So I’ve been with this guy for a little over a month now. We both say we have very strong feelings for each other. We spent last weekend together and it was amazing. We spent cuddling and kissing on each other and rubbing on each other and just loving on each other. He told me 3 days ago he missed being with me. So we live very far away from each other so it would have to be a long distance relationship and we both decided we couldn’t do that bc we missed each other so much after we left each other over the weekend. We both had a very hard time leaving. So we decide 2 nights ago we were going to have to end this before we both got more attached and it would hurt. Well we ended up handling ending it terribly and we both hurt each other. We cried together in FaceTime that same night and the next morning both us crying pretty hard. Today we were talking again just kind of putting everything out there bc we were both having a hard time saying goodbye. So today when we talk I could tell he was getting annoyed and short and he told me he couldn’t stand me said that the things I said really hurt him. We continue our conversation after that. He tells me how he would take a time machine back to last wknd with me and especially if are locations could be closer so we both wouldn’t have to be hurt again. He also told me if he could at this point in his life he would move to where ever to be with me. So as we’re getting towards the end of our conversation talking ab how we felt and what not he tells me that all of his romantic feelings towards me have gone away? So tell me this we used the word love. Now I’ve never been with anybody else that used that word that acted like it just faded away so quickly. I told him that didn’t make sense. It really hurt me and I feel like he did it so that we could finally end things bc I didn’t really want to end them and I kept telling him that and that I had hope we could be together. It was like he did it so It would be over.
Yep it’s possible, it’s definitely not love but it’s something else (either a crush, infatuation or just lust). The fact the he said he loves you too quick into the relationship says it all, it was just infatuation - builds up quick and intense then it will fade away just as quick. With actual love, it’s gonna take time to slowly build up over time.
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Sounds like he understood that the two of you couldn't be together and after your conversation was finally ready to break things off completely. I think he might still like you but says he doesn't in hopes that it can make the break up permanent so that way neither of you have to deal with the BS that comes with a long distance relationship.
Usually when you observe someone for long enough, that sometimes happens. Reality rarely goes hand in hand with our expectations.
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That is called Lust. This is not Love.
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