Have you ever dumped someone to later regret it?

I would like to hear from the dumper's perspective here. Maybe you felt the person wasn't right for you to later realize that you actually loved that person very much.
And if so, how long did it take you to realize this?
Please be honest in your responses.


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Ok with honesty!

    I dumped a girl, for her own good. I still love her, but her happiness lets me sleep at night.

    Dont take it personally. There are other reasons out there

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Most Helpful Girl

  • It didn't happen to me. Two guys I dated did. And you know what? It's both satisfying and very flattering, but also very VERY annoying. Because they're always clinging to you even when you said "no".
    What is worth is when you give your attention to the wrong person, and someone else tons better who literally adores you shows up. You're already dating someone, so you can't dump one to get with the other. But when you figure out that you're finally done with that person you were with and that other guy loses interest, that's the worst feeling ever.

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What Guys Said 16

  • No, in moments of weakness I have been tempted to get back with them, but ultimately I recalled why I broke up to begin with. In retrospect, I am grateful I stuck to my decision. It was best for both of us in each case.

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  • Ya one still to this day I wonder where it would've gone. At that time in my life o was in my early twenties and needed to grow and so did she it took a couple weeks to realize it and I even called her to tell her How I really felt by then she'd Meet someone she Wanted to see where it went. They broke up once and I tried to get her back. And she resisted my advances now she is married to that guy. On the upside the following 7yrs I had the opportunity to spend it with someone. Who motivated me to go to school and graduate.

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  • Yes happened a few times actually... and there were mostly recent

    It took as long as it takes for any random event to occur, in to then change my perspective about the person... it took about 10 dates with 1 and 6 months with another... to only realize later it was a good thing

    Funny thing is they both never responded to me after, till today... best revenge I tell ya lol

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    • Thanks for the response. Why did you break up if you don't mind me asking?

  • I've never regretted it, but I have looked back at one time or another of it was a good decision. Then the girl would do some fucked up shit that pretty much convinced me I made the right decision. When you dump a girl and her response is to try hooking up with your best friend in order to make you jealous... kind of shows you her character.

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  • Nope. When I have decided something was over. It was over.

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  • I've made girls dump me but later regretted it, intentionally saying things to make her end the relationship and never talk to me. It was a defense mechanism that I had for a long time and will still use on occasion when I don't want someone to see me collapse under my failure.

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  • No, usually it was for a good reason such as my last girlfriend ( ex)
    was going to dump me for another guy and i did some of my own
    research to find out and sure it enough it was true..

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  • yeah i was in a gay relationship with someone 19 years younger, and i dumped him because neither of us were out and the pressure around that.. i regret it.

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    • Sorry to hear that. That's a really tough one. I had a friend in a similar situation. He was dumped by his partner as he couldn't come out due to his religion.

  • Nope, whenever i. broke up with someone it was for good reasons. Why second guess yourself with decisions you have made in the past. Im glad I've moved on and dont look at the past with regret.

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  • Twice. But I had a valid reason.

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    • What were your reasons?

    • I estimated them older when we started talking but when i knew their age I had to take my distance. I'm afraid I didn't do it as nicely as they hoped.
      I regretted not even kissing them. (I was myself a teen then)

  • Nope. But my ex sure regrets it. :)

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  • No. I'm hoping this one girl regrets never even giving me a chance.

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  • nope, I've tried it it never works, or it's too painful

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  • I've generally wondered why I stayed so long, once I'd dumped them and had time to let feelings fade.

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  • I missed this one broad I dumped only because the sex was so good (and often). Aside from that nope; good riddence

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  • "Fuck That Bitch" is my motto!

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What Girls Said 17

  • I broke up with my boyfriend because he started getting distant and I completely regret it and if he came back to me I would be absolutely the happiest person on the face of the planet. It was the saddest thing to let him go and I regret doing it because I really cared about him and should have asked him what was going on rather than going over to his place to end it. I should have fought for our relationship because now I am miserable without him in my life.

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  • never ever. once I'm down with a guy, I'm done. i lose all energy and emotion i ever had for him.

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  • I regret things that i should of done, but didn't (for whatever reason). Dumping someone is never a regret for me.

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  • Nope. But I lied to a guy telling him I didn't like him when I actually liked him a whole fucking lot and I regretted it so much and still do.

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  • To be honest I have like twice but there's one where I was with some guy that was actually kind of bossing me around and didn't give me space and became a little too clingy, I didn't mind that until I found out that he was doing the same to 2 other girls, so I left him. I was so hurt becuz we had been together for 2 years and a bit and he was cheating on me, I thought that I should take him back I was so depressed for like a week or 2. But I think if there was a legit reason for you to leave then maybe you should just stick to that, no matter how much it hurts.

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  • Nope. Usually before it I review with myself why I'm doing this and if I know if I will regret it or not. If I say yes, which I never do, I'll go over it again until I find the solution as to whether I break up or not.

    But no, I never regret it because when I'm feeling anxious about someone and I know there's nothing I can fix I drop the relationship.

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  • Once I dumped him all my emotions for him were gone. I didn't care about him anymore so no I don't regret it

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  • i've never been the dumper, i've always been the dump-ee :/

    but I do know a friend that regretted it once and got back together with him and they stayed together for a couple more months.

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  • No.. honestly I've never really regretted dumping any of them. They deserved to be dumped

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  • Nope. I have no regrets. Just lessons learned.

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  • I dumped a guy once cause I was getting hate being with him. Regretted afterwards and thought should of gave him a chance. But now I don't even think about him.

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  • Once and I got back with him and regretted it because the same problems caused us to break up again

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  • This happened to me. It was my first love and I was with him just over a year (back then that was AGES) anyway, after about 13 months I dumped him, I regretted it almost immediately and it took me 9 months to get over it. But now, I love my life and listening to my gut was that what brought me to where I am now. I'm so happy I didn't go back

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  • I dumped my current boyfriend first time we dated because I didn't feel like I had strong feelings for him and because he wasn't exactly being the romantic person I wanted. But honestly as soon as I left I missed him terribly and it was too late by the time I realized how much I really loved him. 8 months later, HE messaged me telling me he still missed me and wanted me back. I NEVER got over him in those 8 months. And it's amazing how life works in mysterious ways.

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  • I broke up with my ex twice and I regretted it after only a week both times. I was so mad at him and the easiest escape to end the fights was to leave him. But when I calmed down, I realized there are other ways to end fights, by explaining ourselves for example. Seems obvious but it's so hard to keep calm during a fight. Both times when I left him was during my pms. So that doesn't really helped me calm down. :P Anyways, I missed him so much it hurted me inside, so I had to do something about it.

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  • I thought maybe at first I made a mistake. But then I let it sink in and thought about what he did... and no, I do not regret it. My gut was right, and I believe I did the right thing.

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  • i have never regretted it.

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