How long did it take you to get over the ex you were in love with?

[Anonymous]

[Paris13]

I was with my First Love for Three Years, From 13-16. I broke it Off Because I Felt He was immature. It took Me 7 Long years and Many comparisons before I Finally Moved On-----We got together a Few Weeks Before He married the One girl I had been Jealous of and Had Always Accused him Of. It was Not the Same with US and I found my Closure that Night. Hope it Didn't Disturb his own Wedding Night... xxoo

[Azura_88]

Wow that's interesting that you left him but at the same time took you 7 years to move on. It means even those in love can leave... I only breakup when my feelings dies.

[Azura_88]

Immature? Was he controlling, abusive and lied?

[Paris13]

@Azura_88 He was my Age. A Teen. Boz Tend To be More Immature at this age. xx

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xx

[jennifer_bloom]

I got over the last guy I dated within 9 months and its because I met other guys I was interested in - I did not pursue a relationship with the new guy cause he had problems in his life and I considered a relationship with him to be risky - later on I met another guy on top of the second guy so lost interest in the other guy too.

[Asker]

Lol. Okay but did you break up with anyone you were in love with

[jennifer_bloom]

Nope. I guess I loved him in a friendship way but I would not say it was romantic love, maybe infatuation

[Asker]

Oh okay.. I was really asking about exes you were in love with

[Anonymous]

I think if you were really and truly in love you never get over them completely. If the person meant a lot to you and you had a long relationship going on, it's hard to let them go. I've been broken up for about 6 months now, and it does get easier but at this point I don't really think I'll ever forget them 100%. Maybe in a few months I'll have another opinion ofcourse

[blank_expression]

The first ever took months and I was banging her girlfriend to boot and kind of taking it out on her subconsciously by handing her cold sex. After that, I had calluses and then I found that leaving was/is the best part and stills remains today for me.

[Magnum615]

I don't think you ever truly "get over" someone you genuinely loved.

I think eventually you just learn to be able to love someone else, maybe the same way, maybe in a different way.

And I think everyone gets to that stage in their own time.

I wouldn't say I'm still in love with my ex but I do still love the good memories I have of that time, and that was 7 years ago now.

[Asker]

Yea that’s what I mean by ‘get over’… not forget but, learn to live without

[Alyssa11]

We broke up in August and I only got completely over him now/June. Lol. I never wanted him back since we broke up but I just never miss him anymore or think about him when I think about sex. It would bother me if he got with someone now because he hurt me a lot and I see it as competition to some extent. But it wouldn’t bother me in the way where a different girl gets him. He’s trash and she’ll soon realise it too.

[yofuknutz]

A typical hole response

[Alyssa11]

@yofuknutz Hole?

[Azura_88]

I just can't love someone who breaks my trust, hurts me despite knowing I wanted honesty and transparency, cheats on me, etc. I just wish them to be dead and suffer more. It wasn't love.
Love is not an eternal thing that will remain no matter how much someone abuses it. Everything has limits. Life ends, so does love.

[Anonymous]

Getting over someone you love is very difficult. When I was in my early 20s I was so in love with one guy. He would come and go out of my life for years. He would date other women but never treat me with respect. This is going to sound weird but sometimes in ur 20s you see this where a guy plays the field but always comes back to the one special girl. Let’s just say that wasn’t my case. He would come back but never give me a title and deep down I always knew he was treating me poorly. That eventually ended when he got some girl pregnant and proposed. I fell in love again a couple years later. It didn’t work out though. But in my 30s I have a time clicking so I felt forced to date. I think was keeps you from moving on is hanging onto hope. Let the hope die. It didn’t work. Time to move on.

[superchan2011]

Me personally I can tell you that you never really get over a person that you loved dearly, you really just will learn eventually to continue with the business of living in spite of them no longer being a part of it. But a part of you will always miss them. You'll hold on to all the good memories that you guys made together and keep that dear to you for ever.

[Kha0tiic_xo]

4 years, now I sit here and fucking wonder why I was so upset when he didn't deserve my love anyways!

[Anonymous]

I think that all those who put here that they loved but when they broke up their love ended, they weren't really in love. Ending does not mean that love must end too. My boyfriend and I broke up 2 years ago and I remember him with love and wish him the best in life. He is the man that I loved and will always love even though we will never be together again.

[Azura_88]

So you will also stay single forever because you love him?

[libsaretards]

I never truly got over her. However, to get to the point where I can function enough to try to love again happened about two years ago. We broke up in 2011 and I made peace with being without her in 2019.

[karaspara]

Things deteriorated over around a 2 year period by the time we split it was a relief but I would say from being in love to completely fine 2 years

[acooke-13]

We broke up May 2020, I was over him by June, literally didn't care - I was over it before it actually ended.

[Asker]

You were in love with him but didn’t care when you broke up?

[acooke-13]

That's the point, I WAS in love, but had already fallen out at that point.

[Asker]

Oh okay 👌🏾

[yofuknutz]

That's how holes are they move on to the next guy with a bat an eyelash

[acooke-13]

@yofuknuts holes.

[Slartybartfast]

You don't "get over" someone you truly loved, you just learn to live without them.

[Anonymous]

Honestly I don’t think I ever will. I got cut too deep for time to fix

[Asker]

Damn

[hannny]

What happened?

[Opinion Owner]

Recently realized her best friend was emotionally abusing me for 4 years and during that time she’d try to dictate who my friends were, what my plans with her friend should be, how often I should go out with her boyfriend and this other guy in the group because she said they were my friends and a slew of other things. I brought up concerns like this to the girl I was dating and at first she backed me up and would tell her friend off, but after they moved in together the girl I dated started to become more like her friend to the point we broke up because of me not calling this group I was considered a part of my friends and people who were my friends for over 10 years decided to turn their back on me in favor of her best friend. I had plans to marry this girl and even got the design made for the ring. It really got me fucked up

[Asker]

Wow😳.. that’s messed up

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I’ve been going through hell

[Lushly]

They will always in my heart cuz still miss there company

[butterfly92]

Im still getting over him it’s been 8 years

[Asker]

Oh wow.. sorry

[yofuknutz]

Damn I thought I had bad

[Moimaris]

2 years

[Biloscothu]

3 hours of nostalgia and it was all.
I slept.

[Anonymous]

2 years

[Asker]

Thanks for being honest

[DagonbroughtMehere]

I cannot Answer this one for I have not.

[Iron_Man]

Three years

[yofuknutz]

How were you able to shake it loose

[Iron_Man]

@yofuknutz Time heals

[CallmeTheKnight]

6 months