He is a great dad to our kids, has treated me with respect, and is trying to make sure I am cared for. I asked for space to heal (with the exception of anything to do with our kids, visits etc) except he keeps messaging me. He says it's because he thinks of things and wants to get in touch while he remembers, but some of it isn't kid related. Some of it are Facebook memories and such.
He broke up with me. I said these issues can be worked on, and he said he didn't know is anything would change. He has taken full responsibility for the break up, said he noticed the way he treated me at the end wasn't ok (though I did mention I have things to work on too) and he feels awful. It wasn't abusive, he just didn't spend time with me and didn't make me/our family a priority as he wanted independence. I didn't know this, but looking back I realise I did smother him quite a bit which is a huge regret of mine. He stopped communicating with me, so things that made him unhappy I didn't know about.
I saw him last night when he came by the house. He looked awful and I truly think he has a form of depression which he's hiding and won't seek help for. I wanted to talk to him again, let him know that if he's unhappy he can come home, but he already knows that so I said nothing. It's still early stages, but im wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and their ex came back? I've tried to be supportive to him, so has his family, but he's pushing everyone away and won't talk about this. I want to help him more, but I think itll hurt my recovery if I do, and he knows I want to get back together so I think my help will look like another attempt.
He broke up with me. I said these issues can be worked on, and he said he didn't know is anything would change. He has taken full responsibility for the break up, said he noticed the way he treated me at the end wasn't ok (though I did mention I have things to work on too) and he feels awful. It wasn't abusive, he just didn't spend time with me and didn't make me/our family a priority as he wanted independence. I didn't know this, but looking back I realise I did smother him quite a bit which is a huge regret of mine. He stopped communicating with me, so things that made him unhappy I didn't know about.
I saw him last night when he came by the house. He looked awful and I truly think he has a form of depression which he's hiding and won't seek help for. I wanted to talk to him again, let him know that if he's unhappy he can come home, but he already knows that so I said nothing. It's still early stages, but im wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and their ex came back? I've tried to be supportive to him, so has his family, but he's pushing everyone away and won't talk about this. I want to help him more, but I think itll hurt my recovery if I do, and he knows I want to get back together so I think my help will look like another attempt.
