How did you get over the worst breakup in your life?

[Anonymous]

Recently I founded out that my boyfriend moved to Europe to be with a girl who he met online. He lied to me saying he had to move to Europe because he's in the military and had to move there for work. We have been in a long distance relationship since he moved to Europe. Now he changed his facebook relationship status with his new girlfriend and heard from his friends he's getting serious and wants to settle down with her. He didn't even broke up with me I found out by him changing his relationship status with the new girl. I am so heart broken because when I'm done with school we talked about moving in together and getting married. This is the worst breakup I ever had in my life and i easily got over past exes but this hits me hard because I had strong feelings, loved him, he's the one, and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him having a family since we talked about that. How do I get over this?

[Alyssa11]

If it helps I had my worst ever break up over 6 months ago and I still feel shitty... I think everyone moves on at their own pace but here are some tips I have:

1. Disconnect from the person completely. Unfriend/block them and never ever look at their social media and what they're up to.
2. Create a change in your life, maybe like a new daily routine. I would get up at 6am every day, go to the gym and make in time for my 9am job. Then I'd finish work at 5pm, spend time with family/friends and come on GAG sometimes.
3. On that note, spend time with family and friends as much as you can.
4. Pick up a new hobby, for me it was weight lifting. Something that challenges you because that sense of accomplishment will outshine the heartbreak or pain you feel. It will also act as a release.
5. Trust that better days are coming, because they will.

Good luck hun, I know it sucks and the pain gets unbearable. We've all been through it and if so many people can come out of it as a better person, then so can you!

[ohshee]

First of all you have to love yourself, the pain hurts but you have to accept it knowledgent accepted you have to take that pain to get over it then go take a good look at yourself in the mirror and smile say you are beautiful say you will be okay cuz you will be no matter what happens bad to us in life Something Beautiful comes out of it it might not be in the moment we wanted to but it will happen get online start talking with guys let them take your mind off of things that you feel start feeling new things I say online because that way you're not strapped down or they don't bug you LOL let yourself go fill start feeling again stop feeling anything but that pain this is a time for you find part of you believe me it will happen for you and then when it does that day you will want to send him a message saying thank you for showing me who you really are because I would have been pissed off if you would have done it any later then when you get it I feel sorry for your girlfriend because you're going to do it to her too find the guy online let him make you feel something take that pain and then let it go

[beldath]

After reading a few of the comments, I'm guessing that you were his American girl, and he decided he liked the european girl better and asked for a transfer to a location closer to her.
He could have been relocated there by the military, but seeing as how it seems your communication with him was terrible, you were just a side chick.
As for getting over it, everyone is different. Some sleep around, some drink or do drugs, others take time away from men.
I highly suggest not doing long distance. It's rare for someone not to get cheated on.
When you're ready to date again, take your time. You don't need to get pregnant with a rebound that you'll realize you dispize.

[HOAAH]

So he cheated on you, lied to you, and was playing you for a while?

Good luck to his new girlfriend on being with such a character.

You are hurt and in pain. Listen to break up songs that empathize with your feelings. The current one by charlie puth and gabby... i hope.

[OlderAndWiser]

Did you two ever meet in person? If so, how many times?

[t-8900]

I stewed for 2 years and resented her for it. Then she came back to me and finally fate gave me the chance for revenge. She was recently married and trying to start an affair with me. She was texting me and I showed it to her husband, the sexting, and all that. She wanted my biological children behind his back. She has never spoken to me since.

[ariadneR]

Mourn him. Allow yourself to go through the roller coaster of feelings. And take time to cater to yourself.
I was single for 4 years before I met my current boyfriend. You have to do you and do it for however long ot takes. 4 months 4 years however long.
Good luck babe

[Anonymous]

Well was a mindless trip lot's of alcohol, substances & a lot more. Kind was a party if might say.

But found a woman got married. Have a kid. Life was good until here we go again.

So since i was ex-soldier I've decided something else since i don't care anymore I'm join a buddy who's in the private military sector and look for that specific bullet with my name on it.

Because who cares in the end. Might as well either survive or go in style.

[exitseven]

I got right back up on the horse. Went out and found a new girlfriend. I got married soon after that and one night I met up with my ex at the mall. We spoke for a while and it was nice to rub it in a little that I was married.

[RustlessRodney]

Drank a lot. Like, I mean, a LOT.


Also, I reached out and got back in touch with one of my exes that it ended well with. We’re super close friends now. Reminds me that not all women I’ve dated were terrible.

[razelove]

Be in good spirits! You might not have to get over it, did he lie about being in the military, his deployment, which part?

[Asker]

He is actually in the military. He told me he had to be transferred to Europe but that was lie

[razelove]

Ok, so then he's either UA, AWOL, on deployment, or actually did PCS, which would not be a lie. I mean, from what you're saying the communication between you two is terrible anyway. Given options 1-3, he's got to go back state-side at some point, or go through the progression of UA to AWOL, then is a fugitive, and has no rights, here or in France.

If he PCS'ed over to Europe, then he legit "transferred", you were his stateside lady, and she's his European lady. I'm willing to bet 50 bucks at 2 to 1 odds, you pay me 50 if you lose, I'll pay out 100 if you win. By the time one year passes, and he has to go back to see his family, be it for Easter this weekend, or Christmas later on, by the end of the year he's calling because he's stateside and wants to hang out, which will become a pattern, just as when he's in Europe he'll be with her, probably have other women lined up for Southeast Asia, and pretty much anywhere else that isn't a combat zone.

It is part of the job description, just like out of all the women that you're sleeping with, you marry the absolute worse of them to become a dependapotamus. Hook up with another guy in the military, it'll be patriotic, and be a great rebound. Make it a Marine this time, the only weird thing we have is we sure do love our crayons, propose to him, we aren't the best thinkers, but by god are we doers!

[Asker]

He isn't deployed. If he was deployed he would already be back 2 years ago. He's never deployed for a long time. Who knows what going on in Europe with him. I'm not sure if people from Europe can go to America due to the virus or his military won't let him. I always know that the base here from America is very strict to request time off. Since he's so serious with his new girlfriend I doubt it he will come back to me when he comes back to the states. Maybe he will bring her here with him if he wants to settle down with her. So you owe me 100 :p

[razelove]

It hasn't been a year silly, sigh, you really didn't communicate with him at all. You don't understand the basics of troop movement or what status he might be in while being "not at home"

Deployment - Your unit is going to war, routine tasks, patrols, supply drop, whatever, 6 months, a year, 2 years, you stay until another unit takes on that task and you return to garrison for training, R&R, picking up fresh boots and getting them up to speed, so on and so forth.

UA/AWOL- You straight left

Liberty/leave- You left on paid vacation with permission

PCS- You changed the base you are in garrison at when not on deployment, this can be at your request, or you can just receive orders to PCS. His story sounds pretty legit to me, whether he requested it or not, there are plenty of bases and embassies to be stationed at in Europe.

Regardless, he still has family in the US that he will have to see at some point on liberty or leave, that's when he'll be calling you up, maybe sober, probably drunk, and I'll get my 50. I'm saying minimum you'll get that call this Sunday, max by Christmas.

[Asker]

If he is actually PCS, how long will he be in Europe? Will he be there for a long time? Still haven't heard back from him since I last text him to see what is up with him and why did he changed his relationship status with another chick. He probably requested to transfer if he wanted to be with that girl he left me for

[razelove]

More likely he met her there, it isn't exactly an olympic event to pick up new women in a uniform, steady job, benefits... PCS would be until another PCS or the end of active duty. Liberty or leave he could take stateside, which is why I'm betting 50 bucks he calls again around Thanksgiving especially. Unless you have connections in admin to take a block leave overlapping the liberty from Thanksgiving to Christmas and forget about terminal leave, that isn't a holiday you take with your buddies, and right now getting into the US is a little tricky unless there's a marriage involved.

I mean, that's always possible, I really question how close you were to not know basics like this, or that his US number would not work in the EU, that's vodaphone, not verizon. Anyway, getting married is very attractive to active duty to get the BAH, most successful marriages I saw in the military were business transactions rather than for love or anything like that. I'm going to guess Rammstein air base, housing there is much more expensive than the US, and you still get some of that BAH with on base housing without having to show up for barracks formation as you aren't living in the barracks anymore.

How is it the worst break-up of your life if you know nothing about him?

[Steve1071]

I moved on and realized that it wasn’t the end of the world but merrily the beginning of new chapter in my life. Walking alone in this world isn’t as bad as people think.

[Asker]

True but its hard when you found the one and planned spending the rest of your life with them

[abc3643]

29 years, 2 months, and 18 days later and I still I haven't.

[Iron_Man]

Take time off keep busy then start all over again with a good person

[Joshua213]

Was in early days of highschool, and just started looking for a different girl and found her.

[Pepsiman23]

Turned to Jesus and lifted

[Anonymous]

I cried every day for 3 years

[Sam_The_Savage]

Karna don't have menu
You get what you deserve.

[Asker]

I got deserved to be left for someone else? Thats rude!

[Sam_The_Savage]

Did you cheat someone in past? Or say you left someone for other guy? Be honest.

[Anonymous]

do not date we are in the end times

[jerdanro]

Still working on it.

[firestormv88]

Unfortunately drug's