Ex girlfriend asking mutual friends if I'm seeing anyone?

[Anonymous]

what does this mean... could it mean I have another shot? its been NC since break up.

[Anonymous]

Yea, it definitely means you have a shot, but don't get so caught up with it. Just don't mind it until she tries to make her way back into your life.

[Asker]

cool, thanks a lot mate

[Cailleach]

Either she want's to get back together with you or she's just curious and doesn't want to ask you.

[Asker]

thanks.. for example in your personal case which is the reason you'd do it? In your opinion, what are the chance most likely that its to get back together. ( I know you have limited knowledge abt our relationship) few months...very close, very fast. almost always together. I became clingy/needy. she dumped me and wanted to be friends. I went on NC, got over her fast, started dating 3 other girls..all hot. She sees me around town having fun partying, new clothes, gym, trendy haircut, etc..

[Cailleach]

Honestly, I don't give a sh*t about other people's business and personal lives. I wouldn't even go around asking in the first place, as I wouldn't be curious to know, but in the slim instance that I might be, I would come up to you and bluntly ask.

[Asker]

k thanks

[claire111]

She is probably curious and you might also have another shot.

[Asker]

thanks claire. so what's the next move if I want her back.. should I tell her to f*** off? make her crawl back and beg? what would you suggest?

[claire111]

Don't make her crawl and beg! haha

But hmmm... I suggest you should wait a little longer to see if she makes any more moves. If she doesn't then try to organise or attend a function that she would be at and see what happens there.

There are many things you could do, like you could even contact her if you want! But if you wanna keep it subtle, then just wait a little and then try to "accidently" be at the same place at the same time ;)

[Asker]

okay, so no on the crawl a& beg. haha

k, I'll try to accidentally show up at same function/get together..

how would you feel if you liked a guy and you both knew each other well, but despite your history, he ignores you ?

[claire111]

Id feel pretty bad if he ignored me! Id feel rejected and angry at him for ignoring me. It's because I am the type of person who believes in friendship after a break up and I would think that he is a silly baby for ignoring me. However, if he was really friendly etc straight away, I may back away. So I suggest, ignore her a little bit, enough for a little bit of tension but not too much. Then you can start talking or whatever. Just see how the events go :) Go with the flow

[Asker]

you just called me a silly baby! lol, you're a silly baby, not me.

thanks for your advice.., I'll go with the flow.

I'll wing it

[Anonymous]

i'm agreeing with Cailleach