Breakup / relationship advice (How do I stop thinking about him?)?

[Anonymous]

I' ve been dating my ex for 3 years when I met him there was another girl that he liked but she was involved with someone so he asked me out..

since we started dating this girl started calling him texting him flerting with him.. it drove me crazy I just couldnt bare it.. he also flerted back with her..

after many fights I gave him an ultimatem its either me or her.. he didn't responed but he didn't stop talking to her either. So I broke it off.

He tries to call me but I ve been strong thus far.. but now Im afraid I may have made a mistake.. I love him so much but in my heart I know he loves her and he was only with me because she was involved with someone.. how do I stop my self from replying to hom please help..

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He never cheated on me with by the way...

[Anonymous]

you say he never cheated on you, but you stated he flirted* (proper spelling, sorry, i see that you misspelled it twice) with her back. that IS cheating. you put up with this for 3 years?

you did the right thing. do you always want to be second best? just another option? because that's what you were when you were with him. sadly... just continue not talking to him. i would hate to have that pit in my stomach if i ever got back with someone like this, thinking they could cheat again or just with me because someone else was taken... how horrible.

[Asker]

It was on and off.

[boggboss]

By always remembering and keeping in your head that he never really cared about u and u was just his second choice

[boggboss]

No he didn't cheat but he made it clear u was not his priority. Any would count flirting with a girl u liked in the past cheating

[In_Trance]

Meet someone else