Just catch up with her. You’ll probably realize she’s not as special as you imagine her to be.
very true... once you really get to know a person they’re not as great as they seem
Knowing her flaws doesn't help moving on, isn't it?
I dont know. I sometimes think you can't really move on until you find someone or something else to replace the void they leave in your heart. And she left a pretty big void. I genuinely thought we were made for eachother, and still dont really get why she felt we didn't work in the first place (it got a bit messy later which is where a lot of her less pleasant side really showed). I think the problem is she changed how I look at myself, for the better. she's the first partner to actually compliment me on my looks. She really really oppenned up my sexuality a lot (not in terms of anything weird just... before her sex had often felt like a chore). So in a weird sort of way I am serving as a direct reminder of the good times.
Well, at least, she made you feel good about yourself in important ways. Hope you will find someone new to fill the void.
I mean, you will find that person SOON.
Hope so. Im sort of worried my dog and I are spending entirely too much time together. I caught myself discussing the weather with him and offering him a cup of tea yesterday. This weekend we are going to pick out a new colour for the dining room :p
I have been thinking about getting a dog, seriously.
Don't get a collie. They are too smart. Too oppinionated. To nuerotic. And now he's looking at me because he can sense Im insulting him online. Lol. Dogs are good. Love, companionship, cuddles. A reason to push yourself to get some physical excercise.
Oh crap and now she's calling me out of the blue and even though she's dated in the meantime, and is already interested in someone else, she's flirting with me like its going out of fashion... GREAT.
How do you know she is dating other people? That doesn't sound like a wise move (her). You okay?
Well she started dating one a couple of weeks after the last time we had sex and I found out via things posted on facebook (we fell into a weird couple in all but name relationship). Thats when I cut contact completely. And happily told me about the guy she has feelings for. This is fucked up. Why the hell am I still hung up on her?
That's really a shitty thing she did. Why we ( you are not alone) are stuck? Probably still need some ' justify ', some recognition. I think this video explains : https://youtu.be/Ak6AWDwILf0
Hell, I had a guy I was crazy about but who was mental and had to ex-communicate his ass visit me today. I told him, again, I'd holler when I was ready. And I don't see that happening. For fuck's sake. Now I know how some of my exes feel about me. It's some bit gratifying, the whole thing.
While it's nice to hear an honest opinion that's so much like mine good luck with your new relationship
Same with me. I have the same question to myself, maybe I miss being with someone intimate and sharing thoughts from the beginning. And he happened to be in that role.
Yes, exactly. And when you realize that is kind of a relief, because you know you can have that with another person again in the future :)
I am trying to convince myself... my mind flips, haha.
Thanks for MHO! Yes, it's normal. Give yourself a bit more time. You'll be fine :)
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Love is addictive.
Fuck, never was. We were just more affording.
Something similar happened to me... I had a good connection with a girl, but I let a friend manipulate me and end up hurting her... Right now she is not my girlfriend anymore because of what happened, but we are still friends... There is not the same connection from before... I miss that 😕
Aw I’m in the same position we remain friends at least now we’re trying to and it’s been rough for me. I miss it too.
I hope there is a way to fix my feeling of loss or a way to fix the relationship with my ex.
What’s the problem? Is she not speaking to you?
It's very complicated, she does talk to me however it's not a deep conversation... It's just a meaningless conversation where it does not lead to anything
Like how are you guys now? What did you both agree on?
Sincerely... We do not agree on anything both... She wants us to be friends.. But I still like her so I do not give up yet...
I’ll message you and talk to you on there
Nvm I’m not able to. But did you tell her you wanted to be just friends too or more?
I tell her twice That i wanted to fix what we did wrong the first time and that i still wanted to be more than friends..
I would like to talk to you through a chat
Ohh I see, yeah she must be really hurt. Honestly if you can’t be just friends with her you need time apart with no contact for while. But if you’re able to stay friends then you can’t be talking about being more. I tried to do that too but it became worse. I’m now accepting to stay friends but not as much contact.
I don't Know... I really like this girl... I've been with her for three years now... She does not want any relationship with anyone for fear of being hurt again by someone.. Or that I have understood..
Yeah it’s obvious she’s hurt, cause my ex is the same way. How long have you guys been friends?
Three years 😂
Okay no... Like friends friends only this year... But I Know her 3 years ago
Damn you guys been friends for a year and you still trying to be more?
Yep... Like i said.. I still do not give up..
I like her to much for that... And the way we ended and why we ended up were very unfair so that everything stays that way... I hate the persons that cause my suffering now
I guess it’s true guys tend to not move on for long time. What did you even do?
Ehhh... What did i do?
sorry for the typo it should of been "when i've felt feelings OF missing"
It is coz you are attached to him still.
If you're going through a break up and can't let go think of all of the reasons why you left that person. Did they treat you poorly, did they cheat or whatever the reason is it something you could forgive someone else for? If the answer is no then going back isn't worth it
I agree with the update.
Now she a Evil cunt
What kind of deep conversation?
what was the issue?
@deedee87 My exGF couldn't let go of the emotional baggage she had from her previous relationships which in turn affected ours by pushing me away!
how did she push you away?
@deedee87 Unhealthy jealousy, paranoif, tried to be possessive and controlling!