Am I somehow responsible for my ex turning into a total slut after the breakup?

[Anonymous]

A while back I dated a girl who was a virgin before we were together. She was a sweet and innocent type who really didn't do anything that could even remotely be considered bad. She didn't even drink at all.

But then we broke up because she tried her first taste of alcohol at a party one night and got totally wasted, ended going home with a guy she didn't even know and we slept together. Apparently after all that she turned into a binge drinking slut who's currently sleeping around with 4 different guys (one of whom is married).

I treated her good and the only problems we ever had were because I didn't argue back when she tried to start arguments, and the apparently led to other problems.

[Kickrockslosers]

You are not really respnsible for her sluttyness. Maybe she got a little wasted and you should have taken better care of her because you cared about her. She had sex with you because she wanted you. Now, the reason she has sex with other guys is because she likes sex. The married man is a questionable decision, but at some point, she will get the clue that it's wrong.

Why do you care anyway? You guys are not together anymore. There are some girls that are meant to be slutty and some that are not. Maybe she was meant to be a slutty girl. When she matures more, she may grow out of it. If not, then she was truly meant to be a slutty girl. If you feel a level of responsibility for her behavior, then say something to her about it and her reputation as a slut. You could try to stop her before she starts hitting the hard stuff and becomes a stripper or porn star? Okay, I'm exagerating, but the point is if you care do something about it.

I think this is a total non-issue especially since you guys are not together unless you want to find out the slutty tricks she's learned. Admit it, you still kinda want to get it again.LOL

[MyBaby]

It is not your fault, if you treated her good then she is the one that lost her mind.

Because she had never done anything,had never tasted alcohol untill lately, she didn't know how to handle it and went over board on her first taste of drink, its just some people act that way. they don't want to try it and when they get older they get ''addicted''.

Its her life, her choices, no one forced her no one told her to do that stuff. Its her life and when she realises what she has done itll be too late.

Dont think it was you that caused this because as you said, she slept with another guy not you that night and she didn't even know him. Its all her fault.

[lost-angel]

Its not your fault.

She got introduced to a new feeling, which she's never experienced, and now she is exploring it to the fullest.

Maybe she realized drinking makes her numb to whatever pain she's feeling from the break up. And the attention distracts her from the lonliness she feels.

We all deal with pain/break ups differently. This could be the only way she knows how.

Its not your fault at all. And its a good thing you broke up with her, because now you know what type of person she really is, or could be.

Not the innocent virgin girl, she used to be.

[dannyboy187]

You are not responsible for her actions. She made the choice to be the slut, not you. She maybe loves the sexual attention she is getting from other guys, it is intoxicating to her (that is her problem to deal with).

[quantumdefender]

the only actions you can control and be responsible for are your own. don't try to be a great guy, just try to be a good person, and let history make its own judgements.

[Shlei3]

You are not responsible for this girl. She has her own personal reasons as to why she is turning into a very wild child. Unless you pointed a gun to her head and ordered her to do that stuff you have nothing to worry about. She is the one who chose to react in the manner that she did.

[ForgottenGurl]

No your not at failt, she is old enough and I'm sure smart enough to make her own choices then she's to blame for her actions. you can't take the blame for anothers bad choices for for sure not a ex's bad choices

[Sheryl]

if you screwed her up, the yes you are