Should I give my husband space or leave him?

[Anonymous]

Me and my husband have been arguing much lately and he’s been very distant. I have been trying to get closer but he’s just an asshole and pushes me away. Doesn’t text me back. If I call he ignored or he answers and he’s like what do you want. He can’t even say bye when he leaves the house. We just had a baby in June. I feel like our marriage has been going downhill. He talked about divorce a couple of weeks ago and we agreed to go to therapy to fix and now he says he doesn’t need therapy. I’m always feeling lonely lately and sad. It seems like he could care less about my feelings. Do I need to give him space? It’s so hard to not try and communicate.

[rabbitzzz]

What have you been arguing about. I don't think we are getting full picture.

[Asker]

Just everything and anything. It all started because he wanted a divorce and said I was controlling. Because I don’t trust him and get on him for everything he does. Example. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with him making a tik tok. I took his phone while he was asleep and it was on there.. and news feed typically shows what you click on. The news feed was nothing but half naked provocative videos of other women. So I woke him up at 1 am when I saw it and asked and he first lied and then admitted it and said he was using it for “work.” He’s full of crap. I can’t trust him, he can’t keep his word with me ever. He treats me like a roommate, our sex life is rarely. 1x a week if that. Sometimes once every 2 weeks. Use to be every other day a couple months ago. If I try and give him a kiss during the day he pushes me away. All those things are very hurtful

[rabbitzzz]

I mean getting mad over tiktok or instagram etc is a bit too much. But the negligence in sex life is bad. If he isn't keeping you satisfied then I don't see why you shouldn't leave him.

[Asker]

If me didn’t make me feel so insecure by being distant and not showing affection. Or if he acknowledged me more I probably wouldn’t care about those things but he doesn’t. So that’s why. I always feel like I’m the blame or walking on egg shells. I feel like I’m
The only one hurting in this marriage because he doesn’t give a fuck and I’m to weak to pick up and leave

[rabbitzzz]

Sorry to hear it. Walking on egg shells in a relationship isn't a good feeling. You have had a kid recently. And he should be there to support you in all ways possible and make you feel needed. I feels bad I know because he is the one you expect to be there for you. I think you should talk with your parents. And also arguing with him about tiktok etc won't help. Just show that you are upset.

[Asker]

I felt bad and texted him this morning saying “ I’m sorry if you feel like I have been clingy. I just feel like you avoid me. And rather than give you your space, naturally I have a habit of getting worried and doing the opposite. I just miss you. Have a good day at work”. And I get ignored again. I don’t understand how someone could show zero feelings and be so narcissistic. If I know he’s hurt I always try and fix. But it’s a one way road recently

[rabbitzzz]

Sometimes you try to make the person happy unconditionally, because you love them. And if they love you they do the same. But at some point you gotta pull the plug.

[Asker]

Should I give him space and do my own thing? What would you do

[rabbitzzz]

What makes him happy? Try to do his bidding for a while without expecting anything. If he returns love fine. But if he doesn't than you will know when to stop.

[JoyGirl]

Seat down with him when he is calm, and communicate your feelings.
Bring up couple counseling, again. Explain to him how much you want to fix your marriage, and you need him to work with you. 💜

[Luckycharms12]

You both should try work it out before you give up. Clearly no communication between you both trust is gone and both fed up

[Naughtyboy71]

If he leaves would you like to chat have fun I'm Jimmy
From Gastonia , North Carolina

[Yellovv]

You should do exackly what he does, enjoy your life and carry on... he can understand after that what he done..

[Iron_Man]

You don’t leave you work it out