My girlfriend started working a new job and has been hanging out with these guys from her work. She says she's not the kind of girl that really has many girl friends and gets along with guys better. I didn't feel to good about this but I trusted her. But I deep down felt jealous that she was hanging out with other guy 'friends' more than me. We only get to see each other on the weekends mostly. We have had a solid relationship for 2 years. She started saying that we were spending less time together and kind of drifting a part since I started working more. Before I didn't have a job and she has made me feel bad many times cause her and her parents really wanted me to have a job.
So our birthday weekend was here, our birthdays are a day apart. The night before my birthday she says she was going out to a movie with her 'friends'. On my birthday she told me that she laid her head on this guys shoulder for like 5 minutes the night before and felt really bad about it. This broke me heart. She came over later and I still gave her all the presents, love letters, and flowers but it sucked. I brought her out somewhere nice cause I thought we should still go and it was just crying and things, not a good evening. She takes to the idea that we should take a break, and I agreed cause I was so hurt. She said it was because she thought we were drifting apart and because she felt bad of what she did. That she needed time to think and be alone. She said multiple times that she wasn't just doing this to hook up with other guys. The next few days were rough. I noticed she took me off her facebook relationship thing. So I took her off mine. She called me and was like, hey you took me off your relationship thing. And she said it would probably be best to breakup I agreed out of hurt. She kept hanging out with people and telling them about her problems and things while I just morned at home and what not. I thought I should get out and be social like she was doing. I went to a party with my friends got kind of drunk and didn't do anything. The next day she calls me and says I feel bad I have to tell you something. That same night that I went out, she went on date with another guy, a movie I guess. Then afterward they made out for like 10 minutes in the car. He fingered her and she gave him a short hand job(but didn't finish the job). I asked her for details she said that they moved to the back seat and it was really awkward and the guy was like a third the size of me. I don't know if she was trying to make me feel better or what. But she wants to get back with me and she said it was a big mistake. I told her she was my first kiss and that this really hurt me. I feel like she wanted this to happen by going on this breakup. She said it wasn't cheating cause we were broke up. She said she was just trying to move on. She said she still loved me and wants me back. What do I do? I really miss her and love her but I am so hurt.
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Ok so as a girl I've been in her position and I knew exactly what I was doing the whole time. Didn't want to admit it but I really did. I was my boyfriends first everything, like she was your first kiss, I was his. First of all, it's not right for her to be hanging out with guys alone, sure they may be friends but she knows what she's doing, guys do tend to flirt, if anything, she should have brought you along if they were just friends. You know, like a group hangout. You DO NOT need to jump back into a relationship with her, if she wants to be with you, she needs to prove that she's not going to just break up with you again because you two are drifting. If you're drifting, you work things out. You talk about it and try to find a solution. As in making plans to do different things with each other. Like try something new, the zoo, aquarium, botanical gardens, putt putt, museums, whatever you're into. (I know they were kind of similar ideas, I just couldn't think of anything.) If you jump back into a relationship, the problem is still going to exist. And she's right, she didn't cheat but she knew she was doing something wrong and she knows she hurt you. Guaranteed you're hurting more than she is, even if she "felt bad." You guys just need to hang out and "talk" but don't take her right back, she doesn't deserve it.1