How do make this feeling go away?

[Loser94]

I keep feeling like I wasted my chances at having a good dating life or even a dating life at all. So I'm 28 still a virgin (just 12 more years and I'll be like that movie minus all the vintage toys on my room) and I feel like I've ruined and wasted and self sabotage myself when it comes to the opposite sex. Looking back now I had many many opportunities to get out of my shell and get to now girls... however I screwed myself over on that part by believing and telling myself that no beautiful high school girl would ever want to waste her time with my basket case of a life... now at 28 some would say I'm a full grown man I say no not till I have that opportunity to show a woman that I can love her to fill extents. I also see all these just amazing beautiful breathtaking women all the time and I'm just so mad too at myself for thinking that i wasn't worth anyone's time for relationships. I'm keep waking up feeling absolutely alone and yes there are a few good benefits to being single but in the long run and hindsight it would be really nice to have someone else to share my life with and to experience stuff together instead of all alone. How can I get these feelings to go away, I don't want to turn to drugs or anything to numb me i would like to be able to enjoy being single again but each day seems to get harder and harder because it just seems like it's all my own fault and I have no idea how to change or fix myself or even know where to start.

What's should I do?

[Blackmoonsns]

Man you need a confidence boost. First you need to realize women have about a hundred men in their inbox everyday trying to get with them so women have options and they choose only from the top and the best with that being said I highly suggest you just focus on yourself. Have a golden life Chase it better yourself go to the gym you need to improve yourself confidence when you're doing your own bit you're going to run into a woman sooner or later but you have to take things slow do not rush anything and trust me when I say don't rush trying to get into a relationship talk to numerous women. Some things that will help find a look that suits you something will make you stand out dress well be presentable be funny be confident I cannot stress be confident. Women respond to everything on an emotional level so if you want to reach one you have to speak to her emotionally you have to make her feel things you have to make her only have eyes for you so you have to stand out up all other men. Do not be in a woman's emotional tampon do not be the guy she turns to you for all her problems she's not going to find you in a sexual way and she's just going to use and abuse you. Do not be Moby do not be down do not be a crybaby around a woman this is a huge turn off and she'll just view you as weak. So in short just do you just find a goal or a hobby and pursue it you'll meet people as you're doing your life.

[Loser94]

There are many more factors that fall into my situation that is holding me back from doing those things. Like no money and a crap job and bad employment history. Plus I still live at home... like what girl would want a guy who still lives at home. No one that's who.

[Loser94]

What's confidence I've never had that ever when it comes to the opposite sex. I can't even tell if a girl is slightly interested in me 😅

[Blackmoonsns]

Confidence I mean you are generally happy and you love and you care about yourself when you generally love and care about yourself others will pick this up because you're a very warm and open person you're the type of man that can take on the world and you don't care what others think this is very attractive to one piece of key knowledge I can give you is women respond to everything in life through an emotion whether it's happy emotion a negative emotion or even a neutral motion it doesn't matter so women's love language is how you make them feel mentally spiritually then physically women base relationships off of the emotional bond of Love or men face them off sex and this is where a lot of confusion comes into play. If your 10 is just to go out and find a relationship I'm going to tell you right now you're going to fail. Women can smell a lonely desperate man with no self-respect a thousand miles away and they will avoid you like the plague. You have to be mysterious you have to be elusive women enjoy a man they have to work for it and you have to keep making them work for it as soon as they feel like they've got you they've lost all respect for you.

[Anonymous]

You are clearly not on your purpose. This sort of effort, thought, regret and energy should be directed to something like our life purpose. As a man this is where the majority of our energy should be. When you discover why you are here, what you were born to do, are serving others, changing the world and doing so on a daily basis, all of those concerns you've written about will go away. In fact, I'd argue that you are completely missing the point all together and simply have a wrong focus. It's much easier to focus on what could have been in the dating world, than to focus on what you should be doing right now concerning your life purpose... what you were born to do. In addition to this, when you are truly on your purpose women naturally gravitate toward you and more opportunities to rectify such issues will present themselves.

Currently you have a scarcity mindset, are focused on lack and women will sense this a mile off and stay away. But get on your purpose, and your mindset will eventually change to one of abundance.

[Shamalien]

Got a career? Car? Hobbies? Get all that shit sorted and women will wise up and snag ya

[Loser94]

Nope. Nope and nope. 28 is to late for me now to get any of that good stuff

[Shamalien]

No it’s not punk. Shake that fuckin attitude. Many men don’t start their real career till their late 20s and many have done it far later than that. Ever tried programming?

[Loser94]

What's that.

[Shamalien]

Dm me

[IHateBeingaMan]

i assume paying for sex is not an option