I think she misses it but I don't want too?

[Anonymous]

OK so my close friend who I had a crush on for years (she knew) and basically now im over that hill now that it's passed.

To add to context she has a boyfriend, tonight felt weird when I went to hang out with her and a few people and it's probably just me over over thinking it but she was being kind subtly close, more than normal like in some way she was trying to pull me back in.

She was giving me a hug sort of from behind and rested her boob's on my head ( not against, on top), then short time after while we are sat down she puts her hand on my knee for a few minutes and on the taxi ride home ( not same destination) she holds my hand all the way home in taxi. I didn't want to be rude and pull away.

This was prob all platonic close friendship for her but it felt like she was trying to bring back that affection I had for her, maybe she misses me being all puppy dog eye for her but I don't want to go there again.

Don't get me wrong, the closeness was nice, especially the hand holding but I don't want my feelings for her to resurface.

So what do you think? Do you think she was trying to dangle that carrot so to speak or am I reading too much into this

Updates

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The boob's on head thing I was sat down at the time, incase you were confused

[Pοrnytail]

It does sound like this girl may have been trying to rekindle some of the closeness and affection you once had, perhaps without fully realizing the impact it could have on you. A few things to consider:

• Her behavior was overly affectionate and intimate, even for close friends. Resting her chest on your head, putting her hand on your knee for minutes, and holding hands all suggest a level of closeness beyond just friendship.

• Given your history of having a crush on her, she likely knows this type of physical contact could stir up old feelings for you. So either she didn't fully think through the impact, or she did and decided to act that way anyway.

• The fact that she has a boyfriend complicates things further. Her actions were inappropriate given the boundaries of her current relationship, even if nothing truly crossed any lines.

• At the same time, her actions may have been completely innocent and platonic on her end. Some people are just very affectionate with their friends by nature.

• Regardless of her intentions, you have every right to set your own boundaries to protect your heart and wellbeing. You don't owe her any close physical contact that makes you uncomfortable.

In summary, while we can't say for sure what her intentions were, it does sound like she pushed past the normal boundaries of friendship in a way that could potentially rekindle your feelings for her. The best thing you can do going forward is be honest about your needs, set clear boundaries, and protect your own emotional wellbeing. Hopefully this perspective provides some useful context and guidance! Let me know if you have any other questions.

It does sound like this girl may have been trying to rekindle some of the closeness and affection you once had, perhaps without fully realizing the impact it could have on you. A few things to consider:

• Her behavior was overly affectionate and intimate, even for close friends. Resting her chest on your head, putting her hand on your knee for minutes, and holding hands all suggest a level of closeness beyond just friendship.

• Given your history of having a crush on her, she likely knows this type of physical contact could stir up old feelings for you. So either she didn't fully think through the impact, or she did and decided to act that way anyway.

• The fact that she has a boyfriend complicates things further. Her actions were inappropriate given the boundaries of her current relationship, even if nothing truly crossed any lines.

• At the same time, her actions may have been completely innocent and platonic on her end. Some people are just very affectionate with their friends by nature.

• Regardless of her intentions, you have every right to set your own boundaries to protect your heart and wellbeing. You don't owe her any close physical contact that makes you uncomfortable.

In summary, while we can't say for sure what her intentions were, it does sound like she pushed past the normal boundaries of friendship in a way that could potentially rekindle your feelings for her. The best thing you can do going forward is be honest about your needs, set clear boundaries, and protect your own emotional wellbeing. Hopefully this perspective provides some useful context and guidance! Let me know if you have any other questions.

It does sound like this girl may have been trying to rekindle some of the closeness and affection you once had, perhaps without fully realizing the impact it could have on you. A few things to consider:

• Her behavior was overly affectionate and intimate, even for close friends. Resting her chest on your head, putting her hand on your knee for minutes, and holding hands all suggest a level of closeness beyond just friendship.

• Given your history of having a crush on her, she likely knows this type of physical contact could stir up old feelings for you. So either she didn't fully think through the impact, or she did and decided to act that way anyway.

• The fact that she has a boyfriend complicates things further. Her actions were inappropriate given the boundaries of her current relationship, even if nothing truly crossed any lines.

• At the same time, her actions may have been completely innocent and platonic on her end. Some people are just very affectionate with their friends by nature.

• Regardless of her intentions, you have every right to set your own boundaries to protect your heart and wellbeing. You don't owe her any close physical contact that makes you uncomfortable.

In summary, while we can't say for sure what her intentions were, it does sound like she pushed past the normal boundaries of friendship in a way that could potentially rekindle your feelings for her. The best thing you can do going forward is be honest about your needs, set clear boundaries, and protect your own emotional wellbeing. Hopefully this perspective provides some useful context and guidance! Let me know if you have any other questions.

[Anonymous]

She’s 100 percent an attention seeker. As you said, she enjoyed you hanging behind her like a puppy and now that you’re not, she wants that feeling again. If I were you, it would piss me off. She’s known you had feelings for years, and although it’s fine if she doesn’t reciprocate, she needs to keep things platonic out of respect for you and her boyfriend. Playing these mind games, touching on you, being flirty knowing she’s taken and would never give you a chance is just selfish and deplorable. I wouldn’t even engage that if I were you, it’s messed up as hell.

[Asker]

I'll try not too next next time

[Oliverlogan263]

It does sound like this girl may have been trying to rekindle some of the closeness and affection you once had, perhaps without fully realizing the impact it could have on you. A few things to consider:

• Her behavior was overly affectionate and intimate, even for close friends. Resting her chest on your head, putting her hand on your knee for minutes, and holding hands all suggest a level of closeness beyond just friendship.

• Given your history of having a crush on her, she likely knows this type of physical contact could stir up old feelings for you. So either she didn't fully think through the impact, or she did and decided to act that way anyway.

• The fact that she has a boyfriend complicates things further. Her actions were inappropriate given the boundaries of her current relationship, even if nothing truly crossed any lines.

• At the same time, her actions may have been completely innocent and platonic on her end. Some people are just very affectionate with their friends by nature.

• Regardless of her intentions, you have every right to set your own boundaries to protect your heart and wellbeing. You don't owe her any close physical contact that makes you uncomfortable.

In summary, while we can't say for sure what her intentions were, it does sound like she pushed past the normal boundaries of friendship in a way that could potentially rekindle your feelings for her. The best thing you can do going forward is be honest about your needs, set clear boundaries, and protect your own emotional wellbeing. Hopefully this perspective provides some useful context and guidance! Let me know if you have any other questions.

[Anemone978]

She just likes your attention tbh if I were you I would pull away even more now.. focus on finding someone else..

[Asker]

I am focusing on someone new and will pull away next time