Ex wanted space after 8 months because we moved too fast then broke up with me because I didn’t leave him alone?

[Anonymous]

My ex just broke up with me a week ago because he felt smothered and wanted me to find my own place. Well, I wanted to keep asking questions and that made him upset so after many long texts from him and I going back and forth, he finally called it off. “I don’t care if it’s a break or a break-up, if it gets you to move out”. He said in a text. Followed by another long text about what I did wrong and how I could fix things. “No magic words will fix this, only genuine actions will either get me back in the future or land you a great guy.” This is just some stuff he said in the text. He then called me after getting upset with me and we both cried while we talked about what I could do to change. He just wants me to be on my own again like when we first started talking. It’s been a week now. I’ve packed my stuff up and am heading out of town to get my own apartment again. He is currently living at his other house until I move out. BUT, yesterday he sent me a random Snap off Snapchat of some food with the description “not feeling too well, maybe this will help me feel better”. And the day before he sent me a snap video of him golfing. But I never replied to either of them. What does this mean? Will he come back if I don’t contact him?

[HollyK21]

Maybe he will come back, maybe he won’t, but you can’t worry about that now and need to focus on yourself. I know the idea of losing him is really scary and I’m sure you’re having a hard time right now, it’s difficult not to give in and respond. But a week is no time, and nothing will have changed between you two. If he feels like you’ve lost your sense of self then do not prove him right by caving in and going right back. Do exactly what he said was the problem, and focus on creating your own life outside of a relationship with him. If you two are meant to be then you’ll find each other again sometime down the road.

[lightbulb27]

He’s freaking out… basically lacks trust and doesn’t feel safe.


That is part you and part him… you both will have to work it out or end up in the relational gutter.


The real issues are deep inside and have to be raised to surface to change anything meaningful… else problems repeat

[Guy13]

Sorry but…. Let me guess you texted him to death kind of like this one. No guy can survive that annoyance 3 times a day. Until you can reel in your emotions and stop with all the Drama then it probably will not work out well. Concise, to the point, and go about your day. 🤷🏻‍♂️