I was dating my ex on and off for three years. He recently told me he "lost" interest in me. Not only that we can't be friends. He thinks we should go our separate ways. We have known each other for five years, and our families were good friends. I asked him why would could not even be friends he told me he had a reason but could not tell me that he really wants to but he promises me he cant. He told me it wasn't about anyone else he doesn't like anyone else , he just can't tell me the reason we can't even be friends. Why can't we be friends?
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Sounds kind of like this is one of those times where what he wants and what he needs are very different, and irreconcilable. He's chosen what he needs. Wants to stay but know he needs to move on, or maybe he feels like he's out grown you or something. Its also possible that he is just being realistic. Its really hard to do in any meaningful way. And if he is really trying to move on talking about being friends isn't something he can do for a while. Trust me someday he will date someone else, and when he does being friends with an ex can complicate sh*t sometimes.
In anycase if your break-up is recent it really hard to say whether something like not being friends will stick or not. Most of the time it does... but time changes things. And I think he doesn't want to leave you any possibility of getting back together.1