Do feelings ever really go away?

[Anonymous]

Is there some situations where feelings always are there? like if you liked a girl and she denied you.. would you still have feelings?

[sage-of-caring]

I am head over heals for this girl, who has kind of turned me down (long stoy). My friend tells me to move on but I just cant. I don't see me ever not having feelings for her. I know my mother still loves one guy she isn't with, she knows he is bad for her but a peice of her still loves him. This still doens't prevent her from having a good relationship with my step dad. I think we are allowed to have feelings for a person so long as we don't center our lives around those feelings

but maybe I'm not a good source of adivce on this subject, its almost been a year and I'm still trying with this girl lol. I think my feelings may not go away but I hope to be able to move on despite these feelings

[Lovelesspassion]

Depends on what she denied..

But most of the time id still have feelings for her for a while after..

Why what happened? Did you deny a guy and now want him back..?

Because if that's the case there's something else you might want to know

[Asker]

haha yup you're right. what else should I know?

[Lovelesspassion]

Though the feeling are there and he may still like you.. You denied him.. So depending on what you did to deny him..

He may make you have to prove you like him.. Meaning he may like you but he may act mad.. And make you prove you like him some how.. And no it not by any sexual means.. If a guy makes you prove it by sexual acts then he's not worth your time..

I can give 2 examples..

1. The girl I like forgot about a date I asked her on.. It hurt.. Not that she didn't go.. But because she forgot

[Lovelesspassion]

So I'm upset.. And though I still like her but might not latter.. But for this id make her prove she likes me.. If she asked me out. Id ask "why" id make her explain it to me why she wants a date now but forgot befor..

2. If she freaked on me and told me know.. Basicly an obvious rejection.. Id still like her but.. Id also hate her.. If she asked me out... Id ignor her.. Shed litteraly would have to show me she likes me.. And wants me.. Texting flirty messages and a lot of sorrys.. And other

[Lovelesspassion]

Things..

I admit in this case a sexy pic of her might work.. But for most guys that might seem creepy

So what did you deny? What did he ask or do that you pushed him away?

[Asker]

he asked me if I liked him and I lied and said no. after that he would continue to try .. ask me to hang out, text me a lot and I basically made it seem like I didn't care but what he didn't know is that I really enjoyed talking to him, I loved the attention he gave me. but now its over. we barely talk. its too late. I have trust issues, I'm scared of getting hurt.. I also don't think he was a good choice for me .. :/ idk. whatever is meant to be will be.

[Asker]

also, the other things is that .. he pushed things a bit too fast for me. I barely knew him if he asked if I liked/attracted to him. it was all too new, and at that point I didn't know if I liked him or not. its so confusing .. gaaaaaaah !

[Asker]

iv been dreaming a lot about him lately.

[Lovelesspassion]

So do you like him now?

I have to ask because you said

"I also don't think he was a good choice for me"

But there's a few things you should look for if you like him..

1. Is he still friendly..

2. How long has he been trying after you said no

3. Has he ever asked if you like him again?

4. You said he asked you to hang.. Where?

Even with all that.. You may just have to tell him you lied and that you like him

[Asker]

hes more friendly with my friends. we have mutual friends. he still talks to them but not me. he tried for 4 months. he never asked me if I liked him again. he would always say "come over" and I said "d you ask all the girls your friends with to come over" and he said "actually no" and then I apologized if I sounded like a bitch

[Lovelesspassion]

Sounds like he may still be trying..

Hes trying to remain your friend giving you time to get to know him you and you him

Hes friendly with your friends because if your friends like him.. You might.. If you didn't like him your friends wouldn't be as nice to him..

How long have you known him..

Oh and truning him down when he asks you out.. Or to hang.. Makes him not sure if you like him at all.

Id say ask him out on a date.. Even a double date works.. But you must ask him. And say date.. Im

[Lovelesspassion]

Betting that should work for him

Other then like I,said.. Tell him how you feel

[Asker]

you really think he's still trying? I don't think so. he was friends with my friends before I knew him. iv known him for a year. my friends introduced me to him. I don't think I'm gonna ask him on a date.. he's really weird to me. I asked him to come to an amusement park with everyone and he said "i will if I'm not busy" that kind of made me mad because I know he never does anything haha

[Lovelesspassion]

He may or may not by be trying but its seems he still might like you

.

As for saying he'll go if he's not busy.. I've said that befor.. Its because he likes you and wants you to beg him to go.. But if it was just you and him on a date.. He'd go

[somnambulated]

I don't know if this is a good or bad thing, but if in my mind someone is done, then my feelings for them seriously plummet. If you're asking about guys specifically, I figure there could be some out there like that. But usually people can't forget about someone so easily.

[justbecause]

I think feelings greatly diminish or go away when you find someone who you care for just as much or more to replace them.

[bel42]

Feelings do go away but usually it takes quite some time for someone to completely forget about you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, feelings go away no matter if you want them to or not. There have been girls I really liked a lot but when I think of them now I could care less. Some I barely remember what they even look like

[Asker]

really? then I think you didn't truly care for them

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe your right. Thought I did at the time though.

[Asker]

why did it never work out between you and these girls?

[THAT-1-guy]

Yea it has happened tome before a girl denied me and for like 2 months after I still liked her

[Anonymous]

If I loved a man but the relationship didn't work out, I'll keep the feelings for myself and move on.