Do you miss your ex, or miss being with someone?

[Anonymous]

When you are going through a breakup and can't let go...

Miss her/him

Miss being with someone intimate

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I don't like the picture GAG added here. That's not what I am asking about.

[Shaun25]

there's one girl I can't stop thinking about even tho I now have girlfriend. I met this girl about 9 years ago and became great friends. never gotten on with someone so good, not long after meetings her I had a massive crush on her but I knew she didn't see me the same way, I was always a best friend. Anyway we lost contact 4/5 years ago due to going to different colleges. I still taught of her tho and what she would be up to. Anyway I got a girlfriend just over 2 and a half years ago but over the last year or so I have found myself thinking about here more and more, it's now at the point where she is all I think about. I am beginning to think maybe I don't have a crush on her but what if I'm in love with this girl. Is it possible these feelings basically since I first met here, and it only be a crush for 9 years? Every night I wish i could talk to her and see her smile once more, I get tempted to message her on facebook but the only thing stopping me is that I have a girlfriend and I feel that would be wrong of me to do...

[aconfusedgirlie]

Just catch up with her. You’ll probably realize she’s not as special as you imagine her to be.

[Temmec714]

very true... once you really get to know a person they’re not as great as they seem

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

I used to miss her. Then I broke out of the emotion, looked objectively at the relationshp and realised her bad points I had been blind to before, and just missed having someone to be intimate and close to... Then lately I'm suddenly missing her specifically again and its bugging the hell out of me.

[Asker]

Knowing her flaws doesn't help moving on, isn't it?

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

I dont know. I sometimes think you can't really move on until you find someone or something else to replace the void they leave in your heart. And she left a pretty big void. I genuinely thought we were made for eachother, and still dont really get why she felt we didn't work in the first place (it got a bit messy later which is where a lot of her less pleasant side really showed).
I think the problem is she changed how I look at myself, for the better. she's the first partner to actually compliment me on my looks. She really really oppenned up my sexuality a lot (not in terms of anything weird just... before her sex had often felt like a chore). So in a weird sort of way I am serving as a direct reminder of the good times.

[Asker]

Well, at least, she made you feel good about yourself in important ways. Hope you will find someone new to fill the void.

[Asker]

I mean, you will find that person SOON.

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

Hope so.
Im sort of worried my dog and I are spending entirely too much time together.
I caught myself discussing the weather with him and offering him a cup of tea yesterday. This weekend we are going to pick out a new colour for the dining room :p

[Asker]

I have been thinking about getting a dog, seriously.

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

Don't get a collie. They are too smart. Too oppinionated. To nuerotic. And now he's looking at me because he can sense Im insulting him online. Lol.
Dogs are good.
Love, companionship, cuddles. A reason to push yourself to get some physical excercise.

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

Oh crap and now she's calling me out of the blue and even though she's dated in the meantime, and is already interested in someone else, she's flirting with me like its going out of fashion... GREAT.

[Asker]

How do you know she is dating other people? That doesn't sound like a wise move (her). You okay?

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

Well she started dating one a couple of weeks after the last time we had sex and I found out via things posted on facebook (we fell into a weird couple in all but name relationship). Thats when I cut contact completely. And happily told me about the guy she has feelings for.
This is fucked up. Why the hell am I still hung up on her?

[Asker]

That's really a shitty thing she did.
Why we ( you are not alone) are stuck? Probably still need some ' justify ', some recognition. I think this video explains :

https://youtu.be/Ak6AWDwILf0

[enirikiu]

I have never been with anyone before but I miss my former best friend. I used to be much closer with him, but now we don't even look at each other. I feel so sucky all the time when I look at him in the hallway once in a while. It's a terrible feeling.

I miss his generosity, his helpfulness, his energy. I miss his humor, his daredevil nature, and his smile. I really want to see him smile at me again. His support was unending and constant. Even when he was the only one cheering for me, he still cheered really loud. Even when it might have been embarrassing to other people, he did it, still.

I miss my friend's presence. I always felt happier and more content with him around. Being with him put me at ease. He was a very good friend to me. But I didn't understand that our friendship was so fragile.

I'm sure if my classmate had never interfered, we would still be friends now. I can never face him. And when we graduate in May, I will never see him again.

It was a good run.

[Ahsthen]

Hell, I had a guy I was crazy about but who was mental and had to ex-communicate his ass visit me today. I told him, again, I'd holler when I was ready. And I don't see that happening. For fuck's sake. Now I know how some of my exes feel about me. It's some bit gratifying, the whole thing.

[AnonB17]

both. was with someone for 2 1/2 years. took a lot of shit for me to finally leave. Our relationship had died at like a year and a half, but we both couldn’t let go. After we finally broke up, I had convinced myself that I missed him, when in reality, I just missed being in a relationship. In other words, I missed having a boyfriend. I didn’t miss having HIM as a boyfriend. It sucks but when it’s time to let go it’s time to let go. I stayed with him through a lot because I was scared that if we broke up, I’d never find anyone else. I was single for almost two years and started to think “damn... maybe I was right. Maybe I shouldn’t have let him go. What if I end up dying alone.” After that I was so desperate to find a guy. And felt hopeless because I wasn’t having any luck. Then, as if by magic, as soon as I stopped desperately searching for someone, a guy finally came to me, and now I’m in a relationship.

[TheBaard]

While it's nice to hear an honest opinion that's so much like mine good luck with your new relationship

[VonDamme]

Currently I still miss my ex.
I do miss being intimate with someone. Like I want to cuddle and feel loved, but...

I made a really close friend, and I've developed feelings for him. He's the only one that has a chance to even hold a candle to my ex. I've tried going on dates and meeting new guys and I just don't feel anything. So, It's gonna have to be one or the other, but I definitely miss my ex specifically.

[Anonymous]

At first it was missing him, but then it turned into missing being with someone... So maybe it was the latter all the way? Maybe a bit of both.

[Asker]

Same with me. I have the same question to myself, maybe I miss being with someone intimate and sharing thoughts from the beginning. And he happened to be in that role.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, exactly. And when you realize that is kind of a relief, because you know you can have that with another person again in the future :)

[Asker]

I am trying to convince myself... my mind flips, haha.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO!
Yes, it's normal. Give yourself a bit more time. You'll be fine :)

[Ameya]

Who doesn't? Missing being with someone is what every human goes through. Heck that happens even when they are in a relationship/marriage and it doesn't really turn them on emotionally or romantically.
Mine is a joke, I've always longed for someone since I can remember and it's always a touch and go exercise for me. Nothing ever really works out the way I want, some or the other factor does become an impediment. But hey, I ain't old, so I still have hope and I wish the same for everybody commenting on here. Thanks for asking this as I needed to get this out of my system.

[DiegoO]

I miss her, and some times we chat but I am starting to believe she don't want much to do with me.

Every time I see her connected on FB she answer hours later or one day after, when I would answer her the fastest I could, and when I look behind it have been that way.

I sense that she was never that sure of her self, how she could feel sure of me? Anyways I wish her the best, even if she blocked me from her Facebook, no problem. I just wouldn't put a finger of effort to go and se her. I don't think I would want to see her also if that happened.

As much as you miss your ex, you gotta have self love and some pride. if you notice your ex don't take you in account anymore, time to move on completely. I hope it doesn't go that way but it is what it is..

[dtweed96]

Yes I missed being with someone but, people these days can be many things. Some can be fakes, some could be a problem, and others could be paranoid. I just don't dig giving deep tension into anyone without 1st building trust. They can do whatever they want, they can try and look cute and hit on me, they can try to be friendly, but I just don't fall in love so easily like gullible guys. They can just try and be themselves and let faith decide if anything real between us seems eligible, other than that I'd advise a woman to take a step on the down low before I escape their presence.

[weaponsdude]

I miss the thought of her being the one. I miss the thought of the future I had built in my head and how I was going to make her smile everyday, with doing the small things. I miss the children I had with her, in my imaginary world I had built. It's hard to watch all of that burn right before your eyes. Oh well, just another lesson that was learned the hard way. In other words, hell no I don't miss her. She dosent deserve that from me.

[ObscuredBeyond]

I'm still with the gal. But the long distance thing takes a toll on me. It pains not being able to stroke her hair. Having to maintain a delicate balance between her busy life and mine, and find time to talk when she lives 12 time zones away. The last time I walked away from a similar situation, doing so only made everything much much worse. Which is partly why I hang on to her now, even though it's hard to do.

[Anonymous]

You know how I got over pining for my exes (besides berating myself for acting like a heartbroken pu**y). I reached deep down and FORGAVE them.

It took me almost three years to forgive one ex I had. But after I forgave her I noticed myself slowly but surely feeling better. I realized that I quit letting her live rent free in my head. I realize that all the inner anger and heartbreak was accomplishing nothing, but I had to forgive her despite doing something so horrible.

The second with my other ex who ghosted me after 9 months of dating. I ran into her face to face two weeks ago at a local gym. I said "I forgive" and I walked on.

It's easier said than done. But it works.

[Anonymous]

I miss the person i thought he was. Instead, he turned out to be a cheater and a liar. That hurts me so deeply - I never trusted him, and it all makes sense now.

[Vicky7402]

I miss being in a relationship but not my ex. He was a douche and came crawling back because he realized how bad he fucked up. Left him without giving him a bad thing to say about me, that's true revenge

[Kaneki05]

The bad thing is my case is i don't miss her because she used to abuse me and make my life a misery, but i also do miss her and the abuse it. I don't why i do it's just she is always in my brain and do hate her but i want her back.

[Asker]

Love is addictive.

[Mrphil]

I just am going through this now.. I miss being with someone. I didn't quite get along with her she was always mad at me but I still miss being with her. She broke it off with me. If she told me to come back now.. I wouldn't cause now I'm mad at her she made me go homeless during winter out in the cold. You don't do that to family. We have a kid. I'll probably fall in love with the next woman that's nice to me I'm so tired of being single.. Alone..

[Urstupid]

I've accepted the possiblility of being independent. Girls are human, they make mistakes and not one is perfect (including my exes). Theyre character is what matters to me, but unfortunatlely most women are are passive, talk to much, dont do anything, or dont care about others.
I miss the feeling of being in love, but not the person i used to feel in love with

[Anonymous]

I miss human interaction lol. I'm becoming an anti-social hermit, and fprgetting how to socialize and be charming. I used to be way more outgoing, but more introverted now. I would love to have a girlfriend again, or even a friend that is a girl.

[CartNowon]

😣 me

[Imafreespirit]

I think about my ex every now and then and i do miss him sometimes but is not like i wanna go back with him or anything. He's a good guy so i miss hanging out with him, buuuuuuut life happens

[kinggoku]

It is coz you are attached to him still.

[acooke-13]

I don't miss HIM but I miss what we did, road trips singing in the car and just having someone to cuddle!

[LucasMedina95]

I think it's normal to miss aspects of that person. You're going to miss being intimate no matter what, if you're that kind of person. But everyone will miss certain parts of the people they've spent a lot of time with. Its like how you miss you're friends and family, they were a part of you're everyday life, and now, they aren't.

[Adam_S]

It can be hard. But in all honesty no one can help you let go. You can only do that after some time when you are ready. Until then focus on yourself and things that bring you Joy and maybe you can find your way. When I go through this I bury myself in books. It works for me.

[Chaz269]

I don't miss my exes until all the memories of their bad behavior fades. Then I get nostalgic, I suppose. Of course I often miss the intimacy of a romantic relationship, but at my age it's no longer worth the endless drudgery and suffering of dating.

[Ahsthen]

Fuck, never was. We were just more affording.

[jakeforfun]

I miss her AND I miss overall intimacy. The thing is, I've hooked-up with girls recently, and had cuddly, cutesy, intimate, even romantic, but it just wasn't the same with it not being HER (my Love, my ex).

[Chaoseverywhere]

I MISS MY BADGIRL (oh wait 90% of my ex badgirls)
becareful now. don't wanna make a niceguy gone badboy alright,
i ain't coming back either.

But there was this one badgirl that's fkn still on my mind.

[Anonymous]

I miss being with someone even though I never met someone like him we had really great connection the first time we met which I never felt. But things happen for a reason and just didn’t work out. It’s just rare finding someone that you can connect with so easily.

[GoodGuy131]

Something similar happened to me... I had a good connection with a girl, but I let a friend manipulate me and end up hurting her... Right now she is not my girlfriend anymore because of what happened, but we are still friends... There is not the same connection from before... I miss that 😕

[Opinion Owner]

Aw I’m in the same position we remain friends at least now we’re trying to and it’s been rough for me. I miss it too.

[GoodGuy131]

I hope there is a way to fix my feeling of loss or a way to fix the relationship with my ex.

[Opinion Owner]

What’s the problem? Is she not speaking to you?

[GoodGuy131]

It's very complicated, she does talk to me however it's not a deep conversation... It's just a meaningless conversation where it does not lead to anything

[Opinion Owner]

Like how are you guys now? What did you both agree on?

[GoodGuy131]

Sincerely... We do not agree on anything both... She wants us to be friends.. But I still like her so I do not give up yet...

[Opinion Owner]

I’ll message you and talk to you on there

[Opinion Owner]

Nvm I’m not able to. But did you tell her you wanted to be just friends too or more?

[GoodGuy131]

I tell her twice That i wanted to fix what we did wrong the first time and that i still wanted to be more than friends..

[GoodGuy131]

I would like to talk to you through a chat

[Opinion Owner]

Ohh I see, yeah she must be really hurt. Honestly if you can’t be just friends with her you need time apart with no contact for while. But if you’re able to stay friends then you can’t be talking about being more. I tried to do that too but it became worse. I’m now accepting to stay friends but not as much contact.

[GoodGuy131]

I don't Know... I really like this girl... I've been with her for three years now... She does not want any relationship with anyone for fear of being hurt again by someone.. Or that I have understood..

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it’s obvious she’s hurt, cause my ex is the same way. How long have you guys been friends?

[GoodGuy131]

Three years 😂

[GoodGuy131]

Okay no... Like friends friends only this year... But I Know her 3 years ago

[Opinion Owner]

Damn you guys been friends for a year and you still trying to be more?

[GoodGuy131]

Yep... Like i said.. I still do not give up..

[GoodGuy131]

I like her to much for that... And the way we ended and why we ended up were very unfair so that everything stays that way... I hate the persons that cause my suffering now

[Opinion Owner]

I guess it’s true guys tend to not move on for long time. What did you even do?

[GoodGuy131]

Ehhh... What did i do?

[Drumlin2001]

Having split with ex last month, I'm definitely missing having someone in my life. But not her particularly, too much manure under the bridge on that one.

[madhatters4]

i think when i've felt feeling so missing it's more missing those happy moments in a relationship or missing the person they seemed to be

[COCOCHANEL]

exactly

[madhatters4]

sorry for the typo it should of been "when i've felt feelings OF missing"

[GoodManDave]

I miss the connection, the intimacy I thought I had; it wasn't true intimacy, but it felt real at the time.

I don't miss any of my exes.

[Aret158]

Ι miss my old self. Not exes. I miss how brave I was when u really didn't care about people, things, clothes, or whatever. I miss my little me🌹

[Aret158]

U=i *

[Confidenceoverload]

Nope don’t miss her at all 😂 she cheated on me with my friend so I kicked his dumbass and kicked her out of my house I only fucks with people sexually now even though I want someone to cuddle with I’ve never cuddled 😩 or had a kiss soooo yeah

[odie2131]

I am divorced. I miss being married. Dating isn’t my strong thing. I enjoyed going home to one girl and looking forward to the future with that someone special. The problem was the ex wasn’t the right one. Don’t miss my ex.

[Najie_TooSweet]

Miss the intimacy for sure... but not the person i do think of him time to time but im better off without

[MadManInBlueBox]

I have an ex I still masturbate to, if that counts. I mean, we were a to total mismatch, but if I were single again, if try and convinced her to be a friends with benefits.

[Lovvyyy]

I don't miss any of my exes because it was me to the relationship in all 4 cases.
But I hate being single, I'm just not meant to be. I need to be spoiled and to spoil.

[harleydude202]

All I miss is not knowing if I will die alone. If a relationship ending it wasn't the one. I would rather be alone then not be with the one. Stupid as that sounds

[OvershareGamer]

I'm damn over my ex-wife but I'm definitely not over being alone.

[Anonymous]

My ex and I are friends. It took a year, but we started talking again after something upsetting I went through.

I don’t really miss what we had at all. I like not needing him. I do miss being in love and having someone I adored.

[Anonymous]

I would say both. I miss little things about him like his laugh, smile, how he was someone i could tell anything to. And i find myself missing things we did together like go out every weekend roaming the city. I miss being really close to someone.

[Rjking22]

I don't miss my ex. I do miss the companionship and having someone special to spend time with though

[Apope16]

I miss the sex. But mow that i have a new partner I dont miss her. Too many painful memories.

[Slim57]

I miss the good we had but not her, and the routine of every Saturday night, it gets really depressing on the weekends

[MrMAC777]

I miss what we had in the beginning, she ruined it, but I dont miss her. I am hoping to find that again. So I guess I just miss being with someone.

[Torte]

Humans are social beings so almost everyone Single is probably missing someone intimate. Also ONS are pretty hard to get😅

[didlydoo]

Yeah, but just remember it's always easier to look back and remember all the good before remembering any of the bad

[Anonymous]

I miss being with someone and being able to hug them. I don't even care who and if my background morals would let me I probably would have gotten a hooker or something even if just for sexless cuddles.

[Gingerguy33]

I just miss being intimate and being able to cuddle with someone whenever you wanted and you know that stuff

[Trippie_Bread]

I miss my last crush every single day and it feels like it just gets more and more

[RamptUp]

I just want someone to have an intimate connection with me like i used to have.

[amnomad76]

I miss being with someone who just got me. I miss the deep conversations. But I just couldn't deal with all of her idiosyncrasies and her lack of caring about herself.

[Asker]

What kind of deep conversation?

[Nouress]

I miss my first love my first boyfriend , he is married now it's been a year.. I miss him so much , and i was wondering why he has been on my mind all this time but now it hit me.. It's his wedding anniversary this week.. Wow.

[crotchwood]

I miss some things but i think about all the negatives and I'm so glad to be out of it and i just miss having someone

[jeff76]

I miss the intimacy and I miss having a partner... unfortunately she cheated to many times... now I miss not knowing who she really was inside.

[therainman]

Screw my ex! I haven't cared about her in years. What I miss is intimacy with someone. But I know that's not gonna happen anymore...

[Anonymous]

I just miss him, darn country man, so sexy fucking love him

[AlphaStyles]

I would miss her sometimes but the most part is missing someone intimate

[Ayer93]

Definitely don't miss them, but I miss the intimacy.

[JamesDylan1990]

I dunno I’m going through drama with my girlfriend now I’ll miss her but I wouldn’t miss the drama if we break up I’ll just be single like fuck it

[McKellar]

Deep down inside,... yes I do miss being with a woman & be intimate with a woman. ... and that is literally as blunt as I can get it.

[sam3324]

I miss being with someone but I don't miss either of my ex girlfriend's the one was so manipulative that I shouldn't have been with her

[sam3324]

If you're going through a break up and can't let go think of all of the reasons why you left that person. Did they treat you poorly, did they cheat or whatever the reason is it something you could forgive someone else for? If the answer is no then going back isn't worth it

[Nahid1234]

Rn Miss being with someone because i want someone to share compassion with. Rn I don’t have any girls tbh and I just need a new loyal girl in my life

[Nahid1234]

I agree with the update.

[TheBaard]

Both I miss the funny things we did and I miss being close to someone but she turned on me and never well be nice to me

[TheBaard]

Now she a Evil cunt

[OilOil]

Yeah. I miss but I miss our memories and person. I know it is impossible to go back so just remember good memories that we had in the past thus we can be good friend.

[Anonymous]

None. I love being single. It’s like a breath of fresh air

[que746]

If you've ever truly loved anyone, you WILL miss them... all of them.

[Juxtapose]

I miss the sex oh god yeessss. Emotionally I've never been close to anyone for long so meh..