How do you regain feeling desirable after heartbreak?

[Anonymous]

[nachosaresexy]

Good advice from the @friendlydrugdealer.

It's sort of an internal battle of wills, to not let your mindset stay negative which will drain your energy physically & emotionally, and instead use it as motivation to focus on improving yourself. Find a new fitness activity you actually enjoy... hiking, biking, cliff diving (ok maybe not that one). Don't pass up opportunities to socialize with friends, co-workers, whatever options you have. If you take small steps that you can control, then time and natural healing will help take care of the rest.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

It takes time of rebuilding your mindset from ground up. You have to acknowledge what went right and what went wrong from your last relationship. Apply yourself to goals within your career/job, learn a new skill/ hobby, hitting the gym, etc. it’s about learning to move forward and acknowledging you deserve to be appreciated and desired because we all do

[Asker]

This is super helpful thanks!!!

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

You’re welcome and good luck

[User2324]

i think you first have to accept everything that happened. make it plain to yourself.. you know: this is what went down & acknowledge it for what it is! then take time for yourself & get to know who you were before. love yourself more than ever & try to find that confidence again 💞 then when you’re ready.. step out there, take what you learned from your experience & use it to make you stronger!

[varan69]

First thing is firts and its about you. You have to work on you no one else either make a small change start doing something new get out of the old routine. Its hard at firts i think we all have been there at least once so start the gym some running work on the goals u had before that u couldnt achieve. Go out of town maybe make those friends u made aside come for a drink a talk. Just work on u, time will heal you but dont stay alone or at home that just makes u think and depress so yea 😊

[Anonymous]

Sadly, I don’t. I didn’t feel desirable before relationships, and didn’t after. Going over a decade between relationships, getting rejected 99 percent of the time, even girlfriends rarely complimenting my looks or hesitating for compliments tells me I’m not really desirable.

[Adogdog]

You should still feel desirable because you are pretty cute.

[Asker]

Thanks!!!

[Adogdog]

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