How long does it take a guy to miss his ex if it was a mutual break up?

[Anonymous]

We dated for 8 months, and have mutually ended things. It was intense love; he often talked about marrying me, and he would say he wanted a family with me someday. But we were long distance, and since he is joining the military, we knew it was a dead end relationship. He didn't want to put effort in, and I didn't really want to date him anymore. It's like the "honeymoon" phase just ended. Its been a week, and I don't want to get back together or anything, but I just wonder if he's in pain as I am. It hurts to think about, and my curiosity is torturing me. What do you guys think?

[exhalingwilcox]

from my observations online relationships DO NOT work. the two parties build an idea of the other, as well as being able to hide your flaws which is a big one.

since you have no idea what he's been doing it's almost impossible to guess. he could've found somebody new, he could be preoccupied with work/hobbies.. but most likely he doesn't feel/miss a thing because there's nothing physical to miss

[Snomandave]

I think he's feeling the same way. Not really sure if he's someone who talks about his feelings and emotions a lot, but for him to talk about a future means it was real for him as well. Some guys may not show it on the outside but the feelings are thers.