Everything equal, who moves on faster in GENERAL, men or women?

Men or Women?
Let's say both were equally involved in the relationship.
I read an article once saying women moved on faster, but right after the break up, women are more intensely Hurt.

  • Men move of Faster.
    56%(22)43%(44)Vote35%(22)
  • Women move on Faster.
    31%(12)35%(36)Vote38%(24)
  • Other.
    13%(5)22%(22)Vote27%(17)
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Most Helpful Guy

  • It all depends. Whoever came to the decision to end the relationship will likely be the one to move on faster if they mentally prepared beforehand. If they broke up because they saw something wrong with the other person as a partner. If the relationship just got difficult and problems were unresolved which led to the break up... it's a toss up. Likely, neither person fully moves on for years, because the breakup only happened because of a lack of communication. Years go by. Both people mature and learn to communicate better. That door is still open.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Women i think.
    It is hard for us as well but we have girl friends who help us, guys who are there for us.
    But when i met that guy after break up he wasn't the same guy, I've known before. He was successful before break up and then suddenly lost interest in everything after it.
    He was funny before break up and then sentimental after that.
    He was self-confident before it and self-conscious after.
    I didn't know how much he loved me before we didn't break.
    It was 3 years ago and I am happy he is fine and happy now.

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What Guys Said 24

  • Women, without a doubt.

    This is mainly due to the fact that women do not have to actively 'seek out' men, since it's supposedly the man's job to initiate. So whenever there is a breakup, the woman gets approached/asked out within weeks, or even days of the breakup, usually by multiple men. Of course it's it'll be a rebound, but she is never out of options, which help her feel 'desired' and move on faster.

    In case of men, apart from the pain of the breakup (which obviously affects women too), they need to 'suck it up' and start seeking women, facing multiple rejections along the way. If they don't, they remain single. This can take a toll on their self-confidence.

    P. S. This does not apply to REALLY hot men.

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    • Not only do they get ask out but many women are encourage by their friends to have ONS/short flings to help with the grieving process and get over an ex.

  • I say other. Each person is entirely different in what they go through before breaking it off or moving on. Some wake up one day and just say I'm bored , time to break it off and move on. While other ( like me ) do everything imaginable to keep it alive and make it work until there is no other options left , so in the end I walk away with the knowing I gave my all with no regrets and no baggage

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  • I think men are hurt just as much as women in most cases, however, we tend not to dwell on it!

    For me it was quick, because I have a positive outlook in life. When my marriage ended, it did not make me want to go out and find someone new right away.

    I liked the idea of getting back to my roots and enjoying some time alone!

    Was I hurt that she cheated, hell ya. Was it the be all to end all... hell no!!!

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  • Men probably, we deal with a lot of shit in private, and we don't move on as fast as many girls think but probably still men

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    • On that logic, I'd agree that women move on quicker I think. Because we deal with heartbreak with friends (usually) we talk, have a bitch session, maybe kill them in the sims, eat some ice cream whatever and then we're done I guess. Whereas men, you usually are told you can't show emotions or cry so you deal internally and take longer?

    • @bbch25 Yeah that's a good point too

  • Definitely women. Men are just better at hiding it. Women brawl their eyes out some and then move on while I know guys who take months to actually move on when they were emotionally invested.

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    • Yeah this is what I thought, men are not that affected right after the break up, while us girls drown in our tears lol

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    • I would be affected. I would just show my family how it affected me, not you.

    • Agree completely

  • Utopia in no form exists neither would still be happy people always try to find away to make themselves victims of something if not sexism, then racism if not racism then being body size, if not that then something esle you get the point. Most people in a nut shell "me me me me me me me"

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  • Meh, having observed women in my social circle and at work- they're usually parting their legs for other dudes pretty quickly afterwards.

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    • Lmao you're funny!

    • How very dare you, I'm as dreary as an accountant!

  • Here's my line of reasoning: men tend to approach more, men tend to get rejected more, therefore men should be more accustomed to moving on and so would move on faster.

    But... after going through some opinions there is a good argument that women move on faster as they have more options to turn to.

    So my answer is going to be that men should move on faster and women can move on faster.

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  • Wants up with the generalizations Dildo? 😛 it depends on the person. Even if they don't show they are hurt they could still be hurting.

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  • C
    the person less invested in the relationship regardless of being male/female.

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  • I don't think you can make a general statement. It's on a case by case base.

    I think most people would say men, but men are also more likely to be the other extreme (not letting someone go, stalking, etc.)

    so I don't know

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    • Factor in:

      1. Getting a girlfriend is more difficult than it is for girls to get a boyfriend

      2. A lot of women are preparing months in advance looking for another man before they break up with you

      https://i.imgur.com/0EJzwpA.jpg

  • Men, probably. I think on average it's been established. I don't know if it's something to be proud of but hey whatever

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    • Nope. It's women actually.

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    • @BubbleBoy69 I've had enough of this conversation, it's taking too long to type out.

      No guy takes that long, it takes them like a day and then they're out and moving again. They might have trouble finding a girlfriend, but they move on faster. And for #2, this is the REASON men NEED backup girls! Girls don't need backup men! You're only fighting your point! And as for #3, this is why they find a new girlfriend faster to get over the old one. This is their way of dealing, don't you see? And so women are expected to be more emotional, therefore longer grieving time. They still take longer than men, regardless. And I don't know what you're trying to prove here, but it's really starting to get annoying.

      Oh, the 15 year old card? Is that how you settle this argument?

      I'll tell you this right now, if you call it mature or not, I don't care, I'm blocking you the next time you post on my opinion, because it's getting annoying, no questions asked.

    • 2) Men don't go looking for other women because most men try to get the relationship to work more since it's so hard getting a girlfriend in first place. Most women on the otherhand have options and are already looking for your replacement.

      https://i.imgur.com/fomnp9F.jpg

      My point is very logical. Men fight to keep the relationship alive. No time for looking. Women don't have nearly as much investment as men do because they have options and can find a new you fast.

      3. Again your logic fails. It's hard enough men finding the first girl. The average man will take much longer to get a new girlfriend before their ex finds a new boyfriend.

      4. No they do not take longer. They let out all their tears in one big burst while men bottle up their thoughts. They then go on and socialize, mingle and find rebound guy. Some of them go for ONS to get over their ex. While a lot of guys are just drinking themselves and wallowing in self pity.

  • I'm not sure if men move on faster or if they're just a lot better at suppressing their emotions and not showing that they're sad or upset than women are

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  • Depends on the individual.

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  • It depends on the person actually and on how strong was the relationship

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  • Usually males, but it always depends on the individual.

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  • Do you think it depends on who broke the relationship off and who the one that got dumped?

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  • I don't think there's a difference other than on an individual level.

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  • Meh I would say both

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  • Anyone who says men move on faster doesn't live in the real world.

    Of the 2 genders. Women can quicker find another guy while most men take a while. In addition a lot of girls have another guy setup to take their boyfriend place months in advance before the breakup.

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  • I have seen men that move on faster and women that have moved on faster. What's important is YOU. Focus on YOU. If it hurts you, just embrace that feeling and in time it will go away.

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  • I'd say women because they have more options on average. It's hard for a large amount of guys to have anyone interested in them. A woman has many guys interest just because she's a woman. Most guys have to prove their worth before any woman shows interest.

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  • Well women usually have a truck load of backups for her to pluck outta the friendzone and serve as her rebound boy toy until she gets her shit together.

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What Girls Said 16

  • Gender doesn't do it. The person who is more honest with their feelings

    Has a more optimistic view of life in general

    Has had good experiences to draw from

    Feels good about themselves

    Dies not see each eeharionship as if it has to be " the one@

    Is going to move on faster. A big thing is confronting your feelings and grieving a lot of people if either gender in attempts to make themselves feel string and impervious, will rush into one night stands or rebound situations instead of just sitting With it fit a bit. Terrified of their feelings they ignore it... These are usually the asshokes abd paranoids that make up the dating pool.

    Dating other people or partying does not mean you've moved on. It just means you've got baggage to contribute to the next relationship.

    But for gender there's no way of knowing esp bc it's based on self report. Even if you get accurate results, all it tells you is what people want to say they do. Not necessarily what happens. Seeng as women get more flack for dating too much and men get more flack for absorbing how they feel, it would be likely guys would exaggerate how quickly they move on. and women how slowly. Anyhow bc it is self report and stuff genders face different pressures of representation , the answers will be skewed.

    Plus you'd have to have the sane standard to compare. Whereas some people think moving on is dating others think it's when they truly don't want the person back.

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  • Sighhhhh.
    C.
    Having a dick or a vagina doesn't make you move on faster. The less invested you were in the relationship, the quicker you move on. The more attached you were, the harder it is. Anyone can become attached an invested in a relationship. Some people have commitment issues, some don't. And depending on the severity of said commitment issues, some people find it hard to get invested in a relationship and keep their distance. Alternatively, some people just don't have as deep feelings for their partner, as their partner does for them. There are lots of factors to take into consideration. Not everything boils down to gender/sex.

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  • Men do a better illusion of moving on and not hurting. :D

    Though honestly the person who does the breaking up moves on faster than the one who's been dumped.

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  • Whoever was least in love. Sometimes it's the guy, sometimes it's the girl.

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  • Women. We cry for like a week then our friends are get us to go out and meet some guy to have steamy sex with. We can have as many hookups that we want for a month but we are still upset. We watch movies, read books, pick up a new hobby and get a hair cut and then after a month we are knew and feel rejuvenated and are ready to move on.

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  • I think it depends on how you define moving on. From what I've seen here, men do not move on quickly at all. Dudes are talking about their exes from like seven years ago and how much they miss them, but almost immediately they were dating and/or sleeping with other women.

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  • Depends on the person

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  • Men move on faster, why? Cause they have got a lot of possible ways to distract theirselves from depression and being, they can involve theirselves in so many things to forget. But us women i think we don't have.

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  • Men go on a rebound mission after the break up. Women usually wait till they have their shit together.

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  • I would say men.

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  • Men move on faster

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  • The one who is least invested in the previous relationship moves on faster.

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  • Men for suuuuure

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  • oh wait... i misunderstood lol

    anyways ignore my vote (A)

    but yea i read somewhere that women are like devastated right after and that sadness and devastation is just what helps them process the whole thing and deal with their feelings... which eventually allows them to move on

    guys on the other hand, they are happy to be "free" like they see things on short term,,, like when a kid's mother leaves him alone and he is like "OH MY GOD IM GONNA STAY UP ALL NIGHT AND DO EVERYTHING I WANT AND PEE IN THE SHOWER IN THE MORNING" ... but then later on it hits them and it all sinks in... nobody is there to say good morning sweetie, nobody is there to make him breakfast (the kid in the example is too little to be able to make it himself lol) and he starts missing her and gets worse and worse everyday
    ... so in a sense guys dont fully "recover" from a breakup... or it just takes aaaaggggeessss... and they fill that time with meaningless relationships or they shift their attention... but its there

    thats what i read anyways xD or something like that

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  • I agree with that statement. Woman are more hurt up front but then they move on. I think that's because we have very deep involved relationships with each other from a young age. We experience heartbreak for the first time long before having our first boyfriend. So we are pretty practiced on the emotional toil it can include when entering our first romantic relationship. Guys don't generally get that close to each other. AT a young age we make our friendships the center of our universe, we let it become us, we invest everything and then the smallest of things can tear it down and you are distraught... the first time at 6 when your best friend doesn't sit next to you at recess but instead another little girl you now hate, or if she comes over and tells you that dress you were last week made you look silly, you are distraught... your relationship is now over, having exploded and life feels over.
    When guys get to the romantic relationship point that blow is usually the first of it's kind and something they don't know how to really handle. They feel exposed and generally don't have a friend or too many people they can blubber to who will console them, someone they can tell everything to and that's even if they have the ability to open up like that so they keep it in and let it fester and spread to other parts of their life like a slow cancer.

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  • Women take time and work through what happened before moving on. Men will be on to the next if they can, but then it hits them like a ton of bricks a month later. In general.

    It always depends on the person though.

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