My boyfriend wants a rlsnsp wid me but he also says that he wouldn't marry me bcoz we r of different religions & his parents wouldn't agree but he'll?

[Srooti]

I don't want to loose him. He also don't want to leave me but he says if in future his parents wouldn't allow us to marry he will not go against them. He will marry another girl of their choice. What should I do please please please help?

[AmandaYVR]

This is a difficult situation (especially because you added that you have been together for 3 years - that information was crucial), but unfortunately I feel the best advice for you, as others have said, is to end this now. You are waiting for someone who is not available and will likely never become who you need him to be. And, if he did go against his parents' wishes, you will still be in a potentially impossible situation later, and for who knows how long.
I do not agree with his thinking, or his parents'. I think these familial obligations that compromise one's own happiness are quite selfish, really. But it is often a cultural tradition and you are unlikely to change them.
I'm sure it's not what you want to hear from us, but you've spent already 3 years in the situation and presumably trying to convince him, but you need to recognize that not all things shall come to pass, and when it is time to let go and refocus your energies on the next chapter of your life. Hopefully, with someone else eventually.

[sejla]

If he says he means it. I've seen way too many broken hearts from guys who date women to have the experience and might even love them but they won't go against their parents wishes. There might be that one who has the courage to do that but in some cases it might be cutting off relations with his family and in some cultures that is extremely devastating.

Let him go. Break it today Live through the sadness. Go get therapy/medical help if it is too much.
If he is that 1 guy who will go against faced with the loss of you he will come back but if not it is better to end it now.

[sejla]

I had one relationship where I didn't hear what the man was saying. He said my mom said don't bring any American girls home (India). Clearly looking back that means this is casual and I don't do casual well I found out. I

was married to a man from the Middle East but he wasn't that way but I think in many ways he was unusual. There were men who do this who just want sex and then there are the men who fall in love. But they can't break away because they don't want to go against their parents. What you are up against is the pull of the group society versus like in the U. S. we are more about the individual. People who are raised in a group society don't want to be viewed different, break the rules or do something that their parents don't like. It can be a good thing or a negative thing. If he is not comfortable breaking from the group he won't change his mind.

To be honest if he stays with you he's being really selfish. If he really truly loves you he would release you and let you find someone else who is willing to get married to you. If you don't break up with him you will stay in this limbo until he tells you that he is getting married. This even happens to other women in their own societies. They will secretly met and kiss nothing more but then all of a sudden their secret girlfriend will get told I'm getting married next month. I know of two Arab women that happened to. I'm only using the Arab example because these are stories I was told by women I knew and met.

[DivaTulips]

Please move on and break up with him... Because a man who doesn't have the courage to go against something for you doesn't deserve you... I'm telling you because I have kinda experienced it.
The more you stay together. ... the harder it will be for you to move on...
Be wise... Delete all his memories... I know it's hard but it's not impossible.
I'm repeating again be wise...

[ohdeeryme]

I wholeheartedly agree with this

[Srooti]

But we both love each other truly want to stay together and also don't want to hurt our parents

[ohdeeryme]

... pick one? If the man is okay 18 he can do what he pleases. He can't be controlled by his parents of he's an adult lmao.

[Srooti]

@ohdeeryme he is above 18 but he says he loves me lot it will be difficult for him to leave me but he can't go against his parents

[DivaTulips]

In a relationship love isn't everything... He doesn't want to hurt his parents... in other words although he loves you , he won't marry you... so just leave him
Why would you stay with someone who can't marry you?

[Avicenna]

Can he refuse his parents wishes? In many societies, that is not possible.

[Avicenna]

It sounds to me that he wants to have some fun before he gets married. You don't want that type of situation.

[Srooti]

He can't refuse his parents wishes but he says he will try his best to convince them. If they still go against us how will marry a girl of their choice

[Srooti]

But I know he loves me truly. We are in relationship from 3 years

[Avicenna]

Then stay with him for now but be realistic.

[Srooti]

Thank you so much for your advice ❤

[Avicenna]

You're welcome. I hope you are able to marry each other.

[TacosRAwesome]

Rip the bandaid off now before you get deeper into it. Although 3 years in you're already pretty deep.

[Twenty2]

He wants to fuck you and you are agreeing to it.

[Srooti]

He loves me truly. We are in relationship from 3 years. He also wants to marry me. But also he didn't want to go against of his parents. What should I do?

[Twenty2]

I texted you. Reply.

[Anonymous]

Whats rlsnsp?