What’s some things your exes all had in common that you were drawn to , other than sex ?

[Finchie40]

[Fireguy17]

they were female for starters.
On face value they seemed fine, but once you got past their representative phase many times it went downhill.
Then it was you are always gone, what do you mean you are busy this weekend, I made plans to go to different antique stores and the craft fair... (but of course failed to mention it). I just did my hair, I am not riding on that motorcycle, you are going to the racetrack, that is all you ever do, (ya that is why I go because you won't go).
You find the right one and it is great.
Usually, it was their personalities.

[NicholasRedone]

Usually pale skin or a feature that stood out - and usually shorter than me.

[NicholasRedone]

And usually not the same eye colour as me. No pimple issues either lol 😆

[Crimsyjo]

Haha addictions! A drunk, a druggie, a gambler now back to druggie. Actually a drunk and druggie. Potentially gambling too if given the chance lol.

I sure know how to pick them! I just need a guy addicted to sex then we will be fine lol

[swettannie]

maybe you're addicted to bad mens? ahah

[Crimsyjo]

@swettannie Totally!! 100%. My first guy (husband) was the drunk but he was a nice guy. Too nice. Weak. I had to lead and carry the relationship and got burned out. So apparently (I've researched) and I now I have a trauma where I find nice guys boring and find the chaos and drama of bad men gives me the intensity and passion I desire but in toxic ways.
It's hard to find a strong dominant man that is also safe and not abusive...

[swettannie]

i see what you mean..

[Finchie40]

If you girls’ were actually turned on by nice guys’ you probably wouldn’t run into these problems lol. But for whatever reason that’s just the way it is. My relationships with girls’ that didn’t last the long haul , were with girls’ that I was nice to , when I became somewhat of an asshole after having my heart shit on by selfish girls’ and no longer tolerated their selfish behavior, that’s when i experienced longer lasting relationships. When you keep a girl on her toes , she will keep dropping to her knees for you 😂

[Crimsyjo]

Haha very true. Tho it depends on how much of an asshole lol

[Leon1]

Because weirdly an insecure nice guy comes off too extra and insecure bad men trying to be nice comes off normal but yeah Drama can come from toxicity but can come from keeping things interesting in a relationship but if a girl is unhealthy it’s going to be difficult to keep up the drama level, anytime you slip or there’s personal health issues or a family member becomes ill and you’re not in the right head space, she’s already talking to the next guy. High maintenance.

[Crimsyjo]

@Leon1 nobody said about talking to "the next guy"... usually the guys drama is enough thar you don't even want to complicate things with having another man. My druggie boyfriend with abusive tendencies put me off men completely for 8 years. Made me laugh he accused me of cheating but I was way to unhappy and stressed out to even consider it. Plus I just don't believe in cheating anyways.

[andreasderjuengere]

Other than sex... let me see...

I think that all of them had a mother.

[sage2021]

They had a good sense of humor

[fivebyfour]

erm, larger penises than mine,

[Anonymous]

Emotionally unavailable. Apparently.