I kissed another girl, Then my girlfriend kissed another guy she claims she wants to leave it in the past?

[Brrrkn]

[AaronKrieger]

I'd leave the relationship purely because it's toxic and would work on myself.

If you want to stay together, then do this:
- Reflected on why you cheated

- Try to fix what caused you to cheat in the first place, so it doesn't happen again

- Communicate to her the reason why you did, so she knows how you are individually (I don't know your reason or how she is, so I'm saying maybe on this)

- Find a way to vent the frustration you feel for her also doing it (I don't think you should do it at her, since most people aren't mature enough to objectively take that without getting hurt and trying to hurt you back)

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

You both will never solve any problems you have in a relationship. This is the way you're going to act. If you only reciprocate the other's actions, you will be pissed off, angry, and likely cheating the rest of your lives. I think you need to end it and learn from your behaviors.

[Brrrkn]

I just can’t let go I feel weak and I find it hypothetical to leave her over something like that considering I am trying to change myself for the better hell she stuck arnd for me while I was in jail after all the harsh shit I said to her through that phone she said she’s trying to do better and I said I’m trying to do better I’m jus confused that’s all Ik ts is a lot but I just have problems with letting go

[Brrrkn]

Hypocritical *

[HelpfulWoman]

so she did it as what? revenge?
fucking end it, its not worth it on either side.

[Brrrkn]

Yes but I see it as hypocritical if I leave because I would have done the same I don't know I’m jus confused I sound like an idiot rn

[HelpfulWoman]

no. what it is is completely dumb. Any people who get cheated on and stay/decide to "cheat" back to get even are fucking morons. two morons don't need to be dating each other.

[Brrrkn]

We’re just young and dumb I want to work it with her really bec she seem like she is trying now and I am too

[Iron_Man]

This will never work

[Brrrkn]

Is there no way to make it work like really after all of that that’s what it comes down too?

[Iron_Man]

It’s possible

[Brrrkn]

Is there a way u can explain on how we could move forward bec I wouldn’t sit right giving up especially when what I’m hurt about was caused by my own actions

[Iron_Man]

You’re not the question asker what’s going on

[Brrrkn]

We’ll let me start we have know eachother for a year and she’s made it very clear throughout this entire year that she wants me but I kept fooling arnd doin dumb shit then I went to jail on June 5 and she stuck around the enitre month even after all I said was harsh shit to and about her so I get out July 15 we were not tg during any of that time but she wanted me when I got out she kept making it clear she wanted me but I met up with another girl one time and me and her kissed (we were not tg) then we got tg aug 19 and that other girl was mad and texted her about it and told her it was while we were tg she hadn’t asked me yet so she felt hurt rightfully so but then she went and kissed another guy then confronted me and found out it was not when we were tg so a week later she tells me about what happened with the other guy and I see it as karma she said “I’m telling u bec I felt bad bec I can see that you are actually trying for me now so I told u” which I kinda understood so we had sex for the first time with eachother the next weekend and she has done nothing but brush the other guy off since and I have not talked to a single girl since that one altercation sorry it’s long but we go way back lol

[Iron_Man]

I don’t think you’re ready for dating now you need to get your priorities in order stand by what you say and be serious about one girl only

[Brrrkn]

That’s what I’m doing now like genuinely I just don’t know about her

[Iron_Man]

Talk to the girl find out where she’s coming from

[Brrrkn]

Ok thank you you’ve been the most help here really I will try but I won’t stick if shit happens again because I have done more dirt so there no excuse in my mind for a next time

[Brrrkn]

Have not*

[Iron_Man]

Thank you