Should I show her what she missed out on?

[Anonymous]

So I got rejected, and it was so painful that I had to quit my job because I couldn’t move on with seeing her all the time at that job. She had chosen this other guy over me. And I think it’s because I was too nice to her. I literally did everything that I could to make her fall in love with me, but none of that mattered when she said she loves me but loves that other guy more. I still have friends at that job, and they told me to visit whenever I can. And I get a bunch of attention from other women. Some even hotter than her. Don’t get me wrong, I fell in love with her not just because of her looks alone, but because of who she was. So I was thinking of just getting with one of them, and bringing her to my old job in front of her. I don’t want to petty full, but what she did broke me.

[Anonymous]

Leave it alone dude. If you really love her you shouldn’t want to hurt her or seek revenge just because you got you are feeling horrible. Rule of thumb when confessing your feelings to someone is to be mentally prepared for whatever the outcome may be. ESPECIALLY if you had any idea that there was another dude in the picture that she could pick him over you. If you went into it thinking one thing would happen and it didn’t, then that’s on you. There was absolutely no way for her to turn you down that wouldn’t hurt you and make her the bad guy — you knew this. So why do you want to do something so mean to her? Why do you want to uplift yourself by tearing her down? That is not love and if that’s what you think it is then you need some psychiatric help. Do the work now to heal, and let all this shit go. Come to terms with the fact that it just wasn’t you, and that she was NOT trying to hurt you on purpose. Then maybe one day you’ll find enough inner peace that you can be unselfish and truly wish her the best.

[Opinion Owner]

**”you got” shouldn’t be in that top sentence.

[Asker]

You don’t know how hard it’s been on me. She was my last chance in finding true love. I always ended up getting hurt in the end by the girls I loved….

[Opinion Owner]

18-24? She is not your last chance, I promise. It just feels that way because you invested so much time and romanticized a future with this person. Regardless, you can’t truly say you love her as much as you do and want to hurt her for it. You just can’t. I know things are bleak right now and you are hurting, but this shit doesn’t last forever, dude. You need to accept what’s happened, work towards forgiveness and ultimately loving her enough to wish her well. That burning desire you have to seek revenge and make her hurt how you’re hurting is just selfish and evil. Don’t be that guy. On top of that, you’d feel like an idiot to go there, flaunt yourself and flirt around to get her attention and she just doesn’t care because you weren’t who she chose. You’d feel even worse, even angrier. Opt to go the more peaceful route, dude.

[Asker]

No, she’s been jealous of me and other girls at work too. But I always brushed them off because I was in love with her only. Now if I brought a girl over and showed her off, it’ll do so much damage to her, I know it will.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that’s a great plan if you want to destroy any future chance with her completely. If she’s struggling with any conflict whatsoever right now, then you will only help to fix that by pushing her further into his arms and looking like a jackass in the process. What’s worse is that it will all be for nothing. You won’t hurt any less I promise you that. You’ll walk out of that building more empty handed than you were before — no chance in hell of a future, friendship or anything with her. Still think about her constantly, still loath her rather than trying to heal from her. This sounds like a horrible ending to me. You’ll probably say you don’t care, but I promise you will once the day is over and you can only pray she forgives you. Don’t do that to yourself or to her. Stay away, and heal. You’ve gotten over every bad breakup in your past, give yourself more credit for being able to get over her — who wasn’t even a breakup.

[whirled_up_girl]

What if one of those other girls falls for you and you don’t feel the same? won't you feel bad if you break someone’s heart?

[Anonymous]

If you do weird stuff like that it might just make her think she made the right choice lol I dont exactly know how that's revenge. All you get out of sleeping with those girls is a quick ego boost, no longterm happiness

[Asker]

At this point, I don’t care. I sacrificed so much for her, and I still wasn’t good enough for her. Those girls will numb the pain.

[Opinion Owner]

I dont know the full context of your relationship or anything but I assume it's your fault maybe you're right about being too nice, that's what makes people friends, not lovers. Was probably just the wrong approach. But yeah if it helps you then go for it, I've been there before

[Asker]

She’s been hurting just as much as me, don’t get me wrong. Like she doesn’t talk to anyone anymore at work, and her eyes look like she’s been crying a lot, but if she really cared that much about me, she would’ve been with me. I just want her to regret it for the rest of her life. Because I literally have cried every single since she rejected me.

[Opinion Owner]

First of all how do you know she's crying because of you? And why would you want to make someone you cared for feel so shitty? What if she figures that this guy isn't for her and you're still available, why ruin that opportunity? You burning bridges will continue to make you feel miserable and leave you with less options. If you truly cared about her the way you typed then you would not be seeking revenge, you would leave it be, get over those feelings and look for other opportunities, for all you know she might come running back and you can make things work how you wanted to.

[Opinion Owner]

The way you're seeking revenge makes me think the girl did something horrible like cheated on you but you haven't even dated! You need to be more in control of your emotions, what your feeling is normal though, it's because you loved her so much you probably were thinking of the future with her and her rejecting you made all those feelings come back to bite you. I think before you start having those feelings about someone, you need to make sure they're mutual

[Asker]

Because I overheard her in the past, saying she’s been crying in the car because of her conflicts between me and that guy. So I know she’s been crying. I don’t know what to do anymore because I stopped talking to her too. And she’s been doing the same to me too. I feel like it’s past that point of no return. I gave my everything when I confessed to her how I feel, so I feel like there’s no reason for her to come back to me….

[Dojaphat456]

I totallllllly agree with pink anon here.
DONT BURN BRIDGES!!!
You'll be okay blue anon *hugs*

[Aerissa_Jade]

Move on, even if you show her will it change anything or matter? Let her go and move on.

[Asker]

It’ll tear her down and make her regret it. She’s already in paint, I know. I don’t want to hurt her, but I’m just saddened. She was the only girl in the world that I loved….

[Asker]

Pain**

[Anonymous]

You will have absolutely no chance with her ever again if you flaunt another girl around her.. and she’ll know you did it on purpose.

[Opinion Owner]

A guy did that to me once and it was to get a reaction out of me to see if I had feelings for him, plus I’m pretty sure she was satisfying him in one way or another, but he moved on over to her once I rejected him and that’s because he was moving to fast. It made me assume he was a player. Now it’s a fact. A player and a jerk,

[Anonymous]

It's a decent plan.

[In_Trance]

move on; she dgaf