Being a relationship is great but it sure does come with its own fair share of downsides☹️.
So what sorts of things do you dislike about being in a relationship?
What sorts of things do you dislike about being in a relationship?
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Dislikes:
- Toilet seat wars (fixable, just close the lid before flushing and everybody wins)
- Partner eating off your plate instead of just making their own plate/ordering their own food (minor issue, but it builds up)
- Watching your weight and calorie counting, but they get upset when you don't eat something they cooked they didn't measure the ingredients calorie total count (This one is pretty niche)
- Turning every basic and generic text/conversation into a difficult word puzzle that she is secretly trying to figure out (Dealbreaker, breakup incoming by me)
- Ordering useless stuff from Amazon and other websites with my card. (This can be minor or major, it depends on if it is a few hundred bucks every week or a few thousand)
- Asking if I think somebody is hot and then getting mad when I say yes (I'm okay with this question but it becomes a problem when you get mad if I say yes)
- Partner thinks it is okay to get fat because they "have you" now (Starts minor, but if you get too big, then this relationship isn't big enough for the two of us)
- Partner keeps hounding about marriage (This is a fast track to encouraging the idea of breakup)
- Partner isn't just jealous of other women, but jealous of things like the television, computer, or even my job (If they just express annoyance, then it is minor.. but if they start unplugging stuff as I'm using it or calling my work, then that is major and breakup inbound)
- Partner is aggressive and unstable one minute but all over you the next (If you show any sign of mood swings in private then we can talk about it but in public? No official breakup and I'm just straight ghosting you)
- Partner post every little and big moment both to social media, constantly (I'm ghosting)
- Partner makes the same or more money than me, but expects me to pay for everything (Gender roles are outdated to her until it is time to pay for the bill and that is bordering the line of "major" and "breakup")
This is just a very small list (compared to a complete list that could be made) of things that I not only dislike about relationships, but that I HAVE hated about relationships.
I couldn't make a list about things I like about relationships, because that list would have to go to things I like about being single, lol.
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I love my wife but there are some things she does that drive me crazy, and this is one of them. She'll have a problem in her personal or work life and she'll want to discuss it with me, which is great. That's one of the important things about marriage... being able to share everything.
But I have learned I should not propose any solution, even if it is so painfully obvious how to address the problem that the fix appears in my mind to be dangling from a string from the ceiling and bouncing around between her face and mine, trying desperately to get our attention. If I do anything other than acknowledge the problem and just be passively sympathetic about it, she will get annoyed and often give me the silent treatment for a while. The reality is that she just wants to talk about the problem, to vent about it and get my emotional support and sympathy, nothing more.
It's difficult for me because I am so opposite to her in this respect. When I experience a problem I immediately think about how to fix it and I'll often talk with coworkers or friends to get their input, which I value and appreciate and factor into my action plan where appropriate. They are the same... they will talk about an issue to seek practical advice, not emotional support.
I know it's politically incorrect to say women tend to be emotional and men tend to be logical, but it is just true.
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Not being respected.
Whenever we would go out for example , instead of paying attention to our conversation and listen to what I was trying to say.. he’d always look elsewhere especially when a pretty girl would walk by.. he’d check her out. Or in general just not paying attention to me not giving me the respect I deserved in our relationship he just didn’t care about me at all.
Not being taken seriously.
Whenever I’d tell him about how i felt towards things he’d always make a joke about it and continue to do the things I told him I didn’t like instead of listening to me and not do the things I told him that made me feel a certain way.
Being taken advantage of.
There was a guy I had a “thing” with and he would always flirt with me and get really touchy with me until one day he told me he had a girlfriend out of know where and still continued to be touchy with me even though I had already told him no. If you get what I’m trying to say.
Gaslighting.
Whenever I’d communicate my feelings he’d tell me I was crazy and that I was making shit up even though the proof was there.
A lot of things really.
Huge reason why I’m single at the moment.
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I do not like guys with unrealistic expectations. I liked a guy as a 12 year old who made me anorexic by telling me I was fat and out of shape. I was 5”3 and 120 pounds at the time and after 2 weeks I was 5”3 and 104 pounds.
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feel more alone than being alone
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If she doesn't dress nicely and fix her hair on days when we stay home. I shave every day, even on my days off when I get up and fix my hair when in a relationship so I expect her to keep herself presentable for me too.
I don't like always having to consider what they like to eat every day. I'd like one or two days per week where we are each responsible for our own meal so we each get a chance to eat things that we like that our partner may not like.
Dishonesty. It ruins a relationship for me. Without trust the relationship is not worth having. The only times it is acceptable to not tell your partner something is if it is a surprise for a special event (Christmas, Birthday, etc.) or so you can go somewhere without them knowing so you can get a present without them knowing and ruining the surprise. Oh, and when playing a competitive game together since it is just a game for fun and nothing serious. Other than that, it should be all truth all the time.
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Doubly standards , a girl will tell me things that she doesn’t like me doing because it bothers her so I stop doing it to appease her but then all of a sudden she starts doing the shit she told me to stop doing , when I confront her on it , she acts like I am wrong and she is right , girl’s are very selfish creatures lol
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Nothing major
I like my apartment at 55⁰ at night, he complains that's way too cold.
For some unholy reason he needs to use new plates and cups for everything.
He goes to bed after me. So courteous thing would be to come to bed quietly... dude comes in tip toeing like an elephant... -
Mostly my partner turned out to be possessive and jealous type in past so that is something i dislike about being in a relationship that i will have to provide him information about my whereabouts my previous boyfriend made it clear that he gets hurt and feel insecure when i hangout with my male friends
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We have a scheduled time that was planned out weeks in advance. An hour before we were to leave. Takes her 45 minutes to put on her makeup another half hour to bathe. We had to also travel about a half hour across town. The worst thing I've ever had to do is deal with clean the hair out of plug sinks. She is always right. I hate playing games with her she always wins. We plan for sex when that time comes she's never in the mood. I must have pissed her off or something. Later on in life she says she's never wanted to have sex could care less about sex. Women wonder why their man has a tendency to have a rolling eye. I'm sure she has similar complaints about me.
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I mostly like being in relationships, but I don’t appreciate constantly needing to work with and around women’s insecurities. I understand it in the beginning, but there kinda comes a point where you really should be passed constantly doubting whether I love you.
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the constant need to be right at each other
the need to speak all the damn time
being seen as a walking wallet
being seen as a walking entertainment device
the never being able to put stuff where i want and it still be there later
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Alright. It's morning. Your day has just begun. You open your eyes and stretc-oops was that his nose? That was his nose, you accidently elbowed your boyfriend in the face. That's right, you're sharing a bed now.
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guy's usually lack of good communication skills, selfishness due to life of independance and emotional avoidance, them overestimating their abilities and not willing to listen to a woman cause of their ego
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Trying to explain to my girlfriend that something needs to be fixed without her thinking I'm insulting her because she's the one who set up said thing lol. That's really the only thing we ever get frustrated at each other about. I get upset because it feels like she's just shutting me down and not even attempting to hear me out and she gets upset because she thinks I'm calling her stupid. We never like yell or snap at each other or anything, but it gets pretty tense lol
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In many I've had: The expectation that my world stops and everything else must be put on hold when she calls.
In some: that she is now free, without invitation, to use my home as though it is hers.
When one tells me that I "can't" talk to that friend unless she is around. That is a swift path to "we're done." -
How emotionally unstable women are. That's why I'm looking for a girl who is emotionally stable hard to find
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The positives of a healthy relationship outweigh all the petty negatives.
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Having to change up ur preferences to fit their preferences and it only be 1 sided. The whole 80/20 effort thing. Having to put up with their shit to avoid an argument and overlooking stuff cause ur in the relationship and too dumb to see it.
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Nothing really. Nothing is bad about being in a relationship I have a really great person. The only thing I dislike is that they are super busy so we can't hang out as much but thats not their fault or the relationships fault
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The hair thing is real. Spending money issues is a thing. Pointless drama becomes a thing. People that just think it's the best thing ever just seem to have never lived alone and enjoyed it.
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You have to put up with the other person's mental illnesses.
That's why I definitely recommend finding the least crazy person possible. -
Not keeping promises, I think? I'm more tolerant of my friends and family (excluding sibling) than any boyfriend
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My space. I'm introverted and love my space and alone time. Everytime I date someone for some odd reason I always end up with an extroverted friend or boyfriend who wants to go out every weekend. I'm more laid back
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