Ok is my ex boyfriend using me as safety net or just haven't let go or just confuse?
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i'm sorry if I'm gonna be harsh to you but I had the same problem and I know how it ends. if he is using you whenever he feels like (calling, talking, asking favours) that's because you let him. I know that because I did that too. and that's how I learned my lesson. he maybe thinks like this 'ok, I'll go and see what's in the store and if I don't find anything interesting I'll get some food from my fridge. if I don't feel like going to the store I'm gonna grab something from a fridge'. and this time 'fridge' (being you :)) needs to be locked. he knows what's in there but he will be surprised if he finds fridge empty or locked because he thought that there's gonna be some food for him in fridge whenever he feels hungry. it might be harsh but you must not give it to him! guys are little kids that keep wanting JUST THAT cookie that they can't reach and JUST THAT toy the other kid is playing with. make him REALLY want it. start ignoring him and don't be too available. don't ask him questions, don't call him first and don't pursue him. guys come when they want to come and there's no thing in the world that will make them come if they don't feel like doing it. so next time he calls you be polite and ask him if he has something important to say and if he doesn't make some excuse that you have to go, wish him a nice day and end conversation. believe me, once the fridge is locked he'll start thinking about it even more and he's gonna wonder what sweets might be there for him :) good luck girl, stay strong! breakups are a nasty thing, I'm going through a nasty breakup myself so I understand how it must be for you
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