What things did the majority of your ex-lovers/crushes share that you loved/hated about them?

[DizzyDesii]

This isn't for ALL, but for the majority—
FOR ME, THE GOOD
-They were talkative and good listeners
-They were very caring
-They were good boys with dirty minds
-They were Christians
-They were loners
-They were dominant sexually but outside of that, they allowed me to be the boss
FOR ME, THE BAD
-They could hardly ever keep their promises
-They were quite indecisive
-Almost all had clingy mommy or abandonment issues so I think thats why they allowed me to be the boss/planner... it made it hard to end things because they’d guiltrip me with the abandonment stories.. or it was easy to end things because the mom didn't support another woman taking her son away 🤷‍♀️
#FeelFreeToList #ExHabits

[Majesty101]

This is a pretty tough question for me lol. I really avoided relationships before because of certain reasons. Long story short, a lot of guys out there see me as purely a sex object. So, I will tell you more about crushes than any actual relationship 😂. Majority of the guys I crushed had nothing in common as they were all completely different from he next the face, personality, background, and character. All of them had either an unconventional beauty or an 'exotic' look to them. I loved that each of them had depth and were really mysterious. I loved their independence and the way they expressed what they were passionate about. The only thing that I 'hated' about majority of them was they never fully expressed their feelings/say what they really wanted to say. I can see right through people and I can tell/know what you want to say versus what you tell me, and it's just annoying when the authenticity is thrown out of the window just so you can tell me what you think I want to hear. Other than that, I really love people for who they are and what they do, so I never genuinely 'hated' anything. I loved them all😊

[DizzyDesii]

Girl you sound like me. Once the authenticity is gone, im out. My exes def were independent but yet wanted a mom figure and were also not truly open until later in the relationship when it was too late

[jennifer_bloom]

- They had leadership or supervisor roles in clubs or jobs
- They were confident but also lacking in confidence
- They had high potential but were bound by obstacles
- 3 of them were autistic but high functioning
- They were shy and inexperienced with woman
- They cared more about personality than looks
- They were affectionate and highly emotional
- They were willing to wait until marriage for sex
- They cherished the social flavour of their partners
- They were very involved in religious communities
- They were possessive of me
- They were virgins
- They came from broken homes
- They were not interested in me at first
- They fell in love slowly

[DizzyDesii]

Loooove this part
They were shy and inexperienced with woman
- They were willing to wait until marriage for sex
- They were possessive of me
- They were virgins

[jennifer_bloom]

Yeah - I guess I go for guys who give me the meek vibe so there is a higher chance of low experience

[OlderAndWiser]

Most of my past partners were petite and cute but not beautiful. Most of them were intelligent and they were gentle souls. Unfortunately, too many of them were relatively self centered and not prepared to work when the relationship needed attention

[DizzyDesii]

I’d hope their personalities made them beautiful. And yea the last person i was with was self centered, sucked. And omg yes i hate a dude who doesn't put in effort

[OlderAndWiser]

I walked away from a woman I loved because she just didn't care enough about the relationship.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah this one I can't answer, my first and second hubby couldn't of been more different...
Same with the only two guys I was with in the 7 years since my hubby passed...

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao i guess i have a type then... or just a bad habt

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Now there's a question, lolol

[TonyV]

Mostly that my crushes dont like me back!😂😭

My high school girlfriend broke up with me over a rumor that I kissed some other girl. I didn't and later when she found and was trying to get me to take her back it was too late🤷‍♂️ she didn't trust my word so I was just towards her, not mad or sad or nothing

[DizzyDesii]

Aww im sorry you're put through that

[Jjpayne]

The good
They were open
Willing to try new things
Willing to share

The bad
Some were non religious
Some had unique behavior like "oh you don't wanna get me mad"
Had interests and beliefs that were uninteresting or unappealing to me
Trying to be too independent and not wanting help
Saying that they are comfortable with stealing

But to be fair with the last person I had dated I did not want her to be the one and only option in my adult dating. She was nice and sweet but not a perfect sell. I think it's wise to not fully commit until you go on a couple of other dates to gain your confidence that they are the one but covid kinda messed that up

[DizzyDesii]

Oh yea i disliked that some of mine were not religious. And did you at least tell that girl she wasn't your only option

[Jjpayne]

I did not say anything per say but I was honest and said I wanted to date around before commiting to something more

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

Loved:
showed me a girl's life inside her house (i never had a sister)
Taught me things like awareness and respect of a girl's issues and emotions.
Taught me how to open up as i was a quiet guy, but also how to control myself (emotional intelligence)
Hated:
Sharing things they do with their friends (i was jealous she doesn't do that with me lol)
Spoke to her mom infront of me and learnt that she lies to her mom
(This is a major red flag - compulsive liar)
Their social media, this was the evil that caused me to lose trust in her and our eventual seperation.

[DizzyDesii]

What did she say to her mom? And yes social media be ruining shit

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

'white lies' to avoid getting into trouble, and sometimes she said to her mom that i'd said it's okay when i hadn't said anything. I told her if she uses me against her mom again im leaving, my instincts prevented me from getting into a relationship with her i just stayed friends. As she became older i observed her became a manipulator in every day life with her friends at university and cheated on guys, her friends hated her she's cut everyone off to avoid her past catching up with her.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow yea that last bit is bad but i dont see anything wrong with white lied

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

it's a grey area, whilst I've known you i can read you have a good heart and so if you lied, it's likely impulsive to protect yourself (i understand that). But the white liars on the otherside of the scale are dangerous manipulators. The funny part is i know who is who, thats why i think i said to you it's easy for me to detect a player.

[DizzyDesii]

I usually lie to protect them rather than myself but yea

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

[throws her into another girl and they fall onto each other]
protects her from me 😡 neaaarrghhh lol

[Old_Golden]

Good:
-Not afraid to initiate being frisky, no matter where we are
-Willing to spend a chill weekend on the couch
-Down to spend a weekend skydiving or rock climbing
-confident enough to back me up when I'm struggling
-Concious enough to accept my help when they need it

Bad:
-Emotionally abusive
-Manipulative
-Expect me to be the sole source of income and bitch when I say we can't afford her getting a Gucci tank top
-Trying to pry me away from hanging out with my friends

[DizzyDesii]

Yes i loved public sex haha. But wow rockclimbinf, oh heck no lol. You didn't have to call her a B word but yea thats jacked up that she did those bad things to you

[Old_Golden]

Wasn't calling her that, was saying "she complained", and rock climbing was just an example, I meant doing random crazy stuff

[JacobRoto]

I loved how energetic she was.
But she was so insecure and nothing I did ever helped her. She ruined our relationship eventually.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea insecurity can def cause issues but depression will literally kill a relationship

[JacobRoto]

Thankfully she wasn't depressed. But she was constantly asking me if I were going to breakup with her. Sometimes it seemed like she was trying to convince me to.

[DizzyDesii]

Omg yes i dated one guy like that last year. But he was suffering depression and insecure i’d donto him what his ex did. He asked so much if i’d leave him that i started to wonder if he wanted me to lol

[JacobRoto]

I guess some people are just like that. I just can't handle it. It's exhausting to constantly have the same problem.

[DizzyDesii]

I left before we even reached a month lol

[JacobRoto]

Well we were together for over 2 years, and it never changed.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh heck no i couldnt have. The one i dated for 2 years kept feeding me BS that he was ready for this and that but when it came time to it, he wasn't and wasted my time. He was so indecisive and addicted to gaming

[JacobRoto]

Well I do love my gaming. But I don't play games with people. If we state the nature of our relationship, that's what it is. I follow what I've agreed to.

[DizzyDesii]

He would game like 7 hours a day. Thats crazy in my opinion. I understand 2-3 hours every other day.

[JacobRoto]

👀😬

[DizzyDesii]

Oh lord u do that too huh?

[JacobRoto]

I do game a lot. Though that would probably change if I moved in with a girlfriend.

[Lliam]

Loved:
That they were shorter than me. I'm 6'2" and none of them were over 5'5".
They were independent - had their own apartments/rented houses, jobs, and didn't have to answer to parents.
They were sexually liberated and on the pill.
They were monogamous.
They were soft, curvy, cute and white.

[DizzyDesii]

What was the bad

[Lliam]

Nothing really. I liked all of them a lot.

[DizzyDesii]

But y'all broke up for a reason lol

[Lliam]

Because when I was young I had no interest in settling down, getting married or having kids. So, I guess I thought of my girlfriends as "friends with benefits" even thought that term was coined much later. I eventually moved on, not because I didn't like them, but because I was immature and wanted to experience more of life. All in all, it turned out the best for everyone concerned.

[DizzyDesii]

Ohh i see

[alice55]

- They all had black hair and tanned skin (only one had pale skin) which is weird cause I'm mostly attracted to blonde pale skinned guys but only get crush on guys with black hair.
- They were all bad boy, the type to do whatever they wanted and cause dramas all the time
- Impulsive
- Conservative
- They worn sweatpants and tracksuit 100 % of the time
- Outgoing and had lots of friends (which made me not pursue anything cause I feel uncomfortable around large groups)

[DizzyDesii]

Impulsive in what ways

[JosyJosy]

Hated:

Being Clingy
Dishonest
Loses common sense during stress

Loved:

Passionate
Funny
Ambitious

[DizzyDesii]

I’d actually like clingy lol

[Jamie05rhs]

What I loved/hated about them is that they were all pretty and they all had nice and friendly personalities. I loved them because of it, but I hated the world (jk) because it never worked out.

[DizzyDesii]

Awww

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks, @DizzyDesii

[KloexJayne]

Hmm...
They all have great social skills and great qualities about them individually which makes them hard to hate... and I hate that about my ex’s lol

[Phoenix98]

They all wore glasses every single one of them lol.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao was that good or bad?

[Phoenix98]

Hmm good I'd say.

[krin_m]

Good:
- Friendly, kind.
- shared a lot of interests (outside sex)
Bad:
- Sex was an obligatory chore for her.

[DizzyDesii]

Sex felt like a chore for me in my first relationship because i was against doing it outside of marriage and because i just did what i had to keep him happy

[krin_m]

I respected that. Probably that is what we are still friends after the break-up. As I said she is a very kind and wonderful person.

[DizzyDesii]

Well thats sweet. I dont do friends tho lol. We all or nothing 🤣

[tjbyrd39]

Can't really say until recently I wasn't that emotionally available Maybe is what I'm looking for big Life changes evenif Boone here can tell. So I'd say they were all pretty decent but I can't look at my finger on anything that I loved (using loosely) or hated about any of them. Besides they all shared a common physical trait that of course I enjoyed.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao and what was that trait

[tjbyrd39]

Well I'll put it PG say they were all female

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao now you know im Rated XXX lol

[tjbyrd39]

Oh okay well they all had vaginas and and I really liked that about them.

[Dargil]

Disingenuousness. They were not in it for the relationship. I was part of a plan. I was gullible and hopeful and they played me. I have concluded that most women are like that, unfortunately.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn thats deep. Never thought about that one

[Lov2PlezUgurl]

wow you should be getting good at knowing men knowing what you want in a man
me well it was the sex is why we got together and the bitchin is the reason we split up.. mostly

[DizzyDesii]

I def know what i want lol

[Lov2PlezUgurl]

and. will you tell me what that is

[DizzyDesii]

Someones who almost myself lol

[Slim57]

The good is she complimented me and made me feel good about myself but after we broke up she made me feel worse about myself, we had sex a good bit which was good for me but even that wasn't great, everything else about her was horrible i can't understand how I ever came to date someone like that

[DizzyDesii]

Makes u wonder if she was telling the truth before or after the breakup. I hate people who switchup like that

[SarahsSummer]

They all played sports which I loved but they also all hung out with their guy friends more than I cared for.

[DizzyDesii]

Ong yes i hate that

[Anonymous]

They could hardly ever keep their promises, and they lied and cheated (women)

[DizzyDesii]

Dang why u think the majority cheated?

[Opinion Owner]

Hypergamy