Is my ex leaving me on a string?

[Anonymous]

Recently my boyfriend broke up with me and the reason was that he wants to be alone. He wants to figure out what is going on in his life because I believe he has a heavy load from his family and everyone makes fun of him. Since he is the oldest, there is a lot of expectations from his family towards him and they constantly make snarky jokes about him and how he doesn't have a degree and overall make these remarks for the longest time. They all told him that if he doesn't get his shit together that I will break up with him, but instead he broke up with me. I truly love him and I'm here to help him with what he needs, but it seems that his family impacted him and caused his depression and self-harm in which has nothing related to our relationship. He told me once he gets his act and stuff together, hopefully I can give him another chance. he didn't remove our pictures on social media and he sees my posts/stories. Im wondering if I'm being held on a string at the moment, if this is a manipulative game that I can not see.

[kylee2437]

I think regardless of what it is, you have a right to move forward and find someone that is ready for you and doesn’t use his insecurities as an excuse to not want to be with you. It’s still a fresh break up so for now it’s going to be hard to move on and you will think about the “what ifs” and try to justify what is actually going on because you want to believe he is a good person, but the reality is, is time will only tell from here. In so on months, you may be over this relationship and want to move onto someone else.