Is it possible to get her back?

Question

We are both teachers in the same country. I followed her on instagram and we started to talk. The fifth day I invited her to my home. We had dinner and while talking, I stood up and said it's too late and I will take you home. She left the house in a hurry that day I tried to fix her broken heart saying I didn't do it on purpose and she was crying. We talked again and went for a walk together. While walking she asked me whether I take alcohol and I said 'sometimes' afterthis he was angry with me because I said to her that I don't take alcohol. She said 'I can't trust you you tell a lie, you dismissed me from your home and we cannot get along. And I said'I like you and I apologized you many times and I am willing to continue but if you don't want, we can stop talking' and She said,'how easy to say that?, You don't fight just escape!. The same night I texted her saying how I like her and care her and give me a chance and she texted me,'you wrote to me while I am in a period not wanting anyone and confused, I can't trust you, take care!. I didn't write anything. She had a 20-day marriage and divorced causing that she can't trust anyone and I think she saw the same thing from me. She deleted my number and unfollow me on insta. It's sad to lose him because of my mistakes and though looks impossible, is there a way of getting her back?

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

I don't want to say it is impossible but I think it is probably time to move on, JMO.

I don't understand why you stood up and said it is too late I feel like there is more to that than you wrote? I also wonder if she had a bad experience with someone who drank too much or maybe she thought you drank more than you were admitting still. If you said online that you do not drink and then you said during the walk that you drink sometimes that would be something that, I mean I don't want to say you lied that might be harsh but it is something that might not build trust. And the third thing you noted, when she called you on it she might have wanted you to convince her that you wanted to be with her and thought you gave up too easily.

Honestly I think she had some good reasons to be unsure and I think there were a couple of opportunities to fix it that did not work out, so that is why I don't feel great about recommending you try again with her, however I only have that brief description to base my opinion on, that is why I don't want to say it is impossible. But, I think you maybe should consider the things that could have been better and take them as lessons for the next woman you date. JMO trying to be as honest as I can!!