How do you cope with loneliness?

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Hey, I'm just curious how different people deal with loneliness. Feel free to share tips.

I usually just distract myself with hobbies or schoolwork. Listening to music and reading are very comforting for me :)

(I wasn't sure which topic to put this under, so I'm sorry if the topic is irrelevant. I know loneliness can stem from not having close friends/family as well as not having a partner.)

Xasildo · Accepted Answer

I usually draw, read, watch a movie/TV show or play games. With drawing, I have a habit of becoming so absorbed with what I'm doing that I forget what I feel because I start imagining the worlds of my pieces. And for reading, I read really fast and get so enthralled I get pulled into the characters of the book. For movies, I go to the movies alone sometimes because I love the theater atmosphere so much. It's dark, you're surrounded by speakers, and the only thing that your eyes can stare at is the bright screen playing a movie. It's really immersivw to me and pulls me in like a book or a drawing does. So I guess I pull myself out of my lonely moods by putting myself into other places that are interesting and forget that I'm alone.
I know a lot of people who like to hit up all their contacts to try to hang out or go to bars/clubs to unwind with strangers.
Or they go to the gym or practice a skill like music.

TJ_Mars · Accepted Answer

Prior to moving to take care of a disabled family member I was a chef and baker, so I still do a lot of baking, cooking and writing recipes.
I play with my dog a lot, I watch anime, play games, do card tricks and have been practicing escaping cuffs, and right now I'm mapping out my plans to work on a bus/van to turn it into a livable mobile vehicle with solar panels.
Loneliness sucks, lol. I have difficulty talking to random people so I don't do that often and I haven't been on a date since I moved out here.
But distracting myself with things I enjoy helps some, especially when my pup physically wears me out.

CourtneyP · Accepted Answer

I swear I thought loneliness would be the death of me. I've always thought I had to be in a relationship to be happy. But it seems im actually more upset, stressed and worried if im with someone, I've obviously not found "the one" yet. I googled and read so many blogs about learning to love myself and I know, you think there's no way this coupd help you but I promise I was the exact same way and for the first time I dont lose my mindbeing alone. I actually like it a whole lot. I had become so codependent on someone else to make me happy I had no idea how to be happy by myself, I also learned I didn't have a clue that loving yourself had such a huge impact on everything around you. I really hope this helps you.

Superbdiamond1981 · Accepted Answer

Visit those homeless children, or visit a long time friend. Or any close friend. Make a voluntary work service. Or donate something. Anything that will help someone, like clothing, spare yourself to these extended family. Or doing some yoga.

Actually happiness is within from inside our heart. Feel it from inside and it will flow from inside it work really. Feeling happiness within will not leave yourself. If our soul is always happy then our bodies will be benefited from it. While we can make others laugh or we can help others then do it. Not when we are not worth anymore. Stay helpful because you are bless. You have everything and you are worth living for. Take care always.💕

Ivory6 · Accepted Answer

I do watch tv series, movies, write, read... those things "kind of" help. But try to gain new friends love. Join a book club, volunteering organization or something like that near your local area. It really helps and make you feel much better.
If not earn some money do a job work on for it and you can go on solo back pac trips or solo road trips, try new foods.

And another great thing to do is "making a bucket list". The point is distract you away from being alone and make yourself busy in a worthy way..
So... try it out :)

TaurusB23 · Answer

I rule this on zodiac signs because specific signs have distinguished ways of coping with their sorrows. For example I am a Taurus and to me music is my release for any issue I have because I relate to sorrow and harmony and hope through lyrics and fain clarity through it where as an Aries will make themselves busy to the point where they don't give themselves time to let loneliness settle in and lock themselves in a sort of workaholic mode to use their loneliness to get ahead for the goals they want to reach and rule out emotions as bestbas they can

Bjorn526 · Answer

I’ve always coped with loneliness and boredom the same way, by digesting a quote and really taking it seriously, from Albert Einstein
“Boredom is an insult to oneself”
Now, it may seem harsh, but is it? Doesn’t it reinforce something to believe in yourself as well?
The world has so much to offer and there is so much to be curious about, and to apply your own creativity and curiosity, so why are you thinking simply that “I need a stranger or ideal mate, to be happy?”
Isn’t that thought making you miss everything that could be? And if you actually acted on it, then people would find you so much more attractive anyway

Kyren · Answer

The best counter to loneliness in my opinion is talk to people! Whether it be online like this site, talking with a stranger who is interested in engaging a conversation or going out to group activities at a place which has my favorite hobby in it! While reading a book, going on a hike or playing video games may fix this problem temporarily , we all need social interaction one way or another and nothing fixes that better then that ^_^

Lynn1995 · Answer

Its counter intuitive... but you need to practice being comfortable alone...
I think happiness is interior no one can come into your world and change your state of mind and feelings if yourself are not happy with yourself...
Life is a first person experience... it is just icy on the cake to have good friends... a loving partner but thats not the whole story...
You need to accept and make peace with the fact that you are alone basically when facing this world and only you can train yourself to reach interior peace...
Its a mainly psychological development you need to do

PondyPand · Answer

Find someone/ friend you're close to and talk to them, you're already managing well by doing hobbies and homework. Going for a walk out- anything needed from a shop? - helps too, as gives you a sense of purpose and a job to do that doesn't necessarily need more than one person.

hahnal · Answer

Watch funny youtubers or a good Netflix show! Talk to a friend or play games with your family. Cleaning your room while dancing around is a good option too!

noahchoudhury · Answer

i listen to music and try doodling or clean and reorganize my room, or binge watch shows all night long

LordChaoticX · Answer

I have just gotten used to it. I have been alone ever since I was 5ish. I never really had a friend to talk to the friends I do have are more of acquaintances in my opinion.

oldguyincanada · Answer

I have always been alone in the world in the sense that anyone really understands me. I don't expect this to ever change. It is what it is.

kamash · Answer

I think being lonely or solitude is actually a period of self awareness or introspection... it's rejuvenating if focused on yourself not on others... Comparison leads to all negativity.. so just become self aware... Peace.

passinby · Answer

"I usually just distract myself with hobbies or schoolwork. Listening to music and reading are very comforting for me" You answered your own question. Eventually one just adapts to it and embraces it.

baby181036 · Answer

Like you, I also listen to music&read books（short stories&detectives）. I have also made some long distance friends on various social platforms（you may also accept me as your friend）& of course there is facebook which is there 24 hours which you can browse&paas time

Buckzor · Answer

I got into anime. Binged it, hours upon hours on end. Watched Netflix. Got addicted to games like Runescape and Call of Duty. Listening to music is another thing I enjoy doing. I also downloaded apps like this to try and socialise more.

dtweed96 · Answer

Well being alone is impossible for some people because there are people who get too much attention that they sometimes want to get away I know that feeling

evilrainbow · Answer

I sit alone in dark corner of my home and think about good times that i had with my mom n dad

skyblue_superxd · Answer

I listen to music and draw how I feel inside. They look like scribbles but they mean more

arusso23 · Answer

I like to listen to music and talk with people that I know care about me. If you want to talk I'm here for you

Anonymous · Answer

By forcing myself to do the things I must (work etc). Since I am always lonely, 24/7, and there is absolutely nithing I can do about it, I just gotta ignore it, cause if I didn't it would lead me to suicide sooner or later

Amakobe · Answer

Loneliness expresses the pain of being alone and solitude expresses the glory of being alone... I just flip my way of thinking

miia389 · Answer

Masterbate and watch shows. It helps for alittle. But eventually everyone needs some type of social interaction

TechniCarl · Answer

I do everything you do but I also go for midnight drives or clean my car and go to a shooting range which is a taboo thing in the UK

Anonymous · Answer

Since my breakup I started drinking again. Might not be the healthiest, but I sure do feel good

joshuacatdavis007 · Answer

I can help u cutie 😉 I'm pretty lonely to and id love to talk. And snap of ur down

Giggletr0n · Answer

I don't really get lonely. I miss my kids when they aren't around but I don't ever feel lonely and I voluntarily remain alone :)

SexyChristianTeacher · Answer

Get a dog or similar pet. They will provide you much more companionship than your ex probably has.

TGFH-Satan · Answer

Video games. I have plenty of lives to live if this one gets boring.

JSmuve · Answer

I try not to think about it and focus on myself but I fail miserably at doing that when seemingly every day I'm reminded of it.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

I remember the people I hung around during high school to remind myself why it's best I don't let loneliness dictate my behavior.

Joeaye · Answer

I just learn to live with it. I'll usually sleep and let the time pass until I have to go do something like get dinner

jim_thekil · Answer

We can choose to be sorounded by people or not but for me loneliness isn t bad thing i can think about me or my future and i deal with by not care about

Reyy78 · Answer

I play online games. It is very easy to talk to people online and be friends.

Mrking · Answer

Being lonely is the beginning of finding ourselves. ( I listen songs, read books. Quora , 7cups etc, )_

justabadassgirl · Answer

I'm lonely most of the time so I go with YouTube or music

Sebdcjones · Answer

Hobbies definitely. Write those feelings down and make them art

Nandor · Answer

If I feel lonely I will do something to get attention or just talk to someone online

weclock · Answer

I get out. Sometimes it feels more lonely, but sometimes I'm glad I'm alone.

chopwood · Answer

I sit and wait for the one person I actually like to text me driving me crazy waiting

ray91 · Answer

I've been having the same problem books help me the most

totallyRandom2395 · Answer

I lock myself in my room and write music. But thats just me. Loneliness gives me time to think and reflect.

warrior0345 · Answer

Well I have been single my whole life and I just focus on work and classes eventually you just don’t think about it anymore

Tohhru · Answer

I just go out in crowded places and buy frappucino from Starbucks

BKay2day · Answer

I try to improve myself, understand what it's going on in my head and also help others.

TheBigGiantHead900 · Answer

I read erotica watch movies, masturbate and video games. Not in that order.

Anonymous · Answer

I sleep, watch porn, go to Omegle, GaG, Instagram, talk to people, listen to music, exercise. Are you lonely?

Anonymous · Answer

I don't. I stare at a blank wall above my wall and cry throughout the night. Where has all this lost time gone. Depression has consumed me.

Sspaulding728 · Answer

Video Games mainly when im not with friends.

psychosam · Answer

Emotional detachment, thats how I roll

Anonymous · Answer

Distraction is the only way, also meeting with random people helps

milmsth · Answer

Online gaming, and my cat.

suhdude666 · Answer

I do drugs and make music. I also don't let drugs take ahold of my life but I do let music

Kwixle · Answer

Music music music. Also doodling

cezarpantea · Answer

To be honest gym every day

coxnat29 · Answer

Heavily dependant on the puppy

Revolver_ · Answer

I don't mind loneliness

vannanas · Answer

I don't... self destruction is coming my way

mrwizard104 · Answer

Video games and masturbation

robske · Answer

Alcohol, video games

akiess · Answer

Pizza

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I use GAG lol.. 😣

Volvagia · Answer

im used to it

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