What does it mean if he won't talk after a break up?

[Anonymous]

we been broke up 3 week, broke up on good terms,(distance), now he won't talk to me, doesn't know if and when we will be friends but he did say there wasn't another girl

He still has feelings

He has something to hide

He is scared to tell me how he really feels

Who knows?

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+1 y

thanks for all the feedback I don't think friends is an option it would have been nice but it would have never worked out I'm going about my business now

[advicegirl2010]

Doesn't mean anything, my first serious relationship the guy told me it wasn't another girl and then a week later he was all over another girl. But honestly could be a ton of reasons.. maybe he still cares about you and isn't able to deal with the distance or the break up so well.. a lot of guys tend to try to completely cut themselves off from complicated situations.. they feel it will be easier to just avoid it all together.. My best advice is to just Let him be and not hold a grudge. You broke up for a reason, whether you still care about each other or not, you broke up.. Either bad timing in life to be together, not right for each other, whatever it was for a reason, try to enjoy the time being single.. If you are meant to be it will happen when the time is right and if not then you will eventually be grateful it happened this way and will learn a big lesson about yourself and what you really want in a relationship.

[rdabby]

Its takes time to move on and you guys are broken up so you can't be friends suddenly after 3 weeks even if it ended on good terms.

he needs space and he wants to move on that's why he is not talking to you, that doesn't mean that he doesn't have feelings or hiding something. He doesn't need to hide anything you re broken up, simply.

i would say give it at least few months untill you could actually talk to him again and then you could be friends and you de be moved on.

But talking to him right now isn't gunna make things easy its gunna make things even harder, he needs time and you re obviously still hoping that by talking to him or being his friend then it might work out and be together again... you need to let go!

[Anonymous]

Who knows? My guess is he needs the space. Even if you broke up on good terms, being friends right after is hard. You need time away from someone in order to truly get over that person. It sucks, but it works. My ex and I were like best buddies after we broke up, but it made me confused about how I felt. And it made him go back and forth about wanting another chance. The time apart has given me some perspective. As much as it hurts to lose a friend, I probably wouldn't have been as ok with the breakup as I am now.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter if you are on good terms or not. He is obviously into the other girl, he has probabbly has no desire to talk to you nearly as much if at all especially seeing how your not with each other.

HELLO your broken up.

[Masiah]

u guys can't be friends, if you have or had feelings for each other. so either you guys should quit totally or you guys are still in love. their could be any possibility from guy's side.

[saphirasilverwings]

Generally, breakups are not peaceful, joyous events. People usually feel a certain amount of hurt and confusion over them, even if it's for the best. It can be hard to talk to someone when you have that tension between you. It's usually best to cut off contact with them for the most part so that you can heal and move on.

[martyfellow]

it could be a combination of the choices on your poll. Still, the most likely scenario is that he just wants some breathing space, to explore other possibilities, even if he doesn't have a specific girl in mind.

[Asker]

Breathing space makes since he is 28 and he did say he relied on me to much and needs to do more on his own

[EddyMetal]

Lol. Gotta love how you don't put "He just isn't into me anymore."

Way to lead the participants in the poll.

[Anonymous]

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[strawberrry]

I broke up with my ex on somewhat good terms. I don't talk to him just because there's no point really. We're not going to be friends and we're not going to be together.

What's the point?

[dudeguy]

I'm thinking that he really does like you but it's too hard to have any form of contact with you. So the best way for him to make his transition away from you be easier would be for him to cut contact with you off as much as possible.

[iceequeen]

it means you broke up.. which kinda means he should try and get over you.. and if that means him not talking to you ... you should really respect that...

[jbowy4]

It's none of those poll options, he obviously just doesn't want to talk to you! He is probably heart broken, or just figures since you broke up your not meant to talk, or he just doesn't want to talk.

[autroxursoxoff]

It still probably hurts for him. And he doesn't know to how to handle things with you, so he'll ignore you and pretends things are alright between you guys even though you don't talk anymore. -- Give him some time, he'll come around. And if not then just make conversation. Nothing about what you guys used to be.

[CubanRaftRider]

I think it could be all of the above as well as it is harder to go through the "get over it and move on" stage if you are still talking to someone you had (or still have) feelings for.

[emzy-89]

it could mean anything from he still likes u, to, he hates you or he just doesn't feel any emotion towards you at all.

[kalg8]

I said who knows... because you didn't give a "he doesn't want to talk to you" or a "He's moved on with his life and you're not in it" option.

[WhereIsWaldo]

He is trying to move on, he might be trying to meet another girl. He just doesn't think it will be very easy to be with you

[ak2020]

he may not be over you, but you both need to move on. It's over.

[Justbug87]

He could still be hurt and withdrawl about the same as a girl will sometimes

[Anonymous]

He's in his man cave and hell stay there for awile. Give him some space for awhile. It could be hard to talk to you right now for him, and if you call and bother him he might never call.

[selenagirl]

HEY read my stories/articles click on how I fell in love but something happen

[Jhood2880]

I would say if it were me it would probably be because I don't want to make it harder on myself not being with you.

[mpwilke]

My ex told me something similar when breaking up with me. He told me he didn't know if we could be friends, and said that being friends with his exes usually didn't work out. That was 2 months after break up. I got the courage to call him, and it was not a good convo. 3 months after that phone call he started posting things about how he I was on his mind.. and I so I sent him a message and it took him weeks to respond back to me, on any normal message like Hey What's up? (which was not

[mpwilke]

Normal when we were going out) We talked everyday for 2 years that we were going out. After a month of having a f.b. convo that should have lasted only about a week, it lasted a month. So 1 month later I called him, after asking him if he wanted to talk. He said Yes, call whenever you want. I called and he described it as a sore spot. He said he still wanted to be friends. But I called again a week ago. He hasn't returned my call.

The strange thing about this situation is..

[mpwilke]

I got so frustrated by his messages and during our breakup in October he left me hanging, by saying, I don' tknow if we'll ever see each other again, or if we would talk after this. And when I did message him first, I got frustrated by the f.b. messages I just wanted it to be over. I was tired of being left hanging. I said goodbye and needed closure. When talking to him on the phone recently, he said he called everyone in his phonebook, saying he didn't want us to never talk again.

[mpwilke]

Asking what he should do, or if he should call me or not. He didn't call... But I knew I never wanted to say goodbye, and apologized for saying that, and not giving him enough time to respond. I was just a little irritated and frustrated by him commenting to other people's messages before mine. I thought he was messing with my mind. On the other hand, it's been a week since I left a message on his phone. He hasn't called me back yet. I don't understand. When I talked to him last,

[mpwilke]

I asked him when we would talk next. He said call me whenever you want. and I said, same to you. He called the relationship a sore spot. He broke up with me. He called himself an idiot for doing so over a month ago as a f.b. status. He doesn't want to get back together with me though it seems. He also posted "id go back but its just to late." ( I don't get that either.) He broke up with me, because he said he didn't love me or feel the same way about me anymore. and for an accumulatio

[mpwilke]

Of things. And that was in October. He said he wanted to still be friends, but he isn't making any attempts whatsoever. We dated for 2 years he wanted to put a ring on my finger. I think I deserve more of an explanation. Why would he "go back" but then say it's "too late". Why is it too late? Did he cheat on me and feels guilty about it, and realize it is/was a mistake? I felt like our break up was one of the biggest mistakes that he has made, and that I have let happen... (but I've got

[mpwilke]

No control in the matter of changing his mind so it seems. We were long distance after all. But I'd stil want to be friends with him, somehow. If he called everyone in his phone book when I said goodbye, and almost freaked out. Why won't he make any effort?

Is he just trying to make it less hard on himself by not talking to me? Because if he is, I just wish he would have said "I'd like it if this would be are last conversation." And that's it. but he said call me whenever you want, and

[mpwilke]

And I don't know what that means in guy terms. (I know your giving out advice for this person, but maybe your advice can help her too, IDK) I'm just trying to get a perspective from a wide varation of people. I'm so confused, all I really want to do, is fully understand what has happened in my relationship with him. I want to know the exact truth. I want one last final phone call, and I want him to be honest, and then I can finally have closure. I just want a full understanding of everythi

[mpwilke]

And then maybe I can just move on. I can close a door, that continually feels like it could be swung open, or permanently shut at anytime. I just don't know when that is.

Do you have any advice for me? What do you think of my situation? Anyone?

[rdabby]

Mpwilke that's way toooooooooo many comments here.. I think you should ask that in a question... I don't think Jhood read any of that either...

[bobbi789]

It could just be that he wants to move on...

[slaytanicdethmaiden]

Your grammar is amazing.

[Anonymous]

He's over you. Sorry.

[DanielSan]

He know what your update says is the truth