Men feel pushed out when a woman is pregnant sometimes, and when the baby is born too. I've even heard of men being jealous of the baby, they love it but are jealous. I've seen it on problem pages, talk shows online etc...
And women, we do change during pregnancy too sometimes, especially our first.
I don't ever agree with a person sitting around like a lost puppy waiting for the person who left them to come back. It's degrading usually. In this situation though, it's different. It's a stressful and emotional time for both of you and can cause different behaviour sometimes.
Don't keep texting him. Take a step back and let him think for a few days then invite him round to talk. Find out why he is unhappy and what has changed. See if it is things that can be worked on. If it can't be worked out though, do move on. While it's nice for kids to live with both parents, doing so when it's not a good relationship or stable and stays on instead of on and off can affect a child much more. It's not nice for a kid to grow up in that environment seeing that type of relationship.
Good luck.
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I'd like to start off by saying I'm sorry for what he did to you. He sounds like an irresponsible asshole. Unfortunately, a lot of BOYS these days do as your ex did. They acts as if you are their future, then they knock you up and leave. He will most likely not be their for your daughter/son and probably won't pay child support. I don't know why guys do it, but they do and it's heartbreaking. I hope that you can provide your child with the best possible future you can. You will have to be strong for the both of you. I hope that you find the man you're meant to be with who will treat you and your child with unconditional love and respect. I wish you the best.
it could be that he can't really afford to pay child support or even for the baby's expenses. he might have moved in with his sis to start helping to save up $. but he could resent u for having to pay child support. lots of people now can't even afford an extra $50 a month.
He's acting this way because of his own psychological issues. If he comes back, he comes back, and you can decide from there.
I was the child of a similar situation. DO NOT PURSUE HIM. What I recommend you do is make it clear to the child that the father left, however do not say that he didn't want the kid. Say that the father wasn't ready for a relationship. Also, do not give details of the father unless the child asks. I recommend you find a stable job, and be sure to collect child support. What he did is not okay. It is selfish, arrogant, and rude. He will be nothing but destructive in yours and your child's life.
Ass holes that can't stand responsibility I guess. Always the kids I feel sorry for though
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He needs to man up and learn to take responsibility. Pregnancy is not easy, you need all the support you can get. Spend time with family and friends whom you trust, pray for healing and a healthy baby, it will get better with time. Oh and don't forget to sue him for child maintenance.
It's not your fault, he's just being selfish and an immature brat.
Are you only 19 years old sweety?
Bc there's no contract I guess
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