I broke up with him, but I want him back?

[Anonymous]

It started when I was about to get off of work. I called him to let him know I was getting off and if he would be home. He told me he wasn't gonna be there and that I should just go to my house. (I live with him, but when he's not home, I won't stay there as its his mom's house, and I know he's not cheating) THAT PISSED ME OFF, because I thought he would tell me he would be there and just wait. lol,

I called him and told him that I just can't take it anymore and I guess its off, and he said "that's cool". WTF? He didn't really want to talk to be "because he was with his hommies".

I was soo pissed that I told him I would go to his house and pick up my "stuff" and leave. He wasn't thinking everything, just the personal stuff. But I took everything I bought: PS3, sheets, candles, etc.

He went straight from hanging out with his hommies to school and didn't come home until 8:30PM.

he was thinking everything was okay, somewhat and texted me that he's at school now, and I'll be home. And when he got off, he said "I'm off now". Which neither I responded to.

when he was at the house, he texted, "don't forget to bring the games back", which I clearly didn't take. I said I wanted to talk to him (as now I'm regretting for what I have done) and that I was just mad. He texted me "peace".

I know he's mad, but I know what I did was wrong and that I may have an anger issue, but will he ever forgive and take me back? Will he ever call? How long before he "cools off"?

PS: this happened before and I took everything, about a year ago, and told him not to call me again. A week later I called him and we went out to eat.

[sexwiseman]

If I was in his shoes, I would react the same way; of course, because you have done the same in the past, he could be waiting for you to call back and made the peace; sounds to me he is not going to do it; I wouldn't either, if I were him.

NOw, had I been back in my nice guy, run me over mode, I would be the one calling you trying to figure out what happened, etc. However, from the sounds of it, he won't be pulling that stunt. From my views he is executing his part extremely well; so only option you have is to go up to him, and apologize for what you did. By now, he is either used to ur anger explosions or he might have gotten fed up with them. I honestly don't think he needs to cool off. He is already cooled off. I think the ball is in your court, and next time, there is no problem in getting angry; that's a normal emotion; you just have to deal with the anger in a different way, rather than breaking up on an anger whim.

[Asker]

I did call him and he said (texted) me that he didn't want to, then texted "peace". any advice?

[sexwiseman]

What exactly did you text him?

[Asker]

Word for word: "i just called you. I wanna talk to u" then he said "peace"

[Asker]

Word for word: "i just called you. I wanna talk to u", then he texted ,"peace"...?

[sexwiseman]

His response is fine cause that's what I would do to let you know that you're the one that screwed up and if you wanna talk, you better do better than texting. If I were to send the text, the msg behind it is, 'you wanna talk? Come and do it then." So go over to his place to return the games, and have the talk then; what I don't know o f course is if he is tired of your explosions. Your text msg is weak. It should have been 'i screwed up, ill be over to talk.' YOu're taking action, not waiting 4 it

[Asker]

I know this pretty much happend last night, but would it be okay for me to text him? I'm scared that he won't answer my calls as he did last night.

[sexwiseman]

If you call or text he can choose not to answer to either. Your best bet is just to go there with the excuse of giving him back his video games, and get on ur knees and beg for forgivenes. :) Thing is, we don't know if he is fed up with you, or if he is just teaching you a lesson; had this been the first time, I would say give him time to cool off; but as uve done this in the past, this requires immediate attention and you askng for forgiveness

[Asker]

Well I told him I'm tired of this, and he said me too. and that's when I said its off then. so, if he's just tired of this, as I am too, (but at the same time I realized I should have given his space) then what are the chances of taking this all back and being together once again. but I do want him back. ;(

[sexwiseman]

You won't find oout unless you go there and 'talk' with him. Sometimes we need to put our egos aside if we want something. Yes, is no fun to go there and apologize, but tehn again, you shouldn't haave been so hasty in breaking apart. You make a choice. YOu go talk to him or you sit there wondering, what if?

[Asker]

Thats very true. I'm just scared of what if he's not there or something. I do want to see him, but don't want to seek up on him and make it look like I'm stalking him too. overall, your right and supportive. I really appreciate your help! ^_^

[fairy]

if all this happend a year ago and then you saw him again. . well have you seen him after you went to eat with him? if not then you should just forget about him and move on , if I was in your shoes after I told him not to call me again I wouldn't of never call him because it was over !

[Asker]

No we got back together and I spontaniously said its over. (just two days ago, we've been together for 2 years) I don't know what to do. he won't answer my calls but sometimes texted me back. is it too soon to see him even tho I know he doesn't want to talk?