Any way to ease into having a cheating spouse?

[Anonymous]

Friend of mine basically told me he saw a woman leave the house and his wife was naked 3 seconds later when he went inside. She gave no explanation. But he's somehow not come to the conclusion she's cheating on him.

I tried just saying that's what it sounded like and he wouldn't even consider it, even though he couldn't think of any other explanation. But if she's not being careful anymore then he's bound to walk in on it happening soon, and there's no way to not see it at that point.

I know there's not a way to make it less painful, but is there any way to get him to start realizing and dealing with it now instead of being totally blindsided later? Is there any way to push the idea slowly? He won't listen to it flat out.

[OlderAndWiser]

" is there any way to get him to start realizing and dealing with it now instead of being totally blindsided later?" That is what he is doing now. He is using denial to avoid dealing with it most of the time and likely contemplating it for short intervals until it becomes too painful. And he probably does not want to admit to anyone that his wife is cheating because it is an embarrassing position to be in.

[Asker]

Man he told me this cold open to the conversation. Like "hey this is weird right?" Why would he do that if he recognized what was happening? I hope you're right but he's done this before when something serious happened. Just didn't fucking ever cross his mind until it had to. Maybe he learned from that time though.

[OlderAndWiser]

Some people just insist in staying in denial as long as possible. It's a rather primitive way of dealing with things, but. . .

[Anonymous]

I know he's probably in denial and I didn't want to believe it when I heard it about my wife