My ex doesn't want to see me at all. Does that mean she still loves me?

[Anonymous]

I met this girl at the casino, she works there and I go there to play poker often. We been flirting on/off for 6 months until I finally asked her out. Then we started dating and it was crazy, it was super intense for the next 4 weeks. I felt like she was falling in love and she was a bit too much for me. I've always had commitment issues, so I felt like she was suffocating and decided to break up with her. I told her that I've always had commitment issues, that she deserves better, than I am an alcoholic. I even told her that I wasn't so much into her in the first place, that's why I didn't ask her out for the 6 months I've known before prior to dating. She didn't take it well, she started crying and said that I just used her and that I am like every other guy. She said I gave her mixed signals and I just pretended to use her for sex. Anyways, I went on holiday after the break up for 5 weeks and after I came back I went to the same casino. She saw me and she didn't look happy at all. I kept going and she said she can't handle seeing me in there. I told her I don't see the issue, that we don't have to talk or stare at each other. I am just another customer, but she said she can't handle it and she asked me to stop coming to her workplace, even though she's just a waitress. It's been 3 months since the breakup, has she not moved on already? I mean we only dated for under a month, why does she have such extreme reaction? Does she still love me?

[LilMamahustling]

She may still be in love with you or it could be that she is embarrassed by the fact that she thought you really liked her. It could be as well that you are a painful memory to her. Not everyone's reaction is going to be the same. What sounds "extreme" to you sounds like a normal reaction to me.

[Asker]

how is that normal reaction? she's over exaggerating, I mean I broke up with her 3 months ago and we didn't even date for a whole month, like 3 weeks and a half. Now I am annoyed that I can't go back to play poker at my favourite casino. I told her we can be civil to each other, just greet each other but that's it, we don't have to talk but she is just very adamant about it. Shall I respect her wishes and never return there?

[Wise4myage]

Quite the opposite I'm afraid.

[Asker]

so means she moved on?

[Wise4myage]

Yes, I think so.

[Asker]

but I think if she's asking me to never come back to her work place and she can't handle seeing me it's because she still loves me? otherwise she would have been indifferent like me?

[Wise4myage]

Then just ask her.