I want him back?

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex broke up a while ago and I kind of missed him (or the idea of him I don't know). Recently he started saying some random compliments and even said he missed me (I don't know If it’s as a friend cuz when we broke up we decided to stay as friends but never talked after that or romantically) but never responded to any of my replies. But lately he acts like I don’t exist and completely ignores me.
any advice?

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I forgot to mention that me and him broke up because he cheated but now he doesn’t post anything with his girlfriend like he used to so I don't know if they are still together or not

[SueShe]

It does not really matter whether him and his girlfriend broke up or not. Fact is that he cheated on you and that is the only element that counts.

He may miss you because he knows that you are ready to take him back, regardless whether he cheated or not. You don't want to take back such a person because you know that he could cheat on you again and again and again.

Keep him as a friend (at best) but if you know what is right for you, you don't take him back because he is a compulsive cheater. If he knows he can get off the hook cheating with you, there is no reason why he will not do it over again.

[sensible27]

Odd, how do you know he's a compulsive cheater and that he hasn't changed

[SueShe]

@sensible27 Once a cheater, always a cheater. That makes the person compulsive. It is only a matter of incentive. Give that person an incentive that is good enough and he/she will cheat again. Guaranteed.

[sensible27]

You have an incentive to rob a bank if you would never get caught, or steal someone's belongings if they never know it's you. Would you do it? Incentives are not identical, or same for all the population

And no, that might be good as a general rule if you're trying to predict the general outcome but no, once a cheater isn't always a cheater.

[Pterodon]

No you don’t. Once you start breaking up for any reason it’s the beginning of the end. You will not reconcile and ride off into the sunset together and live happily ever after nor will you be friends even if he suggests or agrees to it. It prevents one from moving on and causes problems with future relationships. This is over permanently and completely so cut all forms of communication forever and move on

[emperor90]

Once u are back you need to let go because he does not deserve it

[bean2k21]

you go girl