So lemme hit you with the remix... I AM NOT ASKING IF YOU HATED THE PERSON. I AM ASKING WHAT FACTORS YOU DISLIKED ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIPS OF THE PAST. JUST MIX ALL YOUR OLD HOES INTO ONE AND SPEAK IN TERMS OF WHY THE SHIT PROBABLY DID NOT WORK IN THE END 💀 Like damn, I hate reading too, but like damn...When Love Turns to Hate
And once again, yes, I freakin love this song because the flow of it reminds me of early 2000s songs by several pop rock bands...
Enrique -the cheating. He wasn’t not cute. I’m cute and since he pulled me that gave him the confidence to think he could pull other girls. He fingered a girl in front of people and talked to other girls. I really did love him at that time which is why I stayed. I also had low self esteem and zero confidence.
Arieon- trying to make me jealous. He would say slick stuff like once he told me he still had another girls nudes on his phone and I honestly didn’t care. Then after we broke he tried to make me jealous by letting my homegirl twerk on him right in front of me. I still didn’t care. Then he tried to get a girls number while we were in class. I just didn’t care about any of that.
Seth - he was very boring and instead of talking about our problems he’d shut me out. Which is why it didn’t work out. And I hated his deep ass voice.
Yes girl … and I meant wasn’t that* cute. People thought I was crazy for being with him and the sad part is he would tell people we were together and they wouldn’t believe him cause he’s ugly. ðŸ˜
- unambitious (no career goals or business ideas or anything) - lazy (stays home and games all day, can't bring themselves to workout, etc) - unmanaged mental health (I also have mental health issues I manage actively - it's a requirement for me) - unable and unwilling to take initiative - can't carry a conversation - sex crazed (sex is amazing, don't get me wrong, but there's more to my life than sex) - lack of experience in life (cishet white men need no longer apply, we have too little in common and I'm not here to educate them on their bigotry and sexism) - dishonest - cowardly - peaked in high school
Omg yes one dude i dated would game 6 hours straight and never workout with me. I couldnt stay physically attracted to him and now i dont even like to date gamers. And yes all these 2022 dudes come across as sex crazed and it bothers me so. I need him to be patient and understand that im not doing it in less than 6 months if even that. What do you mean by peaked in HS?
Dudes - or really anyone - at my age or older who feels that high school was the best and they're not gonna get any better are... Well, they're often gonna meet all the other things on my list.
I was really bad at conversation when I was younger and people would hate me based on my inability to talk. But I don’t worry about that now, I know the problem is that I was seeking incompatible potentials, not that I was not good enough or attractive enough. Like my cousin likes to talk finance and he loves to talk over me cause I have no finance knowledge to contribute to his conversation. We are not compatible as social associations.
I think I did not know how to be positive and Insightful and self-confident so I did not know the proper way to direct a conversation or choose conversation topics or continue a conversation, but life experience changed that
The qualities that were the biggest turnoffs for me were: Those who felt guys were lumps of clay to be molded by them Those with a sense of entitlement Those who felt they'd get a better result by criticizing Those who freely made demands Those who were self-focused and didn't consider how their choices might impact others Those who believed yelling improved their chances of their being heard Those who expected to live beyond their means Those who felt fancy superficialities had more value than depth Those who spent a lot of time, money and effort on covering up their lack of self care Those who weren't interested in learning, as they already knew all they needed to know Those who felt it was their right and duty to push their beliefs onto everyone else Those who attempted to use guilt to manipulate others' Those who used kids to get back at others when things didn't go as expected Those who expected others to read their mind Those who expected to feel safe, secure and special, yet did nothing to make sure their partner felt the same Those who prioritized material gain over true connection Those who felt non-stop talking was the same as communication Those who felt doing what they valued was the same as doing what others value
You just asked for the things I hated. If there weren't things I loved, I wouldn't have wasted my time. It would be nice if people took the time to learn what works rather than just doing what they find familiar or attempt to legitimize dysfunction. This is true about relationships in general, not limited to certain genders.
Do you see a healthy purpose in anything I listed? Would any of those items truly add quality to a relationship? I'm just pointing out some obvious red flags that people commonly complain about. Maybe, if we take time to learn what works rather than legitimize holding onto dysfunctional patterns, relationships would be happier and more fulfilling. I hear too many people say that's how they were raised, or that's what their parents have always done, or that's what they've always done. Let's stop making excuses and start doing what actually adds value to relationships rather than maintain patterns that are merely familiar, not functional.
Almost of my exes hated how short I am and almost all of them didn't find me physically attractive in truth but I put up with it I was afraid of being alone. I didn't give them money or anything, but I was an emotional simp in my twenties. I'd be with women who barely liked me, because I knew there was no one else I could get.
But no more! I'm not the same guy as 22 year old me. I will be alone and stay alone than to be used by any woman who doesn't truly like me for who I am and only wanted to use me as a rebound or Plan B.
I'll also NEVER IN MY LIFE make the mistake of being with a "bisexual" female (lesbian) ever again. That was a low-point for me; being with a gay woman who openly says she wants to date/f*ck women. Nowadays, that's beyond normal cuck behavior. I can't think of anything more emasculating than dating someone gay who doesn't even like your gender.
yes my ex boyfriend really boring and super religious he did take me to church on valentine’s day it was so boring i feel asleep at the church, he don’t drink and he was living with his parents I break up with him cause i had to move to Virginia cause the job I couldn’t live at Alabama there no job for me there and Alabama was so boring a lot of country people it’s stinky state I found out he got married to mole hawk hairstyle girl i saw his wife pictures she had purple hair style I’m not jealous though i’m happy for him I have a boyfriend I love my boyfriend a lot
They couldn't decide for me, they saw me and everything i had to offer and all of them acknowledged that but nobody wanted to stay and I may say, they all had a downgrade after me, two of two relationship-guys even reached out to me after their failed relationships and like rented about their exes lol
My theory: guy 1 never really loved me and thats why i left him after he couldn't make up his mind after 3 years of on off And guy 2 was scared of something serious and left
Honestly my last relationship only went bad because of me… so I do t have anything g to hate. She was a people pleaser though and told me things just to ease my mind or because she thought I would like it. And eventually it became a thing that she lied quite readily just to shut me up. Lol! That I didn’t like. But most things were pretty great. I just wasn’t for her.
Their obsession with needing a logical reason when I'm not into something or don't like something. Eg. They show me an ugly t shirt they want to get. I tell them it's ugly. They ask why it's ugly.
His lack of desire to eat healthy and move and his crap attitude when I tried to do so.
Knowing I was a certain way, that it was just part of my identity, and acting like it was something they could "fix". If you don't like something about me. Don't start the relationship. I'm not in need of fixing. I'm me.
Yea i finally gave up on trying to fix people. It was better to breakup with something that seemed broken and to just find someone who already met the match
Poor communication, little effort on their end, felt like I was doing most of the work, not being transparent and direct, quick to get angry when pointing out behavior I didn't like, lies or ambiguous responses.
I hated the lack of communication, the lies, manipulation all to his benefit. Sex, drugs, money. None of the benefits were for Us. I hated the pain and emptyness I was left to deal with.
At the time I was working in the concert scene and I hated the fact that they would get annoyed when I came home after WORKING at a bar. Yes I drank some but I was paid to be there and the drinks were free.
I think the thing I hate the most is when I start getting accused of things I'm not doing. Typically turns out that she is projecting and gaslighting. Had a couple that have even swung on me after calling them out. Not dealing with it ever again.
How he kept things bottled up. Lot of guys do it, but my ex did it the most. Then when you ask them to fucking spill, they label you as the bad guy of the relationship who doesn't have patience.
I hate that they were manipulative, they played the victim so you can’t have any issues with what they did. They were never positive or wish positivity for me.
Yes it’s hard because you’re trying to decipher people that are being real with you versus them trying to persuade you to do what they want to do after that whole situation your guards of 24 seven
Yea even tho we may continue to make mistakes we just dont need to allow thise mistakes to last years. I regret staying with someone for a long time as well
it was this long distance relationship. I was so busy dealing with the long distance part I really didn't think too much about what a crappy relationship it really was.
Almost all of my relationships prior to age 45 ended because of ordinary life changes like either her or me moving away, so I don't have complaints about them.
Since then, I'd say lack of a desire to stay long term in a relationship and do what it takes to compromise on some things.
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