An EX means.. in the past. In my life, after any break up, an EX is out of my mind. I move on almost immediately and never think of, try to contact, check up on, etc.
Breakups happen for a reason...
I'm not talking about someone who moved away... I'm talking about relationships that ended due to cheating, abuse, incompatibility and such. an incompatible person will still be incompatible. An abuser only gets worse. Promises "to change" are always lies.
Who CARES about an EX? Who cares about what an EX thinks of them? I see people who whine about an ex spreading rumors or posting negative things on social media. Who cares? Their opinion should not matter at all. They are an EX... the past. No longer involved with you.
Then "breaks"... what's that all about? all this is is an admission you can't commit in a relationship. Taking a vacation from a relationship isn't going to fly.
ALSO... getting back together after a breakup.. or chasing someone to get back together... sorry folks, the same issues are gonna be there.
"But I still love hm/her" So? That doesn't mean THEY love you back. There was a reason the relationship ended.
This "closure" What's that about? No such thing... So what? It's over.. there is your closure.
Move on... where you found one guy/gal, there will always be more. Everyone goes through MANY breakups in their lives. This EX is just on in a long line of future exes. That is life.
Be well and be realistic.
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Because those who are seeking advice or talking about their ex, are clearly still impacted by the them. Something happened that wasn't supposed to happen, so they're trying to talk and understand how to move forward; it's their coping mechanism.
If you've ever had a first love or someone you sincerely loved so much, that you never wanted to let go, you'll understand why others have a hard time doing so. It's more than just mental, it's emotional and the people deal with it however they think works. I can say this because I was always one not to get in touch with their emotions or be deeply affected by things not working out, but my first relationship with my first love falling apart felt like I was hit by a truck and ran over and honestly, because of the intensity, it took a while. The thing is though, when that time is over and you move on, you actually move on and while the feelings are gone and you're no longer stuck asking why, or what or how, you remember them and continue because honestly when moving on happens, it actually happens to the point of no return.