When you are going through a breakup and can't let go...
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Do you miss your ex, or miss being with someone?
there's one girl I can't stop thinking about even tho I now have girlfriend. I met this girl about 9 years ago and became great friends. never gotten on with someone so good, not long after meetings her I had a massive crush on her but I knew she didn't see me the same way, I was always a best friend. Anyway we lost contact 4/5 years ago due to going to different colleges. I still taught of her tho and what she would be up to. Anyway I got a girlfriend just over 2 and a half years ago but over the last year or so I have found myself thinking about here more and more, it's now at the point where she is all I think about. I am beginning to think maybe I don't have a crush on her but what if I'm in love with this girl. Is it possible these feelings basically since I first met here, and it only be a crush for 9 years? Every night I wish i could talk to her and see her smile once more, I get tempted to message her on facebook but the only thing stopping me is that I have a girlfriend and I feel that would be wrong of me to do...
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I used to miss her. Then I broke out of the emotion, looked objectively at the relationshp and realised her bad points I had been blind to before, and just missed having someone to be intimate and close to... Then lately I'm suddenly missing her specifically again and its bugging the hell out of me.
I have never been with anyone before but I miss my former best friend. I used to be much closer with him, but now we don't even look at each other. I feel so sucky all the time when I look at him in the hallway once in a while. It's a terrible feeling.
I miss his generosity, his helpfulness, his energy. I miss his humor, his daredevil nature, and his smile. I really want to see him smile at me again. His support was unending and constant. Even when he was the only one cheering for me, he still cheered really loud. Even when it might have been embarrassing to other people, he did it, still.
I miss my friend's presence. I always felt happier and more content with him around. Being with him put me at ease. He was a very good friend to me. But I didn't understand that our friendship was so fragile.
I'm sure if my classmate had never interfered, we would still be friends now. I can never face him. And when we graduate in May, I will never see him again.
It was a good run.
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both. was with someone for 2 1/2 years. took a lot of shit for me to finally leave. Our relationship had died at like a year and a half, but we both couldn’t let go. After we finally broke up, I had convinced myself that I missed him, when in reality, I just missed being in a relationship. In other words, I missed having a boyfriend. I didn’t miss having HIM as a boyfriend. It sucks but when it’s time to let go it’s time to let go. I stayed with him through a lot because I was scared that if we broke up, I’d never find anyone else. I was single for almost two years and started to think “damn... maybe I was right. Maybe I shouldn’t have let him go. What if I end up dying alone.” After that I was so desperate to find a guy. And felt hopeless because I wasn’t having any luck. Then, as if by magic, as soon as I stopped desperately searching for someone, a guy finally came to me, and now I’m in a relationship.
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Currently I still miss my ex.
I do miss being intimate with someone. Like I want to cuddle and feel loved, but...
I made a really close friend, and I've developed feelings for him. He's the only one that has a chance to even hold a candle to my ex. I've tried going on dates and meeting new guys and I just don't feel anything. So, It's gonna have to be one or the other, but I definitely miss my ex specifically.
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At first it was missing him, but then it turned into missing being with someone... So maybe it was the latter all the way? Maybe a bit of both.
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Who doesn't? Missing being with someone is what every human goes through. Heck that happens even when they are in a relationship/marriage and it doesn't really turn them on emotionally or romantically.
Mine is a joke, I've always longed for someone since I can remember and it's always a touch and go exercise for me. Nothing ever really works out the way I want, some or the other factor does become an impediment. But hey, I ain't old, so I still have hope and I wish the same for everybody commenting on here. Thanks for asking this as I needed to get this out of my system. - 579 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.
I miss her, and some times we chat but I am starting to believe she don't want much to do with me.
Every time I see her connected on FB she answer hours later or one day after, when I would answer her the fastest I could, and when I look behind it have been that way.
I sense that she was never that sure of her self, how she could feel sure of me? Anyways I wish her the best, even if she blocked me from her Facebook, no problem. I just wouldn't put a finger of effort to go and se her. I don't think I would want to see her also if that happened.
As much as you miss your ex, you gotta have self love and some pride. if you notice your ex don't take you in account anymore, time to move on completely. I hope it doesn't go that way but it is what it is.. -
Yes I missed being with someone but, people these days can be many things. Some can be fakes, some could be a problem, and others could be paranoid. I just don't dig giving deep tension into anyone without 1st building trust. They can do whatever they want, they can try and look cute and hit on me, they can try to be friendly, but I just don't fall in love so easily like gullible guys. They can just try and be themselves and let faith decide if anything real between us seems eligible, other than that I'd advise a woman to take a step on the down low before I escape their presence.
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I miss the thought of her being the one. I miss the thought of the future I had built in my head and how I was going to make her smile everyday, with doing the small things. I miss the children I had with her, in my imaginary world I had built. It's hard to watch all of that burn right before your eyes. Oh well, just another lesson that was learned the hard way. In other words, hell no I don't miss her. She dosent deserve that from me.
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I'm still with the gal. But the long distance thing takes a toll on me. It pains not being able to stroke her hair. Having to maintain a delicate balance between her busy life and mine, and find time to talk when she lives 12 time zones away. The last time I walked away from a similar situation, doing so only made everything much much worse. Which is partly why I hang on to her now, even though it's hard to do.
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You know how I got over pining for my exes (besides berating myself for acting like a heartbroken pu**y). I reached deep down and FORGAVE them.
It took me almost three years to forgive one ex I had. But after I forgave her I noticed myself slowly but surely feeling better. I realized that I quit letting her live rent free in my head. I realize that all the inner anger and heartbreak was accomplishing nothing, but I had to forgive her despite doing something so horrible.
The second with my other ex who ghosted me after 9 months of dating. I ran into her face to face two weeks ago at a local gym. I said "I forgive" and I walked on.
It's easier said than done. But it works. -
I miss the person i thought he was. Instead, he turned out to be a cheater and a liar. That hurts me so deeply - I never trusted him, and it all makes sense now.
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I miss being in a relationship but not my ex. He was a douche and came crawling back because he realized how bad he fucked up. Left him without giving him a bad thing to say about me, that's true revenge
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The bad thing is my case is i don't miss her because she used to abuse me and make my life a misery, but i also do miss her and the abuse it. I don't why i do it's just she is always in my brain and do hate her but i want her back.
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I just am going through this now.. I miss being with someone. I didn't quite get along with her she was always mad at me but I still miss being with her. She broke it off with me. If she told me to come back now.. I wouldn't cause now I'm mad at her she made me go homeless during winter out in the cold. You don't do that to family. We have a kid. I'll probably fall in love with the next woman that's nice to me I'm so tired of being single.. Alone..
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I've accepted the possiblility of being independent. Girls are human, they make mistakes and not one is perfect (including my exes). Theyre character is what matters to me, but unfortunatlely most women are are passive, talk to much, dont do anything, or dont care about others.
I miss the feeling of being in love, but not the person i used to feel in love with -
I miss human interaction lol. I'm becoming an anti-social hermit, and fprgetting how to socialize and be charming. I used to be way more outgoing, but more introverted now. I would love to have a girlfriend again, or even a friend that is a girl.
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I think about my ex every now and then and i do miss him sometimes but is not like i wanna go back with him or anything. He's a good guy so i miss hanging out with him, buuuuuuut life happens
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I don't miss HIM but I miss what we did, road trips singing in the car and just having someone to cuddle!
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I think it's normal to miss aspects of that person. You're going to miss being intimate no matter what, if you're that kind of person. But everyone will miss certain parts of the people they've spent a lot of time with. Its like how you miss you're friends and family, they were a part of you're everyday life, and now, they aren't.
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It can be hard. But in all honesty no one can help you let go. You can only do that after some time when you are ready. Until then focus on yourself and things that bring you Joy and maybe you can find your way. When I go through this I bury myself in books. It works for me.
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I don't miss my exes until all the memories of their bad behavior fades. Then I get nostalgic, I suppose. Of course I often miss the intimacy of a romantic relationship, but at my age it's no longer worth the endless drudgery and suffering of dating.
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I miss her AND I miss overall intimacy. The thing is, I've hooked-up with girls recently, and had cuddly, cutesy, intimate, even romantic, but it just wasn't the same with it not being HER (my Love, my ex).
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I MISS MY BADGIRL (oh wait 90% of my ex badgirls)
becareful now. don't wanna make a niceguy gone badboy alright,
i ain't coming back either.
But there was this one badgirl that's fkn still on my mind. -
I miss being with someone even though I never met someone like him we had really great connection the first time we met which I never felt. But things happen for a reason and just didn’t work out. It’s just rare finding someone that you can connect with so easily.
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