I have a really good boyfriend in the sense that he treats me well and stuff like that. He’s not perfect but neither am I. He always buys me stuff even when I don’t ask him to.
The other day he showed up to my house with cookies because he said he wanted to bake them for me which was rlly nice and he had to be somewhere else so I appreciated it.
On Christmas or my birthday or valentines he’ll give me rlly nice gifts like expensive perfume and purses but I give him nice stuff too like jewelry.
Whenever we go out he’ll always pay and he’s shown up on my doorstep before and surprised me with flowers and cookies and stuff.
I really do appreciate it and I’m super grateful and always say thankful but I think he holds it over my head sometimes. I grew up spoiled and I have no problem getting things from my dad but I think mt boyfriend thinks I’m taking advantage of him when he offers to do everything.
Also I took him on a family vacation with my family last week and he didn’t have to buy anything. I still haven’t met his family after almost 2 years. I drive on all of our dates and the other day we were gonna go to a restaurant and went to chick fil a and he was like “I’ll pay for you. I always take care of you”. After I gave him his card back he said a sarcastic “thank you” for me because I forgot to say it right away and I do any other time.
Frequently he’ll be like “I buy you food and really nice things” which is so annoying because it’s like he holds it against me.
The other day we went out and he bought me lunch and I took home leftovers and he said “I hope you finished that food because money doesn’t grow on trees” and he was serious lol.
Its so annoying.
Also today he “forgot” his wallet in his car when I asked him to hangout. I think he thinks I’m taking advantage of his money or something and he doesn’t have a lot. I could be with guys who are rich. Why does he do this?
The other day he showed up to my house with cookies because he said he wanted to bake them for me which was rlly nice and he had to be somewhere else so I appreciated it.
On Christmas or my birthday or valentines he’ll give me rlly nice gifts like expensive perfume and purses but I give him nice stuff too like jewelry.
Whenever we go out he’ll always pay and he’s shown up on my doorstep before and surprised me with flowers and cookies and stuff.
I really do appreciate it and I’m super grateful and always say thankful but I think he holds it over my head sometimes. I grew up spoiled and I have no problem getting things from my dad but I think mt boyfriend thinks I’m taking advantage of him when he offers to do everything.
Also I took him on a family vacation with my family last week and he didn’t have to buy anything. I still haven’t met his family after almost 2 years. I drive on all of our dates and the other day we were gonna go to a restaurant and went to chick fil a and he was like “I’ll pay for you. I always take care of you”. After I gave him his card back he said a sarcastic “thank you” for me because I forgot to say it right away and I do any other time.
Frequently he’ll be like “I buy you food and really nice things” which is so annoying because it’s like he holds it against me.
The other day we went out and he bought me lunch and I took home leftovers and he said “I hope you finished that food because money doesn’t grow on trees” and he was serious lol.
Its so annoying.
Also today he “forgot” his wallet in his car when I asked him to hangout. I think he thinks I’m taking advantage of his money or something and he doesn’t have a lot. I could be with guys who are rich. Why does he do this?
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Maybe he knows you are used to having money spent on you which is why he feels he must. That’s his problem, not yours.
It sounds like he is trying to realise ‘how much he spends on you’. That’s nothing to do with love is it. It’s something else.
If I were you, I would start paying my way more often. Tell him he doesn’t need to keep surprising you with gifts, and to save that for special occasions.
Seems like he has an issue…
"I could be with guys who are rich"
I'd ask if you understood how that comes across, but I think that's a longshot.
I never said that to his face because I know how it would come across. But I don’t think he realizes I could which is why he keeps bringing up the money thing
I didn't think you said it to him, that wasn't my point. Even if you don't say to him you THINK it, so it will influence how you act towards him.
The thing that jumped out at me was the fact that you haven't met his family in two years? Wtf is that about?
I’ve met his mom because he and I met at work but that’s it. We used to face time a lot and he claims his dad saw me on there once and he’ll plan something for all of us but will end up just saying they’re busy or something or make up an excuse
Yeah I wouldn't be having that.
I’ve never understood why some people care about money like that. It’s meaningless. Something we totally made up. Love is real. Love is not made up. It’s what continues our survival as a species.