I had one relationship where I didn't hear what the man was saying. He said my mom said don't bring any American girls home (India). Clearly looking back that means this is casual and I don't do casual well I found out. I was married to a man from the Middle East but he wasn't that way but I think in many ways he was unusual. There were men who do this who just want sex and then there are the men who fall in love. But they can't break away because they don't want to go against their parents. What you are up against is the pull of the group society versus like in the U. S. we are more about the individual. People who are raised in a group society don't want to be viewed different, break the rules or do something that their parents don't like. It can be a good thing or a negative thing. If he is not comfortable breaking from the group he won't change his mind. To be honest if he stays with you he's being really selfish. If he really truly loves you he would release you and let you find someone else who is willing to get married to you. If you don't break up with him you will stay in this limbo until he tells you that he is getting married. This even happens to other women in their own societies. They will secretly met and kiss nothing more but then all of a sudden their secret girlfriend will get told I'm getting married next month. I know of two Arab women that happened to. I'm only using the Arab example because these are stories I was told by women I knew and met.
I wholeheartedly agree with this
But we both love each other truly want to stay together and also don't want to hurt our parents
... pick one? If the man is okay 18 he can do what he pleases. He can't be controlled by his parents of he's an adult lmao.
@ohdeeryme he is above 18 but he says he loves me lot it will be difficult for him to leave me but he can't go against his parents
In a relationship love isn't everything... He doesn't want to hurt his parents... in other words although he loves you , he won't marry you... so just leave himWhy would you stay with someone who can't marry you?
It sounds to me that he wants to have some fun before he gets married. You don't want that type of situation.
He can't refuse his parents wishes but he says he will try his best to convince them. If they still go against us how will marry a girl of their choice
But I know he loves me truly. We are in relationship from 3 years
Then stay with him for now but be realistic.
Thank you so much for your advice ❤
You're welcome. I hope you are able to marry each other.
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He loves me truly. We are in relationship from 3 years. He also wants to marry me. But also he didn't want to go against of his parents. What should I do?
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