Recovering from the heartache and disappointment of a lost love?

[DishLady]

Hi Guys and Gals!

On his grave of the famous philosopher NIkos Kazantzakis is one of his famous quotes, "I hope for nothing, I fear nothing, I am free." The perfect thought for those recovering from the heartache and disappointment of lost love...

When trying to overcome those feelings, I think of Kazantzakis and his many references to creatures of legend and creatures of nature... I visualize a bird flying towards a new and better future -- typically a phoenix librating itself from its old life to fly, full force, into the next one...

What about you? What's an inspiring literary quote or metaphor you think of when your heart is aching?

[ryanrhino]

All from Neale Donald Walsch:

“Separation breeds indifference, false superiority. Unity produces compassion, genuine equality.”

“Needing someone is the fastest way to kill a relationship.”

“Like to feel unneeded instead – for the greatest gift you can give someone is the strength and the power not to need you, to need you for nothing.”

“All conflict arises from misplaced desire.”

“When you find peace within, you also find that you can do without.”

“Sometimes the best way to love someone, and the most help you can give, is to leave them alone or empower them to help themselves.”

“[D]isagreement is merely a sign – and a healthy one – of individuality. Violent resolution of disagreements, however, is a sign of extraordinary immaturity.”

“Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you own yourself.”

“Seek only to be genuine. Strive to be sincere. If you wish to undo all the ‘damage’ you imagine yourself to have done, demonstrate that in your actions. Do what you can do. Then let it rest.”

“Whatever your choose for yourself, give to another.“Whatever your choose for yourself, give to another. If you choose to be happy, cause another to be happy. If you choose to be prosperous, cause another to prosper. If you choose more love in your life, cause another to have more love in theirs. Do this sincerely – not because you seek personal gain, but because you really want the other person to have that – and all the things you give away will come to you.”

“The very act of giving something away causes you to experience that you have it to give away.”

[DishLady]

WOW! Thanks, @ryanrhino!

[HawkPerception]

I find that I get over breakups relatively easily... within a few days at most. I've never been the one to breakup with my partners, so the logic I see is that if they didn't see my value enough to stay with me, then why would I chase that?

Although I don't have quotes that relate to heartache specifically, some of my favourite quotes can still apply to that concept. Here are a few.

"Failure is not the opposite of success. It's a part of success." -Arianna Huffington-
"Our greatest glory is not in falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius-
"Keep your face towards the sunshine and the shadows will fall behind you." -Walt Whitman-
"You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending." -C. S. Lewis-

[DishLady]

A very interesting take, as always, HP!

I’ve always considered myself resilient, but breakups, I’m told, take at least a few weeks to fully recover from. The one breakup I initiated was a longtime coming, so when it was over it felt like being in remission after having cancer… You’re fine, but feel weaker and stronger at the same time and you build strength day my day because you just have to. The breakups I didn’t initiate took longer to overcome because there’s a sense of confusion when you let someone into your heart and mind only for them to choose another path. For this I’ll say “exes and exes for a reason” — and as you said, they chose to leave, so….

Then there’s sudden loss bc of death, which hits the hardest because there’s no turning back, only the memories you’re left holding in your heart.

[BCRanger10]

I can't really think of a specific quote from a movie, book, or TV show. I think that for me, it's more a general sense of detachment.

And watch, five minutes after posting this, I'll think of something...

[DishLady]

Lol. It's ok. You can post an update. No rush. It's not coming to mind bc you're happy. I'm sure there's something in the Bible. ;)

[SugarSugarplum]

"A breakup is just a divorce caught in plenty of time" ~my Mom.

[DishLady]

Give your mom a hug. She's a smart lady.

[OlderAndWiser]

This, too, shall pass!

[DishLady]

Amen!

[legalboxers]

‘Love goes by haps; Some Cupid kills with arrows, some with traps’

[DishLady]

Oooh. Shakespeare! Niiice.

[exitseven]

"In men that are hard, intimacy involves shame and thus is precious"
Frederick Nietzsche

[strangeatcircleK]

It's hard when you lose someone that enjoys being around you and spending time with you.

Im honestly not sure... There is a saying
"I pick myself up, dust myself off, and start all over again"

Something like that

[TonyMetal___86]

Seeing miss dish dancing on this song 😂😂

https://www.youtube.com/embed/lrIKt5uDWZo

Common miss dish flix, show me some moves 💃

[Dongie]

So you're a Greek girl. That's hot dude I like that. I thought y were American.
I like you more now. Don't take it to your head. I'm kinda drunk. But I still like that. Sooo...

[Juxtapose]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/4MiqPQ1dVg4

^^ this to my bad feelings.

[moneymagnet24]

Get up. Work hard. Get rich. Learn from mistakes don't trust holes again.

[eagle1951]

only time can help

[OhLongJohnsoning]

ok, phoenix

[DishLady]

Is that your quote?

[OhLongJohnsoning]

yeah