Why have I never been asked for my number?

[LLchem]

I feel I am pretty, in shape, and fairly outgoing. But I have never been asked for my number or asked out by a guy. Example, today I was at the gym with friends and this guy kept looking at me and I thought he was interested in me. We kept catching each others eye until he left a little while later with his friend. Then about a minute later he walks back in and walks straight towards me. I thought for sure this was going to be the first time someone asked me for my number! Alas, he said he saw I had a wrestling shirt on and if I knew if the school had a wrestling class. I told him I had just moved here so I didn't know and he walked off. FML! I don't know what it is, but it's never happened to me. What the heck? Can someone explain this?

[AdamThomas]

Most guys are intimidated by a hot girl, especially ones that don't look friendly. A lot of guys see a hot girl and automatically think that if he approaches her she's going to be a bitch. If you want to get more guys to approach you you should open up your body language. If a guy you like looks at you, smile. Maybe even wave. When a guy approaches you with a question like that, he's normally using it as an excuse to talk to you because he's interested in you.

Maybe you came across as a little unfriendly and dismissive when he asked you the question. Imagine going up to a really hot guy you like, expecting him to be rude, asking him about his wrestling shirt, him looking a little uninterested and just going "I only just moved here, so I don't know". He thought you weren't interested, so her left before it got too awkward. I don't think most girls understand how hard it is for most guys to have the balls to go up and approach them.

So yeah, all you need to do next time is try to continue the conversation, and be friendly. Turn the conversation onto something you have in common, and maybe you could suggest you get together with the guy sometime?

Hopw this helps :)

[ThirtyThree]

You hit the nail on the head there dude.

[zacattack]

well here's one you can count. what's your number?

i would say that cerneabbasgiant, adam thomas and anonymous user(the one with two thumbs ups) are all correct. Most men will not ask a complete stranger for her number... it doesn't work and women think you are a creep( I know from experience) And if he does get the guts to go up to you and start a conversation, the way the girl responds and uses her body language will determine if the guy will want to ask for her number. if he doesn't seem to be making good progress that will be a sign for him to leave.

as for not ever getting asked for your number; you may be ridiculously beautiful, and therefore highly intimidating, or you may never be in situations that guys like to ask for a girls number. I myself would never ask a girl at the gym for her number, and not a complete stranger. I usually ask for girls numbers whom I have made conversation with and feel like something in common. and even then it can and usually results in failure. if you think you should more often be asked. why not do the asking yourself. hope this helped

[girlsguys88]

What others said..he was totally interested, mustered up the courage to make up a reason for talking to you but lost his nerve and didn't get enough encouraging vibes.

So did you ask him anything aside from answering his question or smile and seem friendly? If not, try the next time. Make sure to give him the eye, he'll come over again no worries.

It's not the beautiful girl who necessarily gets asked out (altho she does I'm sure), it's the friendly looking girl with a friendly aura and esp a nice smile.

Good luck!

[Kiwitulip]

Asking about the wrestling was def just an excuse to talk to you I reckon ;) (why was he looking at your shirt anyway! lol) He prob wanted to ask you out and walking towards you may have been the first step! Did you act uninterested (when perhaps you were just shy).

You're not alone! Being pretty/outgoing doesn't always land you a date...if only it was that easy ;)

[Anonymous]

He was trying to start a conversation with you but it didn't go well and he couldn't think of anything else to say so left. I bet he is wishing he could of thought of more to say right now. As for asking for numbers I have never asked a girl for her number the first time I've met her. It doesn't happen as much as you think except at bars where people are drunk lol. So don't be down on yourself that nobody asked for your number.

[CerneAbbasGiant]

I'm in my late thirties and I have NEVER asked a complete stranger for her number. I'd only ask a woman for her number if we were already having a good long conversation and I thought she actually liked me.

[dynamic23]

It's really uncomfortable to come up to a girl out of the blue and ask for her number. Even if a guy were to approach you, if you came off as standoffish, he may just walk away.

[Anonymous]

i don't really ask a girl for her number when I talk to her first time,especially if I know I will see the girl again later ,big reason I just don't want to look desperate and most girls don't give their number in the first talk

[Anonymous]

Maybe he likes you or he just liked the shirt etc, maybe next time you can approach him etc...start a casual conversation...

[Anonymous]

Most guys get intimidated by girls that pretty, in shape and fairly outgoing. So they play it off, like you ain't a big deal. Classic case.

[23tdmoss]

can I get your number?

[doctorwhofan23]

Don't wait to be asked give it to a guy you like