I kissed another woman while me and my girlfriend of 6 months were dating. She won’t take me back and I love her, any tips or should I just give up?

[Anonymous]

I was very messed up on alcohol one night and my girlfriend left me with three of my friends out late at night and went home to her house. Long story short my friends bring up the idea to go to my ex’s house ( which they are friends with) and hang out with her at the park. Keep in mind my friends knew at this point if I didn’t black out yet, I sure as hell have no self control. LONG story short my friends walked away and left me and my ex at a park and she sat next to me on a bench due to me not being able to stand or walk. She starts talking to me and about my girlfriend and I start think about her and think to myself I want to go home ( me and my girlfriend lived :( with each other) as my friends are laughing at me in the car knowing that my ex is manipulative and I’m HEAVLY under the influence. after ten minuets I eventually get up and say I need to go, so we head back to the car and we’re on our way to drop her off at her house. She kisses me for maybe 3-5 seconds. I’m immediately disgusted and ashamed. We drop her off and go straight home. I say to my friends do not tell my girlfriend, I will have to tell her. The reason why I need to say this is my friends think my girlfriend is very attractive, and I've known for awhile they would like to have sexual relations with her. Knowing them they would tell her and twist the story And she would leave me and all that stuff. Welp, I was right. Two days later where all hanging out late at night again, I decided to leave the car and go on a walk because I was drunk again and was trying to sober up before me and my girlfriend went inside her house to go to bed. Come back from the walk and my girlfriend and my three free where all staring at me, my girlfriend hurting. I said what’s wrong and she proceeded to yell at me, like she should. I turned around and starting yelling at my friends because they told her and lied. I love my girlfriend so much despite what happened. I need her back so bad. I wanted to marry her.

[boggboss]

Your a idiot not only because you take no responsibility for what u did but you all but knew what would happen at every step and never once tried to change the outcome even to the point of knowing that your friends are not friends yet u still chilling with them like I'm not even sure what 2 say like your so dumb why would u not tell her why would u be getting that drunk again why would u be chilling with the same guys wtf is wrong with you do u not think before u act as for getting her back your kinda fucked as not only did u now kiss another girl it looks like u tried to hide it

[Asker]

I have taken responsibility I’m asking for help I know what I did was wrong but I didn’t mean it I actually love this women and I’ve had most of my best days with her. I’ve been lectured enough, I’m asking if I should give up trying because I’ve spent the past 72 hours crying and finding any sort of way to contact her and show her. She cheated on me very early in our relationship and has tried to talk to multiple diffrent guys, and I stayed with her and listened to her and we moved forward. I realize these people aren’t my friends anymore.

[boggboss]

Just because she cheated and u stayed dont mean she will do the same mate I honestly don't think u can change this unless she wants too

[Asker]

And than my friends told her lies about the situation and I can’t defend myself because there was three of them and they keep feeding her lies about the situation. I’m aware of what I did and was wrong and I’ve take full responsibility. I was able to get one last 15 minute phone call the other day and I tried showing her how sorry I am and how I’d change my ways, she told me she needs time. I’m not to sure what that means

[boggboss]

It means u wait to see what she wants

[Asker]

So I’m asking you should I wait? I’m heartbroken and I need her.

[boggboss]

Well what options do u have

[Asker]

I don’t really know. If it means waiting I will

[boggboss]

U have 2 options wait or move in only u can decide

[Asker]

I just hope if she loves me she would take me back.

[boggboss]

Thats not how love works love dont mean you can abuse there trust and they will take u back mate

[Asker]

What would you suggest I do.

[boggboss]

If u want to be with her all u can do is wait

[Avicenna]

Move on and don’t do something like that again

[cocojh]

As far as you said I think it's not your fault like you didn't kiss back right?
And I think you should try to make her understand that you love her and apologize to her even though you didn't do anything wrong. And still if you think you are capable of not doing that mistake again then you shouldn't leave her. You said your friends will make use of her and I think you should protect her so I'll say don't leave her and best of luck with that

[jahaims]

Give up. If you love someone you wouldn't cheat

[Asker]

I do love her it was a mistake and I regretted it from the second it happened.

[jahaims]

You don't know what love is. If you love someone that couldn't have happened.

[Iron_Man]

I hope you learned your lesson