Do you resent any past relationships (friends, lovers, and family)? If so, why?

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ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

There are a few I resent, yes. It pretty much always came down to someone taking, taking, and taking from me; and then having the nerve to get crappy when I come back looking for a favor in return. It usually went beyond simply not doing the favor. There was usually some punishment or detriment that happened as a result of the association. So I extend myself for the person, but they end up causing me a headache my trouble.

That's one thing about me. I am a very generous and understanding man. I am perfectly happy to do you favors and I genuinely do not expect anything in return. But do not think for a single second I'm not paying real close attention to how much headache you cause me.

Dongie · Accepted Answer

A couple. Insanity is all around it seems.

ClaircognizantEmpath · Answer

hey, my life experience and growth, first off no matter how the end is taking full responsibility for oneself in the whole to do!! and keeping in mind the other person has a whole different movie of your time together too, im pretty sure my last ex would very much resent me, if one holds any negative energy and uses it to hate on others or hate on oneself what good does that do... when its over, everytime a thought comes to you, stop yourself and force a brand new thought of a happy memory pre chosen for this purpose, its like having to retrain your neural network against the pathway, having reasons to end a ltr creates reasons against the other therefore supporting the end, when its over we need to learn not to keep them alive, my ex still had such a present resentment and anger at his ex his parents his brother etc etc, and he would repeat the same very few tales of how awful he was treated, this was whilst all those years he was a heroin addict, so can you imagine the issues he caused to these people in his life, he resented others so much to avoid his own play... focus on yourself and what you did, allowed, behaved and how to work on that... break the cycle of giving the past your energy and use it in the present for your own good and evolution... this is just my journey and always happy to evolve more...

Potteplante · Answer

I sometimes resent the outlying circumstances that let me into unfortunate relations throughout me growing up - my young adolescence.

I do feel bitter at times that adult men would be fucking a young teen (not allowed to refer to those as children it seems), I do feel indignation that adult men would do such a thing. Not to mention it has given me MAJOR trust issues when it comes to men - because I'll always be wondering if they're the one who'd be fucking a child if they'd have the option of it. Been working on that one for years, few men escape that notion in my mind now - it's nice.

RageBabe · Answer

Indeed, I have. I am still working on healing myself because the resentment I had accumulated ultimately caused me additional pain.

sawno · Answer

No, I wish things went different and we worked out with my last ex. Some I really care about, some I don't care about anymore. You move on but no need to resent unless they really did you wrong which in my case wasn't the case except for maybe one.

Crimsyjo · Answer

Resent or regret?

I regret my pride making me stick with my ex boyfriend who only got worse abusive wise and I should have got out at the first "red flag".

But then... the experience has made me wiser and stronger so... it was really tough to heal from but I don't know if I'd be me today without the experience.

LiamJHayden · Answer

None. I loved my family, which was really only my mom and dad. I still have many of my friends from K-12 and even earlier. All of the ladies I had actual relationships with were great, and that did not change just because the romance fizzled.

I do, however, not resent but regret the way I used women during my teens.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

It ruined my life and changed me but not in a good way

budstalk · Answer

Yeah, I resent the relationship I had with my ex, how stupid I was, how naive and gullible I was to believe in true love. She was my first love. I confided in her, loved her with every atom present in me. But she was just using me, I wanted to be a part of her love story, in the end I was just her Toy. I caught her cheating

DizzyDesii · Answer

Resent is too strong of a word since its often a temporary feeling or regret and anger. It can be an occasionally repetitive feeling but never full on consistent dislike

art84 · Answer

My brother's ex girlfriends, just the way  they treated my mom behind her back after everything she did for both of them especially their children.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

A few but I'm over them now. Those people just taught me to never trust anyone that deeply.

MoonFace2 · Answer

Honestly, no. All of them helped me to better understand myself and other people and my worth and what I won’t tolerate in other people.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

I try not to but people uncover them. I feel so uncomfortable. I mean past is past. I don’t live in the past. But sometimes it bothers me for sure.

noohair · Answer

I lived a self destructive life. I resent nothing because it brought me to now and now is great.

WatchedPot · Answer

No. If it doesn't work out own it. Not every relationship will. Creating a bitter end is pointless.

Petslutofbff · Answer

I know a guy who does and for Valid reasons sometimes we can be Bitchs

MicahRaine · Answer

Not anymore. I've forgiven people.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

yes he was super weird

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah I hate having my time wasted

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