Ex-girlfriend says it would be nice to see me?

[Anonymous]

I’ll try make this concise. My ex broke up with me about 5/6 months ago after a short but really intense relationship. Neither of us were at our best, and I certainly did things I regret, but things that we could have spoken about. I was devastated when we broke up, and made it clear to her how we could have easily worked on things, but she replied with the standard lines. When she initially broke up with me, she said stuff like “ill probably regret this”, “people break up and get back together all the time”, “i need space”. But I just said once you’re done you’re done, and we haven’t spoken since. Our friendship groups are loosely tied, but we haven’t had any shared social occasions since the break-up until this weekend, we have a friends birthday (I’m not actually going). Since the break-up I’ve improved my life exponentially, I have a great new job, I’m hitting the gym, and I’m running. I ran a half-marathon at the weekend, got a great time (she probably saw mutual friends stories), and that same evening she messaged me to say she’s wanted to reach out for a while. It was a long message, about wanting to check how things were with me, and how things should be approached for social occasions. She also said “heard you smashed your half, congrats”. I replied concisely: “Don’t worry about it, things will be fine, don’t want you stressing about that”. And left it at that, she then replied saying it will be nice to see me, and that she’ll probably see me at the weekend (again, im not going). I didn’t reply, I couldn’t be bothered, I’m past wanting her back. This girl historically cuts all ties with her exes. She blocks them and doesn’t speak to them again. She didn’t do that with me, she left the door open. Is she just extending friendship (which I feel is unlike her), or is she doing it for her ego? Does she miss me? I’m trying to take it at face value, her being sweet, but I feel like a message wasn’t really necessary.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, that's intense. Sounds like she's still thinking about you for sure, even if just cause you were a big part of her life. Couple thoughts:

- Props to you for making all those improvements - shows you're doing your thing independent of her now. Major glow up!

- Def seems weird she reached out just to say congrats, when she blocked all other dudes. Prob wants to keep tabs on you or see if you're still single.

- I'd play it cool if I were you. Don't get sucked back in emotionally, but you could maybe hang out casual style to see what's up.

- If she's just extending friendship, fine. But set clear boundaries - no messing with your head again.

- She may low-key regret losing a guy like you. Or her ego's bruised you're doing so well without her now! Who knows lol.

Either way, you got the power now. Don't sweat it too much bro, just live your best life and see what happens naturally. She'll either wanna be part of it or feel left behind - but that's on her now, you feel me?