Please help me is my boyfriend manipulating me to stay with him?

[Anonymous]

Please help! I broke up with my boyfriend like 2 months ago and I explained to him that the reason why I had to break up with him wasn’t my fault (bc of family issues) and he clearly knew this than he said “why did u hurt me…” I told him “what do you mean?” Than he said “you hurt me…” and I felt bad because I’m so stupid so I got back to him like the idiot I am. 2 months later again I told him my family issues were getting really bad than we broke up then he looked depressed I told him “are u ok? What’s wrong?” Than he told me he is gonna to self harm himself!! I told him to calm down and that everything is going to be ok but he didn’t want to listen but thankfully he finally calmed down like again like the idiot I am I got back with him because I felt bad. Should I cut him out of my life please help what can I do

[its_amelia_c]

This is not a healthy relationship. And sorry the fact you keep going back and forth is not helping. You know he is playing games and you are playing into it also. He has now done this twice.


If you truly do not want to be with him then you need to break it off and stop all contact. If you feel he really may harm himself then you need to inform his family of what he has been saying or a very close friend of his and that they need to look after him as you will be cutting off all contact and blocking him so he cannot contact you.


They will then be responsible for him not you. And you need to stay away. Stay blocked from him. If he try’s to contact you do not reply. It may just take time but he will get the point.


If it gets bad, then you need to tell someone, be it your close friends, family, and maybe even the police. Sometimes these things can get that bad.


But he is not your problem.

[Changiis07]

Do you love him? Or what is making you break up with him? Is it just family issues...
It sounds like a red flag to me if someone is threatening to hurt himself

[Pyrofox]

If he's that weak that breaking up with you causes him to self harm he's definitely not stable enough for you.

[TenkRealist]

I'm sure he's just hurt you're leaving because of no fault of his own. Just let him off easy

[Confidentandchill]

Oh gosh please get away from this person. This is dangerous behavior