work with...

young lady, there will come a day that you will reflect on all of the selfish, hurtful and mean spirited acts you committed in your past that if you are not born again with the character of Christ the Son of God of Abraham it will consume you completely

PhysGrad · Answer

Brava! Nicely done! Too cowardly to tell your boring boyfriend he's boring, and I guess he was, because not even cheating on him with one guy was enough excitement for you! And now, you're too much of a wuss to tell him his penis is going where four have gone before? And your single emotional response to all this is you "kind of feel bad about it"? You are the reason good men and good women don't meet. Do men everywhere a favor and never date again.

BC1001 · Answer

You don't feel bad. You didn't feel bad when you were sleeping with Tom, Dick, Harry and Tim. You only feel sorry because its eating u up inside. I wouldn't feel sorry for you if he called you a whore to your face. It pisses me off how females call guys cheaters and yet girls like you are worse.

muir567 · Answer

Ok you need to tell him cause when he finds out and trust me everyone finds out at one point you will hurt him extremely. Do the right thing and save him from more pain and you may be able to save what you have, or live with guilt every time he says love you. And trust me that will hurt you more

Iron9 · Answer

You ma'am is what I call a whore. "He's a nice guy" so you cheat on him. Modern day female logic. If he called you a slut, slept around, punched you in the face every now and then, then you'll love him and be loyal? Okay what ever you're into. But remember when you're ready to settle down, that same nice guy is who you'll be running after. But it would be too late bc you would have hurt him and turned him into a jerk. Honesty you're despicable. 4 guys? Tsk tsk

kngrus · Answer

Your gonna have to tell him, but I know it must feel horrible... But I do suggest you stop cheating, and if he can get over all that!? then he's got some will in him. And that means he loves you more than ever! If you don't feel the same then you have to just leave him, but he has the right to know, no matter how much it would brake him, he would prefer to know the reason.

Anonymous · Answer

You are a slut he doesn't deserve a girl like you. Besides the obvious cheating part I bet you probably got an std for having sex with those guys.
And poor guy thanks to you he probably will be so bitter that he will miss out on a nice lady that will actually treat him right. I hope he gets tested.

Delaisback · Answer

wow, you're the reason that guys turn to bad boys and destroy every girl in their path.  One day this will come back and bite you.

JSmuve · Answer

*facepalm* There you go guys. Straight from the (w) horse's mouth... she cheated because he was too nice and too boring. Moral of the story? Treat 'em like sluts and cheat on them before they can cheat on you. Better to break someone's heart then to have your heart broken, right? Right.

ilovemyjose101 · Answer

Can you like, give me his number so I can tell him?  Seriously, I hope you find it in your heart to do so...

Panzer103 · Answer

I need to find the question asking what a whore was and link it to hear. You're the reason why we don't trust you lot at all. Yeah everything is fine; nope. She's going at it with the dick variety pack in the back. Once you screw up (lol screw) and he finds out you'll be alone. As you should be. by the way that body won't be there forever. Then you'll truly have nothing.

Anonymous · Answer

Sad thing is.. selfish girls like you date good guys while good girls like me date jerks. Sigh.  Wonder why guys are afraid of committment.

Anonymous · Answer

you have a problem and need counseling. If he's a nice guy, you owe it to him to break up with him. if he won't agree to it, then tell him about the 5 guys and watch him change his opinion of you. He deserves better than you. You will break his heart which is better than ruining his life.

Shawzie · Answer

"This is over babe. I've been unfaithful and you deserve better. I wish you the best of luck but I'm going to break your heart now so I don't keep hurting you in the future."

Shaun · Answer

@update I'll do you a favor and call you a piece of garbage. Do you like being a total piece of trash? What's that like?

TheWhiteFreshPrince · Answer

Why you cheated? You are immature, mean, unfaithful, and a big fat Liar! LOL

Anonymous · Answer

Dude, you were boring so I banged four other dudes. I just wanted you to know since you say honesty is the best policy. And I figured we shouldn't date anymore either. Ciao.

Insaan · Answer

I always preached one thing regularly on gag. I. e being nice guy sux. I am thinking about changing myself now. I wish i could.  Now it's confirmed that why guys like me are single and virgin.

Anonymous · Answer

I really hope he doesn't find out and then kill you in a jealous rage... that would be terrible. Seriously.

Sweetheart64 · Answer

This guy does not deserve you, if you wanna act like you're single then grow some balls and be f***ing single. I hope karma comes and kicks you in the vagina... You do not deserve a nice guy at all...

jade_butterfly · Answer

you tell him sorry you wasted his time and let him move on with his life

LookatDuhDonkay · Answer

Hey nice guys, remember all my posts about getting screwed up for being nice? Yeah.

steveguitar · Answer

I want this and I want that, but also that and that. how can anybody trust you? you don't tell him, he'll find out somehow

dtaijo174 · Answer

haha at least you are consistant.  Let's aim for 12 guys in 1 yr.  Whadya say?

dtaijo174 · Answer

Can you at least just leave him so you don't end up giving him an STI or something..?

tmac725 · Answer

Wow... that's awful. Leave the poor guy because let's be honest you don't care about him if you keep cheating.

EngineeringStudent · Answer

Is the co-worker part of the 4 guys? Or did you cheat with 4 guys, then with a coworker?

Dom163 · Answer

Don't enter a relationship if you can't handle it tell him so he can move on with his life

SnackG · Answer

Tell him so he can find someone worth while to date. You deserve to be alone.

Billlewis · Answer

I love it that you cheated on him with so many different guys!

jenxxl · Answer

whoa 4 guys. break up with him. no offence but he seems too good for you

Vegvisir · Answer

Are you my ex? Yeah, tell him now and leave, save him the trouble

Anonymous · Answer

I hope that when he finally sees you for what you are. People like you don't deserve love, respect just bitterness and loneliness.

Anonymous · Answer

You are one horrible, sad person! You decided NOT to tell him? Then you're better off NOT dating FFS!!

Anonymous · Answer

Oh my God.  Bad flashback.  I sincerely hope he finds out.

EllaB · Answer

You don't deserve him. Tell him the truth and break it off.

dIO_oIb · Answer

At least tell him he should get tested.

ilovemyjose101 · Answer

You should tell him...

notentirelynuts · Answer

Come clean. It's the only way.

Metal189 · Answer

whatever happened here. this is an old question

okeydoke · Answer

You should tell him. And he should dunp you.

numerouno85 · Answer

Just tell him you love strange dick lol

Anonymous · Answer

Tell him and leave.

Notabadguy · Answer

Just breakup lol

I cheated on my boyfriend.

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