Have you ever dumped someone you were in love with?

[newbie2015]

Have you ever dumped someone you were in love with? Maybe you were insecure? Or afraid of getting hurt? Or maybe you just weren't ready? If so Did you regret it?

[Duckie96]

My girl of 3 years broke up with me last year, because I was being lazy and had no job for a while. She severely regretted it after testing the waters and sleeping around.

When she came crawling back 5 months later, she was in tears and her life was in pieces because she spent so long worrying about me that she didn't properly take care of herself.

Her words were "I wish I could just move away and get a house with you, and live away from everybody else."

I started sleeping with her again and took her on a couple dates but it was too late.

The fact that she temporarily doubted me, and thought she could find better than our 3 years - that thought killed me.

My trust decayed rapidly, and within a month I decided I wanted a relationship, but she was no longer a suitable fit. I needed to move on and find somebody to start fresh with.

I'm now making good money and performing well at my current job. I know her decision to give me a break is one of the toughest decisions she has ever had to make, but it is also now one of her biggest regrets and it still lives and breathes with her. If she gave me another 6 months, she would have seen me find my calling, and how much my job changed my life. She would be happy - but a lack of patience hindered her, and time wasn't on her side.

Now she will continue her search for somebody else with another scar on her heart. We both learnt a valuable lesson, it's just a shame that even though we were extremely compatible - her choice for a break irreparably destroyed my trust completely.

Now she's just a distant memory that grows further and further the more I move on and focus on myself.

We once woke up next to eachother, with love in our hearts. Now we're nothing to eachother.

The only times I mention her now are times like this, where I can use my experience to educate others.

[ShadowGamer]

Your a better man then me cause if I had a partner do that to me after 3 years I would of just told her to keep fucking moving. I wouldn't give a toss about her at all she made her bed now she can sleep in it.

[Diznedude]

I broke up with the love of my life 30 years ago and I regret it every day. I was insecure and we were both young. We reconnected after twenty years and we both still have feelings for each other and are probably best friends. Had we met 5 years later, I think we would have stupidly happy together for the rest of our lives.

[bethshepherd]

I have never dumped someone I am in love with, nor have I ever been dumped. My relationships would not get off the ground and begin if they were not going to be serious and long lasting. But I do have a lot of clients who come to me, usually women, who are in nasty relationship situations and need to end them. Maybe they have been throwing themselves at a married man who is not worth the bother, or a single man who is not really into them, or got nothing to offer them. But when you want someone who does not love you or is not good for you it is best to end it. http://www.accuratepsychicreadingsonline.com

[pteeuwen]

Yes, I broke up with the one true love of my life. I was afraid. Afraid of getting hurt, afraid of the direction week were going, and tired of his lack of recognition of our problems. I regretted it every day for a year and a half. We got back together, are engaged, and expecting. I now regret none of it because the time without him taught me I simply couldn't live without him

[newbie2015]

This sounds like fate to me 😍

[pteeuwen]

I was lucky enough to find my one true love, no matter how far or how fast I ran, I always ended up running to him. Fate, luck, whatever you want to call it, I'm one lucky woman

[azzntittiz]

I gave up a dog for adoption because we keep getting separated, he had too many tragedies, I couldn't give him the life he deserved and my ex lost him at one time. It hurt to give him away but I felt he didn't deserve to suffer because my life was shit, does that count?

[Oohlalala]

I have, I discovered he was sneaking around meeting other women behind my back and sleeping with a couple of them, I loved him but I knew that I deserved better so I finished with him. Sometimes you have to listen to your head rather than your heart.

[dothejohnwall97]

Would you he ok if he met other women behind your back but he didn't sleep with then

[Oohlalala]

@dothejohnwall97 if he had said that he was meeting them for a drink then I would be fine with that, I only found out via friends who had spotted him, he used to get phone calls from these women late at night and early hours of the morning where he would jump out of bed and talk out of earshot. I didn't take calls from my male friends and go and talk elsewhere as I had nothing to hide and I introduced him to my friends whereas he used to be cagey about it or react angrily. Two of the women even messaged me to tell me they'd slept with him.

[dothejohnwall97]

can't men sleep around as long as he comes home to you? Like we just want to Have fun, and be good to our women too

[Oohlalala]

@dothejohnwall97 would you want your girlfriend to sleep around? If people want to sleep around then that's fine and their choice but when I'm in a relationship I am faithful and I expect the same in return. It's not as my sex life with my ex was lacking, it was a very active and enjoyable sex life. My ex realised his mistake when I broke up with him and I think he cried more than I did but he broke my trust ( and my heart) and I knew that cheaters never really change their ways

[dothejohnwall97]

No, my woman is my woman and only mine. No one else can sleep with her except me. But i feel entitled to enjoy other women because i know i treat my girl right. I support her emotionally and financially. She does not know i slept with 1 oter woman, but that woman is jist a co-worker and we are not emotionally connected. Also my friends took me to the strip club, ever since i went i feel in love with the strip club and i think im addicted

[Oohlalala]

@dothejohnwall97 I feel bad for your girlfriend if that's your attitude. What makes you think that you're entitled to sleep around but expect your girlfriend to remain faithful? Surely your girlfriend should be entitled to try out other men in that case?

[dothejohnwall97]

No she can't try other men. And i did this a while back with my co worker, it was a 1 time thing and will never ever happen Again. But the strip club is fine because i inly get lap dance, i dont actually get sex from them , you know?

[Oohlalala]

@dothejohnwall97 strip clubs are different from sleeping around. Strip clubs I can get on board with but sleeping with another girl when you're in a relationship shows a lack of respect for your girlfriend.

[dothejohnwall97]

Like i said, i stopped sleeping around but i will not tell her it ever happened because then she would leave me

[ENTP_EMO]

It was the right thing to do

I broke up with a girl
I broke up with me,
I broke up with her,
I don't want to hurt, anymore,
It was the right thing to do

1, deserving of such a noble deed.
Have laid nights with endless torment and remorse,
They were cold and ruthless.
Indeed It doesn't stop
But I couldn't lie, I wouldn't shy,
to get them away from the plight
as darkness devours
It'll get me, I know,
just here wanting,
hoping every day, she will stop by
to talk,
For without her, I cannot walk
It was the right thing to do

[NineBreaker]

No! Absolutely not. Why would I dump a girl who I'm in love with without a good reason? That's not even logical. We all have insecurities, and I don't know a lot of people who at least don't want to get hurt. However, I value loyalty above all else. I have a very high threshold for dumping a girl, like in situations like cheating, betrayal, infidelity... etc. reckless behavior, physical abuse, manipulation, deception, malice... etc.

If the cause is irreconcilable differences that become reconcilable, then that's a different story.

[Bjorn526]

Yes. I dumped a girlfriend who i was madly in love with. I felt, at the time, for my own mental health and self-respect that it was something I had to do, because she would not change a behavior I felt was easily fixable, yet, likely, she felt was a way to measure how much my feelings would override my self-respect, as a way of gaining power over me

[newbie2015]

So does this mean you regret it or no?

[Bjorn526]

I don’t regret it, I regret that I couldn’t do whatever it took, to make, what I felt, shouldn’t be necessary to explain to her and then it became more or less, her wanting me to compromise my self respect, and a stand-off, which I wasn’t going to do. So, no, I don’t regret it

[Bjorn526]

And, she was dealt her first dumping... so maybe I did her future boyfriends a favor, who knows... but if manipulation becomes more important than consideration of feelings, what is the point? But if she just fixed that one little thing, she would of been the woman of my dreams

[Gigi49]

Yes I was insecure with myself and broke up with him even though It broke me. At the time I thought it was better for him as well, and he moved on and I didn't and I regret that as of today, but I just have to learn from my mistakes

[rjroy3]

Yes i have, yes I did regret it, but also didn't know what else to do. Pretty much all minus one relationship we broke up, when we were still in love. The ones where love was still there I regretted not making it work/not being able to make it work at the time.

[jaidee]

I have.
At some point in the relationship, I voiced the problem about me being the only one making efforts and I said there was a need to have her contribute some efforts. 6 months later, nothing had changed. I loved her deeply. But it had to be done.

[djmzes]

Then you were not in love.

[Goodwifie]

Yes because he was going on an amazing working holiday.
He was only 20 and I was 23, I didn't want to hold him back from anything or anyone that he could experience.
I was beside myself when he left.

[HelloMyNameizChris]

I was dumped by someone who loved me and i loved them. She was afraid that she wasn't good enough for me and i deserved someone better. I dont think she's relized it was a mistake yet but hopefully she'll come around. :/

[N0RELL]

I have.
She and I had different ideas for the future.
It was extremely hard leaving her, and I sometimes wonder whether I did the right thing, but I also wonder whether I would have been happy living the life, she had planned for us.

[Pikachula]

Almost, I had the feeling he wasn't as serious about me and he wanted something more casual.
Then I changed my mind right away and he broke up with me because he thought about it and we wanted different thing at the moment 😅

[ShadowGamer]

Yeah but it wasn't something I wanted to do but had to do for my own sanity an emotional wellbeing because my girlfriend of a year was extremely insecure and untrustworthy among other issues due to the way her exs had treated her and over time it just got to be were I felt like a prisoner an not a boyfriend I don't regret doing it but I do regret that it broke her heart and probably didn't help an that we didn't keep in touch.

[YangBH]

yes. coz he hurt me so bad. broke up with me and he had a new girlfriend and he even introduced me to her. then they broke up coz the girl cheated and he came back yo me crying and wants me back. I said no and told him we are better off as friends.

[adamjanovic]

Yes, he turned out to be severely depressed and refused to get help, I was unhappy with him and just couldn’t stay with him anymore.

[Aminoacids]

I just got out of a 6 year relationship she broke up with me for a silly reason and lied and we were still communicating with each other than she started randomly playing mind games with me and my heart is soo shattered and it depends on the length of the relationship but yes because after the break up you both will feel the same things

[Mr_Perks]

I'm currently in this situation, I'm with the girl of my dreams, we have both come out of abusive relationships and everything seemed perfect but then I found out she's been messaging and sending pictures to other guys.
I don't want to leave her because she's the one but at the same time I really can't stay. But at the end of the road you have to do what's best for you regardless of everything

[Duckie96]

Screw that bro. Cut her out and find the real dream girl.

[LeonChaz]

Yeah I've done That, my girlfriend cheated on me with two of my good friends in highschool and her and her bestfriend fell out because of it.. Her friend and I started hanging out and I was falling for her rather hard but I was also scared I wasn't good enough for a girl like her so I panicked and cut it off.. Now she's getting married next march and I'm sitting here along thinking about her

[TinaSP]

Im a very pragmatic person. If I dont wanna love I dump before. IF he is not worthy of my feelings and time I dump right away. Love yourself then others

[CotyA12]

I regret it. I thought I wasn't ready for a serious long term relationship cause I was "young" to this day I still think about her and how I let the ONE go.

[MMM369]

I dumped her because she wanted a break and never got back together although she wanted to go back after two months