Why is my ex-boyfriend mad at me?

[heyyodude]

Why is my ex-boyfriend mad at me?

He broke up with me 6 months ago. I haven't done anything to him other than be respectful and patient, which is ABNORMAL because people in my position would've flipped a ****. He went back and forth about getting back together and constantly made excuses to talk to me. I'd had enough so, I told him I wasn't ready to be friends. He got mad at me for that. About 2 months later, we hadn't spoken the entire time, I tried to reconcile things. He wouldn't let me, telling me that every time we spoke, things would end badly. He then tells me I'm stalking him because I'm still friends with our mutual best friend. He says he's over me, so I just leave. Now, another 2 months later, he decides that he's going to talk **** about me, not let me go places and not let people talk to me. Meanwhile, if anyone should be mad, it should be me.

What the hell is going on?

[Louisdel]

well what's really going on is that he deeply loves you. and notices that you drive him crazy... something you ladies are fond of doing when you notice it or not. he is addicted too you and the best way for him to move on is for you to absolutely not talk to him, be around him, not know who his friends are even if there also your friends (tell them you need to do this for him). basically disappear until he can find someone new in his life. When he does find someone new in his life he will notice you and still have memories of you but won't be so psycho about it. (women you do this to when we men break up with you, you just vent more to your friends) He will go through a time period of rage, anger, loneliness. But he has to realize certain things about women.. Tell his friends to take him out often and keep him occupied often so that he's not constantly thinking about you. seek activities.

you may not have seen certain things you've done to him but men are actually more observant...

as 4 telling yourside of the story and him not letting you, maybe its because he had a lot of built up aggression towards the way you handled the relationship. like I've mention before you may have not seen what you did wrong but he has. If you really want to build something with him speak with him and tell him to tell you his side of how things went bad. Let him vent to you because your prob not only his girlfriend he prob saw you as his best friend.

So let him vent, don't be totally silent over the phone you have to say, okay and wow I didn't know that. most likeely after he has vented totally, then he should be calm and relaxed enough to hear your side of the story. IF he gets up and walks away. call his name and tell him in his eyes he has to hear your side... it would trigger to him eventually that you still have some feelings

good luck

[knowmeyourself]

That's a very insightful answer :)

[Louisdel]

knowmeyourself... thank you :-)

[enlightenment]

well...he has no control over you so you just need to ignore that sh*t...and go where you please and just let it roll off your back