How long do you hold on to past relationships?

[McMillanD]

At what point do you let go and really move on?
By this I mean stop following them, stop reading and commenting on their posts, stop trying to insert yourself into their lives, and basically, just give up and move on?
What do you consider to be an appropriate amount of time to hold on?
Have you ever held on longer than was probably healthy or maybe you have been on the receiving end of this?
Tell me your experiences!
(Feel free to comment anonymously if you wish)

[CakesNCream]

The moment one of you says you don't see a future, thats when you need to start giving up and moving on. Start working on letting go.

I say "start to work on it" because ending all contact at once doesn't always work, its too much of a big change in a small amount of time, and can make it even harder than it needed to be. It has worked plenty of times for me, but not always. Listen to yourself, and whatever you need to do to slowly make that transition to completely letting go, as long as you understand that its not going anywhere and there's no hope left I dont see this failing.

[Puppystarfish23]

Never fully get over them or forgot about it I wish I could. I know longer love these men but I often think were would my life be now if I was still with them and over think everything we could have done differently even though it doesn't matter because I'm happy and in love with a good man

[MannMitAntworten]

I have never followed a girlfriends social media - not even while involved. Anyway, pretty much everyone of my relationship, when they ended, that was that. I pretty much never hear from them again. I only tried with one. She responded once and that was that as if we never happed. Time marches on...

[jshm2]

0.5 seconds or less.

Worrying and hanging on never solves anything, why bother giving it more time than it needs?

[Anonymous]

It depends on the relationship and it depends on how severe the trauma was that cut those bonds in the end (some wounds are deeper than others). Anyone saying they got over it in a day or 2 is lying, or they never cared for their partner. I do think everyone is guilty of it to some degree (Some worse than others).

Some people still talk to their exes either as friends or because they are forced too (legal matters and/or children) others keep trinkets or gifts tucked away for when they wish to reminisce about when things were better.

Others may check up on their exes just to see how they are doing, to see if they are happy or to seek forgiveness or maybe even give it...

[Gwenhwyfar]

I try to let go after a few weeks if it’s clear they’ve moved on. If I’m the one who’s moved on I let go right away.

[rgb008]

Never.
after I shed that part of my life, I am reborn.
a new woman. New mind. New skin.
but more experience and much smarter.

[exitseven]

I held onto them just long enough to work through them.

[HHHHIHHHHHIHHHH]

a lifetime. really, i still remember but there was time to move on to not be creepy

[bunnyjain10]

Well its been months since my online friends with benefits has dumped me but I don't know i am still so frustrated and depressed 😭

[Ironic_Method]

Immediately, usually. I don't follow social media as it is.

[Pogi-Paddy-2]

Everyone is different, some can get past a break up quickly, whilst others get past a break up like molasses in wintetime.☯️

[Luckycharms12]

Learn from it move on hold on to it not good for you

[Wild_Surpise]

Oh, about a month. If it’s over it’s over, so I move on.

[msc545]

At least 3 minutes after they end. Sometimes less.

[jahaims]

I don't

[In_Trance]

Let go immediately

[Joshua0213]

A day or 2

[Jmmmfi4]

I don't ever really get over it

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

long