Why did my ex boyfriend text me on the holiday?

I dated my ex for a few months, we broke up on his terms after he lost his job and had a nervous breakdown saying he has his own issues. I suspected he went psycho. He seemed unsure about his decision when we broke up and tried to stay in contact only for big moments in our lives the past 1.5 months. He finally got mad at me for saying some mean things to him since he was treating me poorly. He took me off facebook and said he didn't want to talk to me if we were going to fight. I wrote him an apology note a week ago and got no response. He sent me a text on Thanksgiving saying "Hi there, I hope you and your family had a great Thanksgiving." Why would he text me after pushing me completely out of his life and not even mention the note? I know it's not a mass text because of the greeting and knowing what kind of contacts he has on his phone. Help!


Most Helpful Girl

  • He broke-up after having several other serious things go down in his life. He may be unsure of his feelings for you and, at the least, wants to be friendly or cordial. I wouldn't take this one message as meaning he is ready to see you or get back together, but it is a nice gesture.

    As far as him treating you badly and you retaliating, learn a lesson from this. The old adage, two wrongs don't make a right is so true. I get how hard it is to resist lashing out at someone who is being a jerk, but sadly, it often ends up with you, the victim, looking as bad as the person who started it. In fact, after a few negative exchanges people start to forget who "started" it and it just turns into a nasty mess. If he were to go down that path again, I would cut contact and if he tried to talk to me again, I would start by letting him know that his previous actions were unacceptable and asking for an apology (and in a calm way, not a bitchy way).


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What Guys Said 1

  • Because he's not sure about the break up, or maybe he just wants sex.

    • well you know him more than I can say. Guys usually look for us girls for sex but we are smarter than that!

    • Sex is all women want from men as well. Preferably men plural.

    • I agree that people look to relationships for sex very often but I know for a fact that is the case with this guy. We are long distance and our relationship wasn't built on that. Any other guesses?

What Girls Said 1

  • He is abviously unsure of what he wants. It seems that he was talkign to some other female. I tell you because it sounded similar to what happend to me years ago. I think he send you that card because he still rememebers you and misses u. He shouldn't had treated you that way. he should of been honest with you about watever was botehring him. Hope I helped!


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    • Yea, I question him having another girl and maybe it didn't work out so he contacted me. I don't know why he blew me off so harshly for no reason and then wishes me well on Thanksgiving. We only dated for a few months so it's not like we shared these times together and I don't know why he is trying to be so nice and polite when he clearly wants nothing to do with me!

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